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SR SQUARED by Sondra Roberts Black Point Trapunto Tote

This is one of the better "self-help" books I've read.

Its an easy read, yes, but I think its direct wording makes it easier for you to self reflect and think on the points that may be relevant to you.

My mother took my copy and I read part of it to my friend while she was down in Utah! I say read it on the bus or train and think about how easy it is to pin-point the negative elements but also admit what makes you happy or not, when looking for a partner.

This book is a quick read, is insightful and well-written.

I would recommend this book to any woman dating a man who isn't as engaged in the relationship as he should be. It provides clear examples that ring true and provides realistic ways of handling difficult dating situations.

That being said, I think the material should also be supplemented with some of the other classic books on dating, such as "Men Are Like Fish: What Every Woman Needs to Know About Catching a Man" by Steve Nakamoto, which provides a lot of insight into the behavior patterns or men and women that can make or break a relationship.


Be careful what you fish for! Set your sights on the right kind of man! Don't waste your time and resources on the ones that aren't likely to make you happy.

A godsend for any person, male or female, who wants to have a truly happy and healthy relationship. This book is capable of helping you reach your full potential in love.

This is a must have book for any woman! It is great information and I think it is right on target! It gave me great insight to my own probamatic relationship.

I read this book over the weekend. I was hurting, I wanted help and a friend had recommended this one. Although I already knew the relationship was a deal breaker from the gate and it was already over, I wanted to learn something about the mess I'd gotten myself into, and self-help books can definitely open the eyes. Love may be blind, but our eyes are widest open after we've just broken up with someone. That's the best time to read this book. Strike while the pain is fresh.

Dr. Marshall looks at 5 deal breaker categories, and articulates in plain English the problems and trouble signs. She also presents personal stories (you'll be able to relate) and deal breaker scenarios that she breaks down into "work on it" or "walk away." If your relationship shows up in these pages, you've got yourself a deal breaker. I find great comfort and relief in recognizing my situation on the page--if it's common enough to be included in a mass market publication, then there are a lot of folks out there in the same situation as me! Misery loves company? No; I'm just relieved to know I'm neither crazy nor alone in this. She also gives first impressions, warning signs, more warning signs, even more warning... you get the picture. For self-reflection, she includes the section "Who chooses this type of man?" There's also a chapter called "Getting off the merry-go-round" and 11 signs that you're on one. The book rounds out with tips on negotiating a new deal and breaking the deal when you have to.

This book helped me and I'm glad I read it right at the end of the relationship, because I was able to quickly recall the ex's hurtful behavior. After awhile, this won't hurt anymore, but if I forget what I went through, I'll do it again with a different man. That's why I say read while the pain is fresh, highlight and underline heavily, and make or break the deal.

Seriously. An "OWNER'S" manual? OWNER. Right. Here in America, men do not OWN their sex partners, wives, girlfriends, or lovers. That right there should tell you how much respect this author has for women. Seriously, do not give this guy even one of your hard-earned dimes.

I enjoyed it. I think that way and very much belive in life force and energies, and that is pretty much how it is written.

I loved this book with its short little chapters covering specific things that guys just do and many women just don't get. It's a must read for any gal who seems to think her man should act or react like her girlfriends or is just plain baffled by male behavior. David Deida is genius in presenting the differences between the male and female psyche. Another recommendation for women would be to read Dear Lover: A Woman's Guide To Men, Sex, And Love's Deepest Blissalso by David Deida and The Way Of The Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Woman, Work, and Sexual Desireshould be required reading for all men!

This guy knows what it means to be a man, and he puts that into words better than anyone else I've ever heard or read. This book is a must-have for any and every woman who is confused about her man. If you read this book, you will understand what makes men tick.

