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After reading this book my eyes were opened to what has been in front of me all along. This book just put everything into words so that it didn't seem so confusing. Wonderful scenarios, examples and awesome information.

I was 39 years old when I read this book. I had never been married, and had been single for several years. By my 40th birthday I had met the man of my dreams and was sporting a beautiful 2 carat diamond engagement ring! I used the tools in this book to find my best friend, soul mate, partner. I have never been so happy and so in love. Thank-you Nick Boothman for your book which taught me that I was always choosing the wrong man and how to choose the right one!!!

I sat next to Mr. Nicholas Boothman on an airliner while on vacation this summer. We talked about many things and he gave me his card. I came here and bought this book. After reading it and walking it out in my life, I am enraptured by the various kinds of positive responses that we have. I say "we" because it's all about the other person's enjoyment of me, and my enjoyment of them! Romantic or not, my choice in the proposition. I lose my self-conciousness as we become one. I am now using Nicholas' "Science of Love" as I call it here, to find the most beautiful woman in the world, to be my "Matched Opposite"! Release your fear to find LOVE. To sum this up, I say, BUY THE BOOK NOW, READ IT, and DO IT! (;D)
Go to his web at http://www.nicholasboothman.com and find out more...

Surely this book has taken niche marketing too far. I know that in the modern age companies have realised that limited sales to smaller markets can still be a cost-effective way of selling; a book (or any other product) doesn't always have to be a mega-seller to make it worthwhile from the seller's point of view. With the publication of this book, though, I think the publishers must realise they've hit the wall. Making a great first impression is all very well, but how many people with 90 minutes or less to live are going to care about building a lasting relationship?

This book is okay and does serve a purpose.This is a book to give you some guidelines on dating for men and women.Its all commen sense here.Nothing here that hasnt been printed in other dating type books.Has some ideas.

The author doesnt stay focused for long.He must have remembered things as he was writing.Its a distraction.

For men,if you want good books on how to meet women I recommend these:
1)"Understanding women" By Romy Miller.
2)How to pick up girls!" By Eric Weber.
3)"The pocket idiots guide to getting girls". By Lisa Altalida.
4)Booby trapped:men beware! The dirty seven sisters.(the author alse wrote a similar book for women).You can buy all these books right here.

I came to this book after He's Scared, She's Scared, another book by the same author that caused a fundamental shift in my life (and the lives of many others I recommended it to). Getting to Commitment was not as much as an epiphany for me, but it did contain very useful information that has made me ask some very important questions of myself (and my partner). It really spells out the work you need to do on yourself before you can fully commit to someone else.

A concise, thorough book. You are sure to find some nugget that resonates.

This book had great, basic advice and was well written. Too bad none of it applied to my situation! I found 1 paragraph about 16 chapters in and it applied to me in that it explained why I'm not having "breeding" urges~ not as if I didn't know, but now I can explain it to my therapist mother. As for my love life, this book didn't help. For most married folks, I'm sure they'd love this book.

This was a great read. Very insightful-without being overly analytical.
Got more out of this book then the 7 months with my therapist!!!

Was also great to see that it was written by someone that had actually gone thru this issue and OVERCAME!

My boyfriend was (is?) a text-book commitment-phobe. Another of the authors' books, "He's scared, she's scared," helped us both recognize the symptoms for what they were, but that book didn't offer any solutions. Finally, with this book, my boyfriend learned how to work with his fears and happily stay in our relationship. Between the two books he learned his triggers, his reactions, and how to remain calm in the face of them. We have now been together >3 years and are having a fantastic relationship! I strongly recommend this book to anyone who is a commitment-phobe but who recognizes they are, yet truly wants a committed relationship.

For anyone who lives in an urban, singles area of town, this book is worth a thorough reading into some of the bizarre and hurtful practices of those who seem to be all there and ready for a relationship (even stating so), but then suddenly cool off and disappear, leaving you to wonder what you said or did....

