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As an androphile, reading a book written ostensibly by and for heterophile readers, I found much to like in this pleasant, entertaining, useful, and prudent book. Androphiles capable of substituting pronouns and "like-for-like" will share my pleasures. Most of us have been, done, and repeated many of the "hedonic" and pleasureless aims of the "pleasure principle," without any pleasure. Is it possible we missed something?

Well, the authors seem to have gone through the same process we all seem to undergo. And, in this charming little book, they espouse something as strange and foreign as emotionally-involved romanticism. Wow. Seems almost antediluvian. Romance? Emotions? Pleasures? Discretion? Discrimination? Tastes? Sensual sexuality? Not for the feint of heart, or the online "hook-up" generation -- except as a way out of the hedonic treadmill.

The humor, lightness, and yet serious themes are excellently conjoined to make this little book of Don Juan's stories seem only too common, yet with opportunities the "commercial" interests may have omitted. Imagine? A modern, romantic lover who wants more than anonymous serial dalliances (and that too)? To think we have those choices? If for no other reason, to see the expanded choices available makes this light-hearted fare a charming, pleasant, and enjoyable read.

Mollod and Tesauro have done it again; a sharp, witty look at what gents 'should' and 'should not' be doing in searching, meeting, wooing, and keeping. About 1/2 of the sentences in this cook are similes, another 1/4 are metaphors. Here and there exist a few *truly* clever, witty gems. (If the "witty banter" in shows like "The Gilmore Girls" drives you nuts, this is NOT a book you'll enjoy.) A number of topics are explored, some of them more mundane than others. Overall, most of Mollod and Tesauro's advice is sage; guidance for making informed choices, and answers to minor-detail questions abound.

Recipes for adult beverages are peppered throughout the pages, often named or themed alongside the topic at hand-- however they contain no measurements, so proportions for making these drinks may require a certain amount of speculation or experimentation.

A fun read for both men and women.

'The Modern Lover' acts as the psychologically astute younger brother to its care-free inlaw 'The Modern Gentleman'. Where 'The Modern Gentleman' touches on certain subjects and provides an extremely insightful and inspiring view of the social game, 'The Modern Lover' will dive deeper into the more delicious and kinky topics of saucy romance, provocative friendship, and cheeky chocolatiers. Like 'The Modern Gentleman,' it provides a play-by-play without out a single mutter of the words "You Should..." or "Don't Do..." It's a mature, yet playful etiquette book for those ready to drop the hammer and iron chisel for sculpting their social views and pick up the detail pick, ready to face the 'Refining' task with strong and confident strikes. My only regret is that the 5 star book rating system doesn't reach into the triple digits.
Because of Jason Tesauro and Phineas Mollod, I have gone from lazily and royally sending my relationships into oblivion to vibrantly balancing three, completely open, relationships at once and with wiggle room to spare. BUY THIS BOOK and BUY 'The Modern Gentleman,' I promise, the rebar reinforcement that your confidence receives will be priceless.

Face it honeys, this is no Jaws 2. Oh sure, you can't throw a baklava in Boston and miss someone who loved that stinker, but I'm here to tell you that THIS particular Part II is the tops. That's right: just when you thought it was safe again to be a boorish lout, drink PBR straight from the can and finally frame your Looney Toons artwork, think again. These guys'll put you right in no time, quaffing Opus One and wooing stewardesses like you were Wilt Chamberlain. Can't get on the mailing list for young and lusty grads of the Ivies? This is a close second. So drop the attitide, drop the 10 bucks, and open the door to a brand new you. Thank you, Messers Mollod and Tesauro, you rhubarb rubbers you.

Diggler that is. Before reading this gem, I was playing with Ewok dolls on my Mom's living room carpet. A few words of wisdom from Mollod and Tesauro, and I've dropped the drip and gained me some hip. I champagne-sabered my way to hipsville, daddy-o, and there's no turning back. New Dad? This is the bible. Ringless carouser? You're right at home. Hipster with a bent for Bordeaux? Hop in the tub, the water's fine. Pricele$$!