I've been involved in self awareness work for 29 years. The relief I find by understanding Divine Masculine and Feminine energies is tremendous. It has given me the clarity to know what serves me best in intimate relationship, how I can best serve my partner, and how we can keep passion and love alive. I wish this book was given to every girl when she turned 16 as a "rite of passage" tool. As a Holistic Energy Healer, I use these teachings with clients to help them through crisis and gain a deeper understanding of their own true nature. This book is laid out in bite sized chunks of info that are easy to assimilate and refer to. It is a great on its own, or as an introduction to David Deida's other books.

I read this book cover to cover in 3 nights before going to sleep. I plan to read it through again, and try to use the suggestions that are given. It's not the most brilliantly written self-help book I've ever read, but she does impart a sense of being there for you and genuinely wanting to help. Some of the suggestions are very original, others, I wonder how she thinks one could ever follow through with these and not get into some major conflict with your spouse.
Ms. (Dr.?) Weiner-Davis presents herself as someone I would love to have for my own family therapist- she's very personable and funny. The book may not save my marriage, but I have learned some valuable actions that can be taken to change the unhealthy patterns a relationship can fall into.

Let me just say - I loved this book, and have loaned it to some friend who've been very impessed as well. I'm shocked it only has one review so far, and so was inspired to write another.

It's very pragmatic, action-oriented, and goal oriented. I actually took notes on it. Here's a summary of my notes(although you'll definately want the get the book, if just for the examples and short stories alone):

Instead of thinking of things he shouldn't do, think of what he should do.

Your goals should be specific and action oriented, like "hold hands in movies".

Break your goals into mini-goals

If a particular stragety doesn't work, don't do it! Keep your eyes on the cheese.

Do something different strategies:
- do something unexpected
- do a 180
- act as if...
- "easier done than said", i.e. take action

I am only one of a lot of women out there but wanted to personally say I love this book.

I call it my "man bible". I literally carry it with me all the time. I don't keep it at home because heaven forbid he would find it. I have now read the book twice and am now going through it again a third time underlining everything that I want to emphasize in my head. That way I figured I could look at these lined phrases in those emergency circumstances.

This wonderful book has really given me new eyes to look through. I will probably memorize it from cover to cover and then read some more. I have already seen some changes! This book is the best thing I have found in a long time.

The author is right and her book is a refreshing read. This is an action book and you can easily use her advice to change some of the things that need changing in your relationships. Interestingly enough, this book is on my shelf right next to Karen Pryor's Don't Shoot the Dog - both are great books on how to shape and change behavior... and they're both well grounded.

Are you bitter because everything you try to discuss with your man never seems to be heard, let alone get through? Then this is he book for you! Michele Weiner-Davis is amazing! Its like she's been there. The ending is the best, though! If your marriage is in trouble because of communication problems, this is a must have! It sure helped me! And I didn't think ANYTHING could save us!

This is a great book but not as good as i expected it to be. I would recommend it for younger women and teenagers. I am 21 but I felt like there was very little that I've learned from it. I guess I already was aware of how to spot one, and most of the red flags or signs that are explained in the book I already was aware of. Women should never stop trusting their instincts.

When I first heard that some broad named Sandra Brown had written a book warning women about men like me, I freaked out. Who did she think she was, trying to take the wind out of my sails? One day when I was at Barnes and Noble, I flipped through a copy just to see how well she had me nailed down. It's lucky that I did! I ended up reading cover to cover. I cannot overstate how much of a help this book was in putting me two steps ahead again. I'd write more, but I have a date in like 20 minutes.

This book was recommended by my therapist because I tend to fall for the same type of dangerous man... It will be helpful to spot some of the danger signs before getting into a relationship. My now EX boyfriend was chapter 3 to a T. Very good read for those getting back on the dating scene not wanting to fall for the same thing over and over again. Good luck ladies!

I have been in counseling and 12 step programs but still didn't listen to my red flags or maybe I heard a whisper to buy this book. It helped me through my confusion over a man I was dating. The book explains red flags and having healthy boundries. It gives examples of 8 types of dangerous men. The book was full of a lot of new information for me and saved me a lot of grief. This is a reccomended read for anyone.