This book goes into the minds of the people who act in that way and offers sound advice on how they can change. It also goes over the fact that the other person involved usually *does play a role* in ignoring the signs of a relationship that is doomed. It does not victimize or persecure any of the parties, but gives a good account of the 'under the hood' stuff that may be happening.

It's a good heads up for those stuck in the land of the singledoms.

My best friend had recently ended a long-term relationship and had picked up this book for a laugh, more than anything else. After I ended a relationship with a man I thought I would marry, she loaned it to me with the words, "this book is a fun read, but you may find it a little creepy in its accuracy - I know I did." Boy, was she right!

I had agonized for months over the relationship and had even been to therapy trying to understand why I felt the way I did. My therapist was very forthright and informative, but I chose to ignore his advice (my mistake). I read self-help books (some good, some just OK) in an attempt to understand both myself and the relationship better. I finally realized that, for whatever reason, the relationship was not a healthy one for me and I ended it. A few weeks later, I read this book.

I initially found the descriptions in the book somewhat amusing. None of them really seemed to apply to my most recent relationship, so I was entertained by the brief overviews and the real-life scenarios. When I reached the middle of the book (the chapter titled "The Leech") I was suddenly stunned. The scenario and the description of how these people can make you feel were 100% right-on. The quiz showed that my ex scored well into the 'red flag' zone for this particular trait, and I was amazed to see that the brief description of the most effective way to end a relationship with someone of this trait was exactly what I had used only weeks before. After all of my introspection, I had decided that the only way he could accept a breakup was if I accepted all of the blame and reinforced to him that I was the one unable to hold up my end of the relationship (whether or not it was actually true). It worked better than I expected, which surprised me at the time, and here I was a few weeks later reading a book that told me, in half a page, to do that very thing.

Because the other traits did not pertain to my exact situation, I do not know whether the others are as accurate. I would say it is probably safe to think they are more accurate than not. I plan to buy this book so i have it as a handy reference for those times when I can't identify the source, but something just isn't quite what it should be.

Yes, the book simplifies things - it carves it out into easy-to-understand pieces, which is part of its appeal. It is entertaining - at least when the traits don't pertain to you and your significant other. It is also dead-on accurate. Some reviewers have claimed that the book tries to get women to seek out the same type of "ideal" man. This is not accurate - it encourages women to avoid truly unhealthy men...those who are not good relationship material, at least not at this particular time in their lives.

As for some reviewers' concerns about the book not addressing the underlying pathology of why the men behave this way, or why the women are attracted to these men, that would really be best for a psychologist to assist with in real-life instead of via a self-help book (the reasons can be many and vary from person to person).

Overall, it is a handy reference for the early stages in a relationship when there seems to be something you just can't quite put your finger on that keeps the relationship from feeling "right". I will recommend it to all of my single girlfriends (and I may even consider suggesting it to some of the married ones).

Tells you everything that if you listen to your gut you already know. BUT IT DOES GIVE YOU WAYS TO GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP if you didn't listen to your gut to begin with,.,, So its worth owning

There are so many books available on Amazon & the public Library that are guides for Women avoiding "bad" Men, but how many are out there that do the opposite??? I'd like to know...
This is one of the better ones, especially with its point-checklists at the end of each description, but it is easy to get the feeling that this unilateral masterpiece is just following the river rapids of similar "Ladies avoid Mr. Wrong" books out there. I'd like to see a companion volume set up as this one was (Description, sample conversation, whys & wherefores, point-count checklist, and score interpretation). Maybe the title "Pink Flags"? (Is she a gold-digger? Is she a Nomad? Is she a Daddy's Girl? etc.)
One other criticism--many of the traits listed are superficial, not globally oriented (example--Does he look downward while conversing, or do his eyes dart around? Well, is this in reference to GENERAL behavior, or does it only apply to your (current) date, or behavior toward you specifically?) This especially would apply to behavior signifying any of the more violent or extreme categories. Then it tends to generalize.

