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As a psychotherapy training supervisor, I highly recommend this book for singles, couples and those professionals open to a different slant on relationships.

Back in the early/mid 90's I was lucky enough to get this book recommended to me. I have shared it with many and continue to do so. I recommend this to anyone!!!! Better yourself, you will inturn better your relationships.
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This book was right on I reviewed it many time. I gave it four stars because the book was simple and made since. Nothing complicated. The reason it did not make 5 stars is because it only relates to people in a relationship. Not those looking.

I did not care for this book at all. In fact, I read about 50 pages from a few chapters and threw the book away. Before you consider buying this book be aware the the author focuses a lot on the subconscious mind and emotional trauma from childhood and how he feels these impact a marriage. The book spends a lot of time helping you understand your subconscious and how your upbringing has screwed you and your marriage up. This may be the right approach for some people but I found it very cumbersome and honestly quite annoying. I guess I'm just not in touch with my inner child. Books I have read and enjoyed much more are Willard Harley's Fall In Love, Stay In Love - Excellent. The best marriage book I've read. I also enjoyed the 5 Love Languages.

The author gives excellent advice on how each person can grow and learn to fulfill their own needs as well as their spouse's. Even if my marriage does not work out I will take comfort in the fact that my next spouse will get the very best me possible.

It is also an exceptionally easy read and great book about this topic I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't.

For years, I always acted like a "nice" girl and wondered why guys used me, munipulated me, and overall treated me like a doormat. After reading this book, I understood the importance of "playing the game" to weed out the losers and find the man of my dreams.

The truth is, a guy who is really into a girl will go the extra mile and court her. And I learned how to protect myself by maintaining a certain amount of aloofness and confidence. Some girls learn this naturally, others like me have to read about it. : )

I think some of the negative reviews come from people who didn't read more than the title and the first few pages, or never had to deal with, or were mistreated by, a selfish guy. Maybe they already knew how to take care of themselves or knew what they were doing when it came to dating. I learned a lot about relationships, courting, and proper behavior from this book, and I am so grateful for it.

My friend was the one who recommended this book to me. She said, "everything I want to tell women is in here!" She has guys wrapped around her pinky, and her fiance is wonderful. They have a passionate, in-love relationship, and she got to that point because she knows how to handle herself and doesn't get attached to losers. She will only take the utmost respect. I think this book teaches you how to get it from your partner.

Its a book every women will benefit from unlike many other books on the same subject...this book is simple, easy, clear, and right to the point.
Simply I LOVED IT and read it twice :)

This is a hilarious book. There are so many truths that you can find out about yourself by reading it. I have to admit, there were times that I was so shocked at what I discovered about myself that at some point my jaw dropped!

Basic training in relationship self-respect for women, wrapped in humor.
Recommend it for all women, as well as "Why Men Marry Bitches.."

Good refresher for those of us widowed or divorced, as well.

I had a friend recommend this book, as she had heard other non-married women recommend it. I think it is pop psychology at it's worst and I like pop psych usually.

If you are truly a doormat in all facets of your life, can't say no, then buy the book.

If you are single, because you have focused on your career and have a limited dating pool then don't buy the book.

If you like the book "The Rules" then again you might like it. I think dating as a grown up requires throwing out the rules, being honest and enthusiastic to meet new people. This book doesn't suggest that as a solution versus once again the single woman is told "it is all you." It could really be you, I don't know you ;-)

The book is written in a satire format which is amusing, but I read about half of it and said enough. I do have a friend who I think maybe could use the book, but I am afraid she might take it literally. So for now it lies beside my bed and I probably won't finish reading it.

I read this book a while back. I didn't read it because I wanted to know "how to seduce" my sexual interests. I read it for curiosity of what this author had to actually say. The stories and examples were interesting as well as the psychology of the book. It does a well job of classifying certain characteristics of people and it helped me become more tolerant of different personalities and reponses that usually don't coincide with my own. I also found that at the end of reading this book, it isn't a step by step guide how to seduce someone, but you feel with the knowledge you have acquired, more confident and brave to want to seduce so to speak your love interest. I felt like I could relate to a little bit of each character in the book. It made me take pride in my own thinking and actions. A reaffirmation that everyone handles situations differently. Yet they can all be effective. Just don't read for literal use.