A seemingly little known phenomenon is that perpetrators of domestic violence (DV) can pick a former DV victim out of a crowd in seconds. They then court and woe their target, who is often totally unaware of the subtle nonverbal cues she has been groomed to give off. All too often, a woman escapes an abuser, only to discover she is involved with another on the opposite end of the spectrum. The information in this book empowers women to avoid this trap and others by teaching them what to look for, early on in a relationship, to determine whether it is healthy or not and break the cycle of dangerous relationships in their own lives. Many thanks to Ms. Brown for calling women to be accountable for their choices and giving them the insight & tools to do so effectively.

This great book just got better. The second edition includes everything from the first plus some new sections on night game, set theory, and meeting women online. Do an Amazon search on The Zen of Meeting Women and scroll down till you see the 2nd Edition.

A good read.
This book is good for beginners, nice guys who have tremendous approach anxieties. It will modify their core level of thinking. I found it interesting but no match for books from PUAs like Style, Mystery.
I also found that it doesn't quite realate to true Zen which is instant enlightenment not this kind of mundane. In addition the symbol on the girl's back is Tao-YinYang not Zen.

Conclusion
If you've already read those books, you can skip this book.
If you're infected with NGS Nice guy syndrome - this is a must.

I had a review up here before but all the reviews dissappeared. What's up with that? Oh well, I'm back to say this is indeed the best book on pickup out there. The Zen stuff is just icing on the cake. The book is filled with assignments, step by step instructions that will take you from where you are now to where you want to be, whether that's in a relationship or casual dating or whatever. It really explores all the variables and gives you some solid advice on improving your game and getting results. Definitely a well written and well thought out guide.

Saw this book at my brother's and decided to give it a look. I guess if you're afraid of women or afraid of rejection, lack confidence or are just plain ugly -- well scratch that last one, no don't -- then this might be the book for you. However, in my life I've found that there are women everywhere. You can find them in supermarkets and malls, at baseball games and town hall meetings, carnivals and parades.

Heck, they're everywhere. I've spotted them at the beach, in bars, uptown and downtown. I've seen them at the airport, even saw one in my carport. Lord have mercy there are just so many of them and I've found if you say hello, most say it back. My advice, if you want a dinner date, ask a woman, if she says no, ask another, but if you're afraid or too shy to do that, then give this book a whirl, it might just help you out.

These pua books continue to impress me. Their advice is equally applicable to business. Be in the moment when you talk to someone. Go with the flow of the conversation. Do not try to anticipate or direct it. Golden. Weiss gives examples of the hows and explains the whys. Also a good mantra: notice, admire, relate when talking to women. This mantra drives an emotional conversation which leads to a mutual emotional state. An excellent addition to the literature.

This book do not provide women with enough incentive to drop off the bag of bad choices. I bought it for my daughter. She did not like the book.

using case studies, the authors teach us WHY smart women make poor choices as told from the male perspective. Learn how to break the pattern and prevent it in your own life!

I went about my life wondering why men had such power over my life and emotions, despite the fact that I have many accomplishments under my belt and am a smart career woman.

Until I read this book I did not realise that I had emotional needs I was expecting another person to meet. These needs overpowered my judgement when chosing the right guy. I also had misconceptions on what a good relationship was supposed to be like. I thought feeling anxious was normal.

This book helped me figure out why I felt the way I did for many years, and now I have control of my life. As I read the book I felt lots of excitement, because I was discovering that things can be different, and this was the knowledge that would lead me to a happier life.

I would really like to thank the authors for enlightening me, and for their empathetic tone.

Examples on how to change would have been very helpful.