Tracey Cox's book entitled Hot Sex: How to do it was probably one of the most useless books I have ever read. Not only does the author take the time to explain even the most basic of sexual positions and situations, but time is spent explaining other aspects such as sexually transmitted diseases and performance problems. I think it is obvious to most people that if the man can't perform, he either needs to get some drugs or hot sex is never going to happen. And as for sexually transmitted diseases, please. I think the generation that this book is targeted towards has heard enough about std's to last them until they die of AIDS. I have to agree that there are some aspects of the book I liked. Her catagories on how to vary sex, and how to increase comfort level for those who are less experienced are rather interesting. Overall, I would have to say that one can gain all the useful information from this book by flipping to the good sections. So you may want to just pass over this one and move on to reading that may teach you something.

A visually stunning book that is more coffee table than reference book. Yet it still manages to be informative and fun to a degree that so few of these genre of books ever are, as it maintains a level of lightheartednesss where appropriate. I loved lines like "a mouthful of spunk has the same amount of protein as an average sized pork chop". Brilliant.
It also doesn't frighten it's readers by over intellectualizing sex, instead keeping it both real and accessible to all. It deals with sexual problems with both sensitivity and an understanding that offers geniune and new ways out of the darkness.
It has REALLY improved mine and my girlfriends sex lifes no end.

I liked this book so much I bought it for a friend, and plan on buying its sister book Hot Relationships. however, if you're looking for detailed information on homosexual relationships, sex toys, explaining sex to your kids, anal sex, or/and how intercourse isn't the end-all be-all of sex, I recommend The Guide to Getting It On by the Goofyfoot Press. But I would definitely start with this one, if you've never read a sex book and don't mind the hetero-centrism, as The Guide is so packed with info it can be a bit overwhelming.

This book wa ok to read, but I found it to contain nothing dramatic and nothing that most adult people don't already know.

Not only does the author take the time to explain even the most basic of sexual positions and situations, but time is spent explaining other aspects such as sexually transmitted diseases and performance problems. I have to agree that there are some aspects of the book I liked. Her catagories on how to vary sex, and how to increase comfort level for those who are less experienced are rather interesting.

Overall, I would have to say that one can gain all the useful information from this book by flipping to the good sections while browsing at ...or whatever the choice bookstore is. So you may want to just pass over this one and move on to reading that may teach you something.

I have to admit I purchased this book because of the hot title and it was a little bit of a let down because of it. That being said, I still thought the suggestions and the advice given in this book was good. It was my own fault what little disappointment I felt after reading this book. I was expecting something a little more??? Well you know, right?

women and men are Tail tellers some can do the job better than others.
I defiantly recommend this book for future gold diggers.
They have the need to know everything about men.. so they can dig very deep..
I'm not talking emotions.
its seems that the author has great dislike for men

If you are looking for help to understand men... this is not the book for you

The book is filled with stories and detailed interpretations of how lying by men to women works. It is not driven by "hate" of men, as "A Reader" suggests, but by the desire to reveal and understand. The men emerge (almost) as much as victims of their lies as the women.

As a currently, and very happily, married woman, I found this book quite helpful. Does it have a slant? Well of course it does. Writing a book about the top 101 lies women tell to men would be another whole book, and it's a book I'd like to see if it was written in the same manner. However, this book had a specific, clearly stated purpose, and it held to that purpose. In addition, because of the scope the book covered in depth, it helped me explain what I thought about some of my mate's behaviour in concrete terms, when before I had only fuzzy impressions of why his shutting me out so he could "be responsible" hurt. The author does not hate men, she hates lying in general and the hurt lying causes specifically. Reading through it can help head off serious problems before they start, and ending the relationship is not always the recommended course the author suggests. Many times, honesty about the problem and what is going on is enough, and this book provides good, solid methods for beginning that conversation.