Simply an amazing book about the subject of great seduction. If you are vaguely interested in approving your social skills, or aim for some kind of targeted success in human interaction, this would be a defintive book for you to read. Its a big book, but as Robert Greene takes along the historical learning path to seduction, you will enjoy the ride!

This book is absolutely fascinating! The historic relations to the content is helpful and provides even more insight throughout the chapters. The book wastes NO time with puffy sentences or grand introductions.... instead the author's every sentence has substance, and you begin to actually learn something right from the beginning. The book is a great tool to completely rebuild yourelf, as well as teaching you the 'art of seduction.' The book is intellegent and complex, yet it's written in a way that is easy to comprehend because it deals directly with its title. The book never loses the focus, and it is on point from beginning to end.

The chapters/sections are just flat out amazing... it's like the proverbial 'light bulb' turning on in your head.

Not only does the book support its title, but it's also a great description of the human condition in general.

Very objective - Provides factual evidence - Non-biased - And downright illuminating.

I am a self-confident, self-motivated, self-directed individual who pretty much knows exactly what to do and when to do things to get the preferred results. I am a smiling, friendly and mostly a charismatic person. At least that's how I used to be before I met this girl in my Freshman composition class.

She was very attractive and I fell in love with her. She exercised the seduction techniques mentioned in this book (such as stirring interest indirectly, creting triangles, getting close to me and giving the impression of like-mindedness etc) to make that happen and it came to a point where I was fantasizing her with me in her life. She was all that I was thinking of. I was losing grip over my life. I somehow became dependent of her. She then started coquetting and withdrawing herself. I gradually started losing my self-esteem and I was no more that charismatic person with self-confidence and self-esteem. I was doing things that she thought would ultimately would lead to our mutual pleasure...but it only made both of us empty.

Finally, one day she drove me to a isolated forest...and I thought she was going to have us do something pleasurable (finally). She just asked me to step out of the car and handed some papers and got in her car and left me there stranded. I was devastated. I started reading the papers. It was titled "The Seduction of ". It started with a character map of me...everything that she had observed about me, my weaknesses, what gave me my self-confidence etc. Then there were list of steps, almost like a manual, that described how she seduced me step-by-step. Then there were extracts from personal journal entries that described how, initially when we'd first met, she admired my quality of self-confidence and how much she wanted to have control over someone like me...primarily because of her own lack of it...and how over time she got bored of playing me like an instrument and how predictable I became etc. She didn't enjoy me anymore. So, she decided to dump me in the middle of the forest with this fact sheet. I was lying on the ground there crying my lungs out to death with limbs too weak to move. I completely lost my self-esteem and was at a point where I wanted her to accept me as her slave and was honoured by that thought. I couldn't even look up at people's faces anymore. This is the worst form of exploitation there exists. It almost feels like being eaten alive by insects from the inside and not being able to do anything about it.

Few days after this devastation, I googled and found this book. I read it and it revealed to me how someone as intellectually incompetent as herself could do something as vicious as this. It made me feel a lot better to know how exactly the worst thing ever to happen in my life happened. Now I feel that everybody should read this book...just to avoid being exploited in this way, if not for anything else.

Cautionary notes:-

As for those of you who were inspired by the cinematic quality of what happened to me and are motivated to use the techniques mentioned in the book to drain admirable qualities off someone for self-gratification, I have to warn you by letting you know why she even had to dump me like that. She, after reading the book, had to condition herself against expressing any genuine emotions and had to perfect the impression of genuineness of her made up emotions. She conceded in one of her later personal journal entries that she was in a sort of psychological trap. She started having trouble doing even simple things such as expressing genuine awe or even anger. She always felt the need to go by the rules. It made her less of a real human being and more of an imitation of an admirable human being. When I recently contacted her, she said she needs professional help because she is very confused in discerning emotions that come from within and those that are just made up. Shes messed up.