After reading this book my first thought was, Where was this book years ago when i really needed it? perhaps it's never too late to dissolve self destructive patterns. My father was killed when i was young setting the course for a lifetime of bad choices. My destructive behavior began in college when took up cohabitation with an older man looking for that father figure. I compounded that fiasco by marring him. after reading this book and others i have become painfully aware that the first step to taking my life back is acknowledging the choices i have made and why I made them.

Just a great book showing all of the choices women can make, why we sometimes make the wrong ones without realizing it, and to learn how to make better ones without sacrificing our dignity. The book gives great examples to learn from!

Finally a workbook that is helpful and easy to follow. We found the fun yet challanging "homework" assignments for couples extremely helpful in enhancing our communication skills. These skills have helped promote win-win situations for both of us on a daily basis. This has definately helped our marriage. A must have for all married couples as well as a great gift idea for newlyweds.

This workbook is a valuable guide to improving couples' communication skills. It provides examples of the typical mistakes couples make when responding to each other and suggests ways to recognize and avoid those pitfalls. I particularly liked the emphasis on listening, as well as learning to respond to your partner in a constructive way. The exercises are a useful way for couples to start changing negative patterns in their communications. In sum, this is a great resource for anyone in a relationship.

This book is fun to read and actually gives you a lot of good tips you might not of thought about. After reading it, it made me value body language and other signals we subconsciously send others. Might not be life altering of something but an entertaining and insightful book.

I have tried reading Ekman, who has spent years dissecting physical expressions and what they mean. Way too dense. Cox takes a friendlier approach wtih a good ratio between photos demonstrating her points and text. (Although the multiple colors and glossy pages are often a distraction.) She makes a lot of good points, a key one of which is about clusters: if someone is really attracted to you they will give you a cluster of four vibes---arched eyebrow, dilated pupil etc. all at the same time. Too often we misread because we see one physical indication of interest and off to the races we go. Her sage advice: don't. She also solves a couple of mysteries: women and high heels? So uncomfortable right? Well high heels makes a woman's glutes protude which makes her look more fertile and thus more desirable. Oh and eye that gleam? When we are emotional we cry. When we are emotional but not enough for tears, our eyes glisten. Pupils dilate. Desire around the corner. If you are at all interested in persuasion, and how you effect others(or to observe how others effect one another) take a read.

I'm interested in the Psychology between the sexes, and this book--even though it's basically a book about flirting--tells the reader how the sexes flirt and the recipient's interpretations of a flirting technique.
"SuperFlirt" talks about nonverbal communication as well as verbal communication when interacting with a potential mate. It helps the reader identify situations in which a silent conversation may be taking place--such as arm placements, eye movements, and what someone does with his/her hands when interested in a potential partner.
This book is blunt and to-the-point without using much slang or beating around the bush. It's also quite humorous.

This book was a good read, a fun read, but did not provide any new or revolutionary information. Good for brushing up on your skills, but not for learning new ones...

This book is funny, colorful, and warm, and will put a smile on your face. The flirting techniques are basic, but for those who are just starting out, it does cover the fundamentals.

I do want to point out, though, that it's what I would call Anglo-centric. It covers the courtship style expected in the white Anglo-Saxon culture; other cultures are quite different, so this is something to keep in mind.

went and highlighted for the BF. Lot of DUHHHH moments in it. It's an okay book I think I laughed at most of it.

I bought this book because I'm in my very first relationship, and I felt totally lost and confused as to if what I was doing right/wrong or if it even mattered. But after reading it, it's targeted more towards people having problems in their relationships, or people who can't find a date, and not necessarily just people who are confused and want tips or clues.
It really focuses on good communication, and has excellent advice in that area. If you're a married couple with problems, or a two people in a long term relationship wanting to move ahead, or someone who's always picking the wrong guy, this book would be perfect for you. But if you're like me and just want to know how to convey feelings for your partner without outright saying them, or try to figure out your pertner's feelings/intentions by their actions, this book isn't for you. There's a great chapter for that in "Body Language for Dummies" and I was hoping this book would expand on that, but this book kinda skips over the whole physiological aspect of dating/relationships.