This book has helped me through a lot of bad times. Would recommend to any in a relationship that you feel is at a stand still. The guidance is helpful.

Red Flags assesses various loser dude types quickly and concisely, and that works for me. My loser dude scored 60 on the Mr. Neglecter test, and close to that on Mr. Ego. This guy is so "red" he's a stop light. For me, it's a tremendous help to know that his behavior isn't about me, so I won't blame myself. When I read the story that precedes the test, I substituted my name and his for the main characters and the similarities were eerie. I love it when that happens!

Another thing I like about this book is that the final chapter gives examples of events and phases of our lives that can make us vulnerable to red flag types. This information is helpful for all women, even those who can spot a loser a mile away.

I'm giving this book 4 stars instead of 5 because I didn't find any information that addresses the root causes of choosing red flag types. Most of us who've been through any model of personal growth know that we're attracted to certain "types" and the reasons often trace back to our family of origin. Red Flags doesn't address this and doesn't offer any reference material on the topic. Also, the book does not have an index or a bibliography.

That said, I think this is a solid purchase for any woman who's out there dating, especially as our options dwindle for various reasons. Once again, the authors make it clear that finding Mr. Right is a numbers game, so it's good to know what types we shouldn't waste precious time on.

I found this book at the public library, but it's definitely worth the purchase price.

If you want to make your marriage work, or even if you're not sure if you do or not, you must read this book. I've recommended it to so many friends and the results have always been positive. Its premise goes even beyond strictly just helping your marriage to helping your life by helping you frame your thoughts and actions.

This book gives specific ways to help couples/individuals rethink the stage of their life in their marriage. Eye opening to what can and often does happen to couples and how the issues can be avoided and/or resolved.

This book should be required reading for all married couples, and even for those engaged or considering marriage so the many pitfalls and misconceptions so prevalent today can be hopefully avoided.

This book is a giant gulp of fresh air. It's easy to read and understand without being simplistic; it's neither gimmicky nor condescending; and the advice and insights within it are sensible and do-able. So much of it rang true that I found myself wondering whether the author has been secretly hanging out at my house. He suggests that we, as a community, try to support each other's marriages, and I plan to start by referring my friends to this book.

I think the most important part of this book was the fundamental hopefulness about what might feel like a hopeless situation.

All the people below me rating this book one star are probably in denial, or are athiest. The book tells it how it really is. Just me as a guy and living life for 24 years knows that 9 out of ten guys only want sex. But girls are just as bad these days. The world is in the end times and purity becomes less and less practiced.Morality, dginity, and self respect are at an all time low. Teens love to rebel, and they love to downplay. Learning the hard way is the only way now. Parents are too busy working to pay the bills to sit and talk to there kids about the downside of pre marital sex and pregnancy.
The only bad thing about this book is that is doesn't emphasize on the fact that girls are just as bad as guys. That's not an opinion;trust me, I have lived the fast lane life and women are just as fast-no matter the age. I wish I would have wrote this, maybe then it would be a brutal honesty classic, without the bible verses that piss everyone off.

How do you keep from engaging in sexual immorality? Where exactly is the line that delineates the wrong from the right? And what about those who have already fallen into destructive relationships and behaviors? Can they yet reclaim an element of virginity...technically speaking? These are a few of the questions Hayley DiMarco confronts and tries to respond to in her latest attempt at a purity book, "Technical Virgin: How Far is Too Far?" However, for the most part, she misses the mark.

Instead of getting to the root of the problem, Technical Virgin provides only obvious, superficial answers. Instead of advising young women to guard their hearts and pursue Christ and offering specific lessons from the Bible, DiMarco merely identifies the consequences of sexual immorality and, of course, where to draw the line.

Though she tries to relate to her teenage audience, her book comes off sounding more like a research project because it is filled with dictionary definitions, sociological and psychological terms, and endless statistics. While she does give solid evidence that non-marital sexual activity has negative results and is not condoned by Scripture, she loses her credibility through sweeping generalizations and statements whose only proof is either her own personal opinion or because "that's just the way it is."