As for the testimonials of these admirable people (who practice the art of seduction) thrown around in Greenes book, I have to inform you that those people are genuine human beings with natural seductive mannerisms. The most dangerous aspect of this book is Greenes portrayal of them as people who calculated their behavior and that ability to calculate behavior as being admirable. It inspires people to look at themselves and their naturally arising feelings with belittling eyes and to try to become these admirable people with admirable statistics. It also inspires them to lower the value for their genuine emotions. In my erudite opinion, focusing on your behavior and trying to adjust it using the feedback it receives from outside rather than using ones judgment from within leads to termination of personal growth. If youre so desperate to have a reputable history of conquests when youre older as to compromise on investment in your personal growth and true exploration of human relations, then go ahead and seduce people into falling in love with you for all the wrong reasonsand become an imitation. Remember that unforeseen pleasures are often the most gratifying.

As its more tangible counterpart, this information can destroy or sustain. From one standpoint I am just glad to have a pretty well organized blueprint of human actions: a lens through which I can categorize things I see. Personally, I intend to take it no further than to add some spice to certain relationships (and to wary myself against manipulative behavior): a pretty narrow application, I admit, but I'd have paid far more than $10 to get this information.

To whom does the book apply?

Seduction is a very general term. In that sense everybody needs to know more about, or how to defend against it because you WILL be seduced at several points in your life and it is likely that at least one of those events will significantly alter your future. HOWEVER, the book itself is far too corrupting for some reader groups, and a pretty obvious subject is divulged in far more than others. Definitely, as far as teens are concerned I wouldn't have them read this directly - but in the hands of a concerned parent or someone who can see beyond the sexual overtones, or maybe even use them beneficially in their marriage {though I can imagine ruined relationships due to too brusque experimentation} it CAN {and that's really the operative word here} give you insights into the human psyche like few books you're likely to read: if you choose to, you can spend minutes meditating on each page and even more trying to link a chain between various parts of the book to a particular situation in your life. IMO, there's that much good content.

I've read my share of books: just finishing a very good 'The World is Flat', but 'The Art of Seduction' is the first that I consider a member of the 'red hot' category: my highest tier of books, to which I have not yet added one. What sets it apart from 'sequential books' that are unable to escape their content is that it provides a solid informational foundation for the thought process it instigates. That framework to me is the most valuable contribution - even if the author, and certainly some of the reviewers who got stuck on 'this book is bad because it advocates this, or that' only intended or noticed a prescribed linear applicative methodology.

There are those who, in regards to 'The Art of Seduction,' aim to
a) get too much ...

The book itself, is massive, and overwhelming - lives of famous lovers and courtesans cover only a few pages each, and the fascinating lifestyle can make the gullible experiment with things they're not ready for - indeed no one person embodies the full raucousness enclosed, but it is alluring to try to grasp it all as a reader.

b) get too little ...

To treat it as a 20th or 21st century self-help book, where the main effort expounded is in the uncovering of the procedure by the author, misses the point.

What this is, is a very interesting and well-expressed beginner/intermediate course in psychology whose practicability depends on how much you want to meditate and use to unlock certain aspects of your life: how much you get out of it depends far more on YOU than other texts. It will require a lot more imagination because the real deep learning in this scenario many times cannot be 1-to-1 applied (few are likely to live even one or two of the circumstances described, but one can definitely learn from EACH) - I believe this lack of perception is the motive for some of the negative reviews, though some of the positives probably equidistantly veer in the opposite direction (a shallow fascination with the admittedly very interesting and well narrated anecdotes.)

So for all those who want a 1-2-3 book to picking up a 36-24-36 chick, look elsewhere and spare a good literary work your equally-weighted terrible reviews. As James discovered, 'This is not much of a self-help.' Shattered expectations, however, are not equivalent to bad content.

[Self-help books are the 'cheat-sheets' for life, but Casanova didn't have a step by step program for wooing women. Knowledge and insight generate actions when inflexible techniques fall short. They both have their uses however, particularly with self-help books helping to add a focus to the 'how' that they 'why' books sometimes lack]

Every parent, teacher, youth sports coach, and general public who interact with boys should read this book. After reading it, discuss with others who read it. Women, ask questions with trusted male friends.

This is an insightful look into the male mind. My homeschool group is reading/discussing it right now and it has been eye opening to say the least. Although it has been painful to the point that most of the men in our group would not read it, it has still been a great tool in trying to understand our boys and men. I recommend this for reading to anyone who has a boy in their life.

A big support to re-convince you that teaching emotions and love to your son is a bigger asset than teaching how to fight.
Good to know that it will pay off when he is older, as a happy man.

This book is not quite what I expected. I was somewhat disappointed in the content.

This is the best book I've seen about raising boys. My husband and I both have read every single page -- it's the first parenting book we've ever really read together, and we've talked about all of it. My husband felt like he was reading about all the secret struggles he went through as a child too. This is the first book that's made me want to change the way I parent...

I found the woman of my dreams and my relationship with her was failing. I could not understand what it was that I was doing that was wrong, so I became frustrated in general, confused at how the most passionate relationship I could ever wish for was now cold and distant. I bought this book as a last chance to try to rebuild what I was losing and salvage our life together. I got tired of all the Mars and Venus references, but the info was right on. I now understand what my faults were and by applying the info my life is easier and the frustration is gone. If you have a woman that seems super sensitive and you find her getting upset and distant when you try to talk to her, this book may help you to see the changes you can make to better your life with her.

This book gives a very accurate picture of the communication issues in relationships. It also has good, implementable suggestions to improve things. However, I managed to read this through the end, for one reason only - the accuracy of the content. I think it could have been better written, to make it a more interesting reading. All the same, this is highly recommended, since it gives you good insights into the key aspect of any successful relationship - communication.

This book was very beneficial for understanding the opposite sex, and how they are "wired" differently! We had to read it for pre-marriage couseling, and it really opened our eyes about each other, and why we do those crazy things we do! It really helped me to learn that the things he does that drive me crazy are instinctive for all men, and not to take them personally. I would recommend this if your relationship/marraige has reached a rough spot, or if you are just interested in those quirky aspects of the opposite sex!

This book provided good insights into my makeup as well as insights into the opposite sex. I recomend it for anyone who intends to marry or is married.

Before you buy this book and before you start applying these principles to your life, you have a right to know about John Gray's qualifications. Both his bachelors and masters degrees were awarded by a farcical unaccredited "school" run by Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, which is difficult to pin down, but rumored to have consisted of a few desks in a hotel in Seelisberg, Switzerland. His PHD was "earned" from Columbia Pacific University, a mail-order diploma mill that was shut down by the California attorney general. I'm not saying that his ideas are all worthless; I've read the book and there do seem to be a few common sense pointers. I'm just saying approach with caution, because Mr. Gray seems to have a huge credibility gap, as far as I am concerned.

I found this book to be very helpful. I always want to please my sweetheart. When I started using what I learned in this book, my girlfriend started going into what we call a "sex coma" It is incredible to watch her expressions, hear her response and feel her have multiple orgasms. She has told me time after time that she has never experienced anything like this in her life. That makes me feel good knowing I have made her feel good!!!!!

..then it's your turn. And so this is the premise of this very enlightning book on how to pleasure a woman. The author (Kerner) really gives good advice and isn't coy about it, either. I liked the straightforwardness language and have found this book to be useful in the bedroom. Likewise, I also enjoyed The Master's Guide to Cunnilingus: How to Perform Successful Oral Sex and Provide the Highest Degree of Pleasure Possible and highly recommend it as well.

everyone should read this book. Men and women!!!! I have learned so much from this book and the author is so funny too. GOOD READ!!!!