Dr. Kate uses real time language to make relationships come alive and be more than just some treacherous rite of passage. Her advice is specific, exploratory and helpful in making relationships living breathing things we need to care for in order to make them blossom and grow, or not.

I enjoyed reading this book. I have a wonderful Fiance who treats me like a princess ( something I've never had before).
Before he came along, I was always in unhealthy relationships and unfortunately when I finally left that guy and found this wonderful man I brought some of my "unhealthy stuff" into this new relationship. Needless to say he's a very patient and understanding man.

He's taught me so much about love, patience, trust, and so much more. I knew that I found the perfect man, my problem was how to not lose him.

I picked up this great book and really soaked up alot of info that I plan on using on my relationship.

Communication is definitely the key.

Would definitely reccommend this book to anyone wanting to improve their relationship.

Excellent and very well written book!!!

This book is very well written. It is written in a way that both male and female can read it with comfort. Best of all, you do not have to read it from beginning to end. For instance, my girlfriend and I have been dating for awhile. One of my weaknesses is communication (especially with a girl). I skipped to Chapter 11, without having to know Chapters 1-10. Dr. Kate Wachs talks about almost anything on relationships. You name it, she has it. Sex, Communication, Marriage, Is it real love? Is he/she compatable? In short, you cannot expect to have a perfect relationship by only reading this book, but I can guaranteed your relationship will be stronger and last longer if you practice what's being said. The bottomline is, this book is definitely worth reading if you want to learn about relationships.

My Mother actually used this method trying to conceive a son. It did not work for her. I guess that is for the best, because if it had worked I wouldn't have been born. My husband and I charted for months and followed the plan for a boy. At my 15 week scan it appears that I will be having a girl. The one great thing about trying for a boy with Shettles, is he makes it very easy to get pregnant. Good luck everyone. wishing you all happy, healthy babies.

just started researching the topic and came across the shettles method. Just had to post this because i found this PRETTY FUNNY. i read that shettles technique is 85% accurate. Well if you look at the total reviews, the amount of 1 and 2 star reviews (people that the method did not work out for) added up to 16.7%. meaning that for @ 83.3% people this method worked. I just had to post this as i think it to be EERILY close to the predicted 85% success rate. when the time comes i will definitely use this method.

This worked for us! If you want a girl: missionary position, no female orgasm, early day in cycle (day 9). Good luck!

I bought this book along with several others and found myself confused. Many things conflicted from book to book but my mom and my sister both used Shettles for their boys after two girls so I stuck with it. We had a four day cut off. We followed his directions to a T. Our third son is now 18 mo old. It is not the endall. It may work for some, but does not for others. To me, it's still a 50/50 chance. You could do nothing and still end up with the opposite gender. Good luck.

I gave this two stars because some of information in the book is useful and may help in gender swaying. However, most modern research has disproven some of his core statements, such as that X and Y sperm move at different speeds (for example, new research suggests that there may be super X-swimmers, along with regular X-swimmers, which are faster than Y sperm even). Therefore, I think his emphasis on timing is not a safe way to sway, especially if you are trying to conceive a girl. X-sperm thrive in an acidic environment but the pH of the cervical mucous rises as ovulation approaches. So, if you have a 2-4 day cut-off and any Ys happen to survive (which they do, believe me!) they will be favoured by the alkaline egg-white cervical mucous that comes with ovulation, resulting in a boy. For this reason, unless you have a very low pH right up to conception and very little fertile cervical mucous, a cut-off does not guarantee a girl. Even with added supplements and diet this is not foolproof.

My personal experience: We had a 2-3 day cutoff, followed a girl diet and did everything else recommended for conceiving a girl. We had a boy.

I would not try to sway with Shettles again. If you do, be very sure that you will be happy with a child of the opposite gender. Shettles opposites occur far more often than you may think!