The main problem of Technical Virgin can be found in the subtitle. The question "how far is too far?" focuses too much on following a list of do's and don'ts than on changing the heart. The Bible has much to say about premarital purity, personal discipline, sexual fulfillment, and genuine love. None of those lessons are examined or shared in this book. In trying so hard to speak to younger women on a level DiMarco assumes we are locked in at, she underestimates our desire to learn more about God's perfect plan for our lives. This book offers some starting points for discussion in regard to this topic, but it does not provide the solid foundation of godly edification we young women of faith are seeking to obtain.

This is one book you must have in your personal library if you work with female youth! This book reviews what you already know & updates you on current happenings, but it also gives a new persepctive on some things I had never even considered. Like "Female Porn"!! Yes, us females find some types of movies to be "eye candy" for us. We end up having unrealistic expectations for our "guys" to be like the chic flics we so dearly enjoy watching. Get the book and read it. I had not realized all us females have fallen into this trap, not just my youth I minister to. I bought this for some of my youth, and other youth workers I know. Recommeneded it on my website too for other youth leaders to check out! This book is a must!

. . . but I can't in good conscience recommend this book.

As a father, a teacher, and a youth minister, I'm always on the lookout for something of value on the subject of moral purity, especially with regard to teens. When I first saw this book, I hoped that it could be something I could use, or at least recommend.

I'm sad to say that I cannot do so.

Why then the three stars? Because, in all honesty, the book does have some good things to say. It presents some blunt honesty with regard to sexaul relationships that many teen girls need. (As do many teen boys!) The morality presented is traditional, Biblical, Christian morality with regard to sexual expression outside of marriage. This much is good.

HOWEVER . . .

The treatment of young male teens in this book is, in my view, totally unacceptable, and borders -- more than borders -- on demeaning stereotypes. (And I say this from having 1) been a teen for seven years!, and 2) from having teenagers of both genders). Yes, it goes without saying that males in their teens and twenties have a truly boiling sex drive. No question there. But the way the book treats young males is as essentially totally amoral sex machines, incapable of any self-control, restraint, or deeper level of feelings or emotions. And this is a blatant and unfair stereotype. (If the reverse stereotype had been suggested, I wonder if this book would have ever been published.)

Yes, I am all for upholding Biblical standards of morality. Yes, I am all for encouraging our teens to live chaste and upright lives. But this book swings too wide and paints with too broad a brush. I can't endorse it.

Technical Virgin by Hayley DiMarco is another of her outstanding books that pull no punches and have totally plain talk and facts about sex which teenage girls need to know. The statistics of STDs in young teens is appalling, and DiMarco tells the straight facts about how "just messing around but not going all the way" can also cause a person to get sexually transmitted diseases, depression, and other severe health and psychological problems, in addition to the risk of pregnancy. The book is written for Christian girls and their parents but would be beneficial to all teens, male or female, to know the facts. As unbelievable as it seems to parents and older generations, a large percentage of girls from early teens are engaged in all types of sexual activity, even when they have pledged abstinance, because to these young people nothing but intercourse is considered sex. Parents, this is a MUST READ with your daughter.

This is my third time purchasing this book. Every time I loan it to someone they never return it and I have to purchase it again. Note to self: this book would make a great gift holiday, birthday, or someone coming out of a bad break up. The zodiac traits and compatibility connections are soo true, that I only date signs that I'm compatible with, and I have a very stable relationship with the one matched for me.
Thanks Thelma

THIS BOOK IS SO ACCURATE IT IS SCARY. I LOST ONE BOOK, HAS SOMEONE TAKE THE OTHER, AND NOW I AM ON MY WAY TO BUY IT AGAIN. THIS IS A MUST HAVE BOOK BECAUSE IT WILL BRING TO LIFE ALL OF YOUR RELATIONSHIPS AND SHOW YOU THE VERY THINGS THAT ARE HAPPENING IN THAT RELATIONSHIP. JUST TRY IT. IT DOES NOT DISAPPOINT!