And as for the idea that people, men and women alike, don't lie about STD's, ha. I am a pharmacy technician, and I can't tell you how many patients I've had who got an STD from an unfaithful and dishonest lover. There is a gentleman of my acquaintance who is currently dying of AIDS because his lover neglected to mention an HIV positive test for over a year. Even one out of twenty lovers who lie about this is enough to kill you. Don't take the chance.

The truth is ... we all lie. The trick is deciphering when the lies are too much and the degree of maliciousness behind them. No one can make someone tell the truth ... we are only responsible for ourselves ... but we can do our due diligence to spot selfish lies as fast as possible - and avert disaster.

I saw this in Border's tonight, and read a chapter...or, should I say, I read a bit here and there. The bile started to rise in my throat, and I had to put it down.

This book is disgusting on lots of levels. Look at her list of lies, first off. Gee, let's equate "I'll call you." to lying about "I tested HIV negative." First of all...WHAT?!? These aren't even close to being on the same level. Secondly, someone would have to be on a level of depravity that most women will never even encounter to lie about a lethal illness. Third, people who knowingly spread the disease have been convicted in court, or have been ordered to pay substantial sums to victims. In other words, it's a huge no-no, and most men wouldn't dream of doing that.

Women are all victims, and men are ALL liars. Women don't lie. Men do. And we know this because Madonna said it in the Emmy-winning film, "Body of Evidence" (chortle). You should worry about every word from your man's mouth, because none of it is true. If you're in a relationship with a married man...poor you! He's lying that he'll leave his wifey. We don't know what we're doing as we girls play the game of love- but, you'd better believe that we will be constantly lied to, since we're all stupid.

All the good reviews here are coming from women who have a lot of hate and bitterness in their hearts. This is a great book if you have issues that you don't want to deal with, since you can just pick and chose things to be mad at so that you can bounce when the time comes.

Yes, men are different. That doesn't mean that they're on some sort of mission to make life a living hell for every woman. Personally, I believe in projecting a loving, kind, and friendly air...and I meet guys. The guys I do meet sometimes are acting stupid or shady, but...gee...I DEAL WITH IT. I talk it out. Things may work out. They might not. I dropped the "MEN SUCK!" act about a year ago, and it's made a difference in the quality of men that I'm meeting. I'm still not married, and haven't found the perfect match yet, but I know it's out there, and I have an open, friendly heart- along with a sharp brain and good intuition so that I don't get screwed.

Yeah, buy this book if you want to put out the exact right energy to attract liars and cheats. Takes one to know one, after all!

Very dated graphic wierd nasty not as nice as the "kama sutra" or "everything you wanted to know about sex" maybe good for a teenager to scare them off sex forever...

This is a very good book, and came in very good condition! Shipping was speedy and the price was great!

Em & Lo make addressing sex (and more importantly, all issues surrounding sex) clever, entertaining and approachable. As someone who enjoys reading about and talking about sex (almost!) as much as having it, I found this book to be immeasurably helpful when attempting to broach the subject of sex with more conservative, shy or inexperienced friends. While most similar books come on too strong, (you know, the kind you hide in the back of the bookshelf...) The Big Bang is funny enough, informative enough, edgy enough and just offensive enough to make it a great book to leave on the coffee table or to give to friends without fear of getting a disgusted facial expression in return. If you've never owned a book on sex before, this is the best place to start. If you've owned a thousand sex books and don't own this one, you're insane.

There are only three species that indulge in sexual activities for pleasure, amongst which, humans probably differ most significantly in two factors. First, they have the most complex social constructs involving them; and second, they are probably the most hypocritical about it. Although people have explored it at depth and in as creative manners as can be thought of, few have dared to speak of it as this book. Those new to sex, it enriches with a plethora of information and guides them to make their journey as pleasurable as ecstasy gets. Those already in deep waters, it shows them ecstasy of several unexplored areas. And those explorers out there, it takes them on a tour, connecting them with several thoughts