Women differ in what they like, just as men do. Some of what other women are alleged to enjoy I definitely wouldn't. I personally find standard missionary position lovemaking much much more satisfying than oral sex. For me, the climax is much more satisfying and intense with penetration. It really bugs me when I read statements saying that women prefer oral sex or manual stimulation. That is so bogus. Sure, it's true for some women but sure as hell not for me. On the other hand this book could be good for a guy that is with a girl that does like oral sex more, but even then she might prefer standard lovemaking if the guy learned how to do that better. That would be the more useful book for a guy. This one seems like it's more about giving up trying to give her pleasure in penetrative lovemaking. It takes some women years to learn to enjoy that but boy is it worth it when you get the hang of it.

This is a great set of books. He is a great author I have now bought everyone he's wrote. After 14 years of marraige I was sure we had done it all omg I was wrong talk about pleasure after he read this. lol go for it you will not waste your money.

This book may seem a little bit old fashioned, but it makes sense. It was very insightful for me to read before getting married. Now I know what my future husband really needs and after he reads it, he'll know my needs. I learned a lot from this book and I truly believe that it will make our marriage affair-proof!

My husband and I got this book from the library and decided to buy it. It has lots of good advice and helps us understand our differences and how to make our marriage better. I would definitely recommend it.

This CD will give you great incite about yourself and what you are doing to other. I recommend this book or CD to all my friends who are in boat, or see the signs of them become weak. Awesome and great read.

It teaches about the needs of both sexes and how to communicate these needs to your spouse. It also talks about the dynamics of an affair and how to recognize and avoid the warning signals. I also recommend I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't

I enjoy the cd so I can listen in the car. I think every spouse should want to be all they can be and in turn allow their partner to be all they can be. The cd gives examples of how we "destroy" our marriages without realizing it. Amarriage takes time, effort, love and most of all God. A must have review whenever you get the chance, least you forget exactly why you got married.

...with elderly Mexican widows! Well sir if thats you,or if you are similarly having a not so thrilling sex life,this little book will help get you started on improving it! All you need to know to please a woman,even an elderly one!,is here. Good information about this most important subject! I wonder if Mrs Cheney enjoys having sex with Dick?

I purchased this book because of all the great reviews. This is a well-thought out, well-put together book. It's educational, it's fun, it's interesting, and it's useful. I really appreciate the helpful information, pictures, photography, and insights. Definitely worth buying and definitely worth reading and sharing with your partner.

This is a great book for someone who is clueless or simply wants to review. She mentions lots of great tips for both men and women, interest statistics , and definitions on the sidelines of her book. It was a quick and easy read!

This is an excellent guide for the teenager. It gives you all the basic information , very clear and detailed , but if you are looking for something more ...this book is not for you.

I have seen other books on this topic and found this one to contain better information. There is information in here that is good for beginners and those who have been going at it for years. I also recommend Sex and the Perfect Lover: Tao, Tantra, and the Kama Sutra

Say what you will about Dr. Laura's credentials, but give this book a chance. I know it is hard to swallow for self-proclaimed feminists, but the simple instructions in the book make sense! Just after reading the first few chapters, I was treating my sweet husband better! This book was frustrating because it brought to light my own selfishness, something I was not necessarily ready to confront. Basically, Dr. Laura says stop acting like a bitch and you'll reap the benefits. Love him for what he is, not what you want him to be.
I have given this book to numerous friends, my mother, my sister and mother-in-law. They all have had positive experiences after reading and re-reading it.

This is one of the most offensive books I have read about marriage--this book demeans both men and women. I am a SAHM of three kids, been married since 2000, and know that putting out and putting my needs last doesn't work. It creates resentment. I do not fit the horrible stereotype of women (bitty, nagger, manipulator) Dr. Laura writes about. The premise of the book is that women cause the problems in their marriages (pretty much all by themselves). But the truth is that it's not all a man's or a woman's fault usually. Marriage is a two-way street.

Just be prepared to know that Dr. Laura says you should shag your hubby as often as he wants it--even if he doesn't talk to you or help around the house or meet your needs. Somehow that will magically fix everything wrong in your marriage.

I know this book is going to infuriate all the feminists out there who demand women are equal to men and feel absolutely horrified at the idea of putting out to make their husband happy. But ladies, deal with her advice- it works. She makes some compelling arguments and is not afraid to state the numerous practical ideas that can help save or revitalize a marriage. It's time for women to stop being to PC about everything, and realize that if they do not want to end up divorced, they should pay attention to what Dr. Laura says. As for her degree- I've known numerous therapists and psychologists who were so far off I am quite certain they purchased their degree. So what if she is a physiologist by training? At the end of the day, she makes compelling arguments and her ideas WORK. If women are interested in saving their marriage, they'll get over their pride and all the I'm-a-woman-hear-me-roar business and follow her advice.

A must have book for future brides and wives alike! This book changed my understanding of men, especially my husband - I have made many positive changes in how I love and treat my husband!

Dr. Schlessinger's advice is right on.
If you are looking for a GREAT relationship - she's got a valuable point of view.

There is currently a war between men and women in our culture that inevitably threatens our relationships if we do not bring awareness to the fact that it exists and are not mindful of our unconscious participation in it.
Her point is very direct: on the whole, women want relationship, so since we want it, why trash men so much? I am impressed by her honesty about this volatile issue because she is really interested in people having great, supportive, respectful, loving and satisfying relationships, and is not afraid to suggest that dropping the war with men can be the answer.
I also highly recommend Ariel and Shya Kane's books: How to Create a Magical Relationship and Being Here: Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment. They address how to have a relationship that is satisfying and magical by dropping both the war with men and the need to be 'independent' when what we really want is to be in a satisfying relationship. I deeply appreciate both Dr. Schlessinger's and the Kane's refreshingly direct points of view!
Many thanks.

I went over the hell of pain reading this book. I made skyscraper of realizations, and so far made only couple of floors of improvements. I am still in 'five steps forward, four steps back' motion while working on myself. But this lifechanging book... I would recommend it to anyone - married or single, it does not matter. It also does not matter where your lack of integrity pops up - be it work, social life, friendship or marriage. It will pop up everywhere and is rooted in the same causes pointed out in book.

Instead of being purely behavioral guide, like most books are, this book, with reader's will, can help mobilize what is best in them, not just follow checkbox guide. English is my 3rd language, and book is much more difficult to read than say, 'Seven Principles' by Gotham, which was a breeze compared to 'Passionate Marriage'.

I am so grateful and proud for being able to feel and taste pure, distilled love for my wife and for other people in my life. This is unbelievable state I wish more people to know of. Our sex and lives are changing at fast pace every day in every aspect, and only I read the book (but I share my findings about myself with her if I want to (yeah, acting differentiated :) ) ). Your spouse doesn't have to read it. As Dr. Schnarch says 'it takes two to screw marriage, and one to fix it'.

It's about resolving the issues in a relationship in a way that results in great sex, rather than the other way around.I love about this book is that it isn't just about having great sex/chemistry/passion in general but about having those things with your partner.
The perfect match with this book is I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't

I have learned that it's fine to think about myself first, even during sex. This book freed us from the specter of uneven sexual desire, and battles about oral sex. I also recommend an amazing book in this topic I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't

If you're not, you need to read this book! The passionate Marriage is an excellent book written in a personable manner with excellent anecdotes that demonstrate the concepts the writer is explaining. Reading this book helped me recognize where I wasn't differentiated and where I needed to do some serious internal work to help myself. It's also helped my marriage a lot, in terms of how my wife and I communicate.

If you're having trouble in your marriage or just want to communicate better and have more intimacy, read this book. It will help both you and your partner(s) connect with each other.

While the author's knowledge and ideas are on the plus side, his free use of crude and rude...and just plain filthy...language leaves me wondering why a man with a PhD and the years of experience he has must resort to "gutter talk" to make points about relationships.
Due to this, I found myself unable to share it with my wife and just threw the book in the trash....which is, I'm afraid, where it belongs.