From reading my sign and analyzing others from other signs, this books almost hits it on the spot! The author (I don't know how) really did her homework. I recommend this book to people who have a high interest on Zodiac signs in relation to love. Now don't get me wrong, not every characteristic is going to be about you.

i've had this book for many years and finally decided to write a review about it. the book is tailored towards black people so that makes it unique. i really love this book and everytime i encounter a new guy i flip to the book, i almost have it memorized on certain parts. the author is on point. i read what she said about my sign and realized that yes, she knows what she's talking about. there are tons of good examples throughout the book and solid information about each sign. it's not filled with a lot of heavy jargon, it's actually funny without being silly and useless. you can get a quick fix or read more in-depth, it's all there. this is a wonderful book to share with friends that get a kick out of astrology and are dating, engaged or married. i would love to see the author update the book, i'd be among the first to buy the revised edition!

She outdid herself with this one. I'm an astrology buff, so I know that Venus represents your love signs as well. And I not only read the interactions between sun signs, which represents your personalities, but where Venus was too.

My partner at the time had his Venus in Gemini, and mine is in Aries. I would read the book and die laughing, because she describes a Gemini-Aries relationship to a hilt! It was just like our conversations were coming straight from this book. It was too funny.

I liked reading through this book with my husband on a weekly basis. We took a long hiatus from it after the birth of our second son, but we finally finished.

It gave many suggestions on how to make things work despite the differences in men and women. Impractical expectations due to present-day media disappoints many in the marital bed. By being able to talk with each other and making your spouse happy, the selfishness we often feel can be overcome.

I only wish there were more Biblical references throughout this book as to how we should regard the other as more important than ourselves.

What a wonderful perspective on the sacredness and divine purpose of sex within marriage. This book is written well and has a good balance between practical knowledge and concepts - it will change your life and marriage if you let it, and I hope you do!

Great book! Information not learned anywhere. Must read if you are thinking of marriage, in marriage or trying to rediscover your marriage!

The McCluskeys understand and speak to the inextricable connection between body and spirit. They view sex as a form of communication, so it's natural that they focus on what's being communicated. It's at this deeper level, they contend, that most sexual problems and frustrations begin. And they can only be cured at the source-in the soul.

They avoid the degrading lingo that most people default to in discussions of sex. Each chapter begins with a character sketch of a marriage from Christopher's casebook, and the stories resonate, touching on issues all couples struggle through. My cheeks flushed as I saw my own mistakes woven through others' experiences. But the book's gentle tone makes this bearable.

With this book, the McCluskeys have set a new standard for the genre. Much more than a manual, When Two Become One speaks to and about the holy longing in each of us, a longing for God in our physical experience of each other.

I am newly married and found this book a bit disappointing. It didn't include anything on STD's, infections, birth control or address problems that you may run into. Because of these missing pieces it is not a book I would refer back to and keep on my shelf. The book does give recommendations for other book that we have read and we found those more helpful. I would recommend "intended for pleasure" instead because it is more complete.

Interesting ideas and intense - is geared for women but makes good reading if you can get your husband to read also.

I purchased this book shortly after discovering that my husband had a sexual addiction. For me, the book was too basic. If you're upset because you found an "off color" magazine in your husband's nightstand, then this book is for you. If your partner has a true sex addiction, this book seems juvenile and rediculous.

This book was AWESOME! Through all my pain I searched and compared every book out there side by side, on a tight budget I struggled to find the right one that pertained the most to me and my situation. Every book seemed to touch on different areas of the wife's pain, but this book was everything I wanted and more, not only that, but it just overall gave me the tools and knowledge I needed to work through my pain, as well as the gift of hope. To have something to reach for. It is a must read, I usually dedicate about a week to a book, but I just couldnt put it down, I read it cover to cover today, I recieved it last night!

I thought this book would be one where forgiveness was better than judgement. Unfortunately, despite how well it is written, it throws the book at any offender who may so much as appear to be sneaking. I think that it really needs to focus on communication, wound healing, and loving so much the multitude of minor infractions are forgiven, and any few serious ones are dealt with the hope of reconciliation. Many adults, whether male or female, are growing up seriously in need of serious help. Divorce should never be the first or middle option..... it should be the last. That is tough love.

I read this book for a friend and it was nowhere near as good as Breaking Free (by Russ Willingham) that my husband and I read to address the same problem. From what I gathered, Marsha Means has never herself experienced sexual betrayal, just the fear of it. She has some basic info on codependency in the book, but I would argue that the wife chapter in Breaking Free is just as practical without all the scary stories with no resolution. If your husband wants to change, read Breaking Free together and leave this one on the shelf. You might find yourself loving your husband through his not-so-secret wars, not just living with him.

The Best Kind of Loving gave this reader a new sense of respect for Black Women that previously had been absent. The author is one of the brightest minds to come along in this century, she should have her own television program to reach a greater audience. You go girl.

Essence Magazine's long-time advice columnist Dr. Gwendolyn Goldsby Grant counsels Black women on everything from finances to relationships in this book. This book offers the type of sound, no-nonsense advice you might expect to hear from your mother -- especially when she advises us not to make decisions while lying our backs!

She encourages readers to examine their lives truthfully and to try to understand the motivation for the decisions that we make. The discussion about finances talks about how we sometimes spend money that we don't have to bolster our flagging spirits.

The greatest lesson I took from the book is the importance of putting all relationships, not just romantic ones, into perspective. This book explains the importance of establishing and maintaning good relationships with our creator, ourselves, family members and significant others. This book is a classic and belongs in the library of any woman trying to make her way in this world.

Dr. Grant is definitely a God sent messenger at this hour for the Woman (not just African American, even though we need to take heed so we can get ourselves together). This book has taught me to settle for nothing but the best.( Not that i settled for less) but sometimes in this walk of life because we don't find what we are looking for when we want it, we sometimes give up on our initial hopes and dreams and start to have a pity party. and thus begin to settle for anything( Things that are not for us). This book puts a stop in this area( If you are receptive to it). For anyone tired of settling for garbage YOU NEED TO GET THIS BOOK. NO JOKE! I'm not just telling you this just for the sake of it. I'm telling you this because you are my SISTER and i want you to move to the next level. God BLess!

The only thing I questioned in the book was the 5th Chapter. I read nothing about advising women to get out of these bad relationships, but only how to deal with themselves. By staying in a self-destructive relationship how do you still get over the feelings you have by remaining in the same situation. Even though you work on yourself and change your attitudes you are still confronted with the same issues. So you have to work on dealing with yourself AND with a cheating partner. Why not advise these women to get out of such relationships? That is what really surprised me.

I have never been married before and i needed a guide to make things work. This book is it - tips and hints that you can use to follow to help your marriage work. I am a dummy and need help and this book has been a great aid to putting me on the right track with my wife. If you need a little bit of help i suggest you get a copy - it will help!

I've read a number of self-help books on marriage, and this is the best by far. The "Dummies"-style organization makes the book extremely user-friendly. I can find useful information on just about any aspect of marriage--whether it's dealing with in-laws, disputes over money, love-making issues, or dividing up household chores.

Drs. Sue and Steve Simring are not only experts on the subject of marriage and skilled writers. They also bring the in-the-trenches wisdom of their own thirty year marriage to the table. Reading "Making Marriage Work For Dummies" gives me a real sense of what it takes to keep my relationship strong, and deal with problems as they come up.

Highly recommended!

I think everyone who has been married should have a chance to read this book. It is so easy to read, so encouraging and to the point. The authors are fantastic. Because of what I have read in this book I have changed, on my own and in a very positive way. My spouse and I talked, and are going through marriage counseling. Something we would not have done if I had not read this book.

Thank you "for dummies" for making life simplier.

Politically correct to the point of self-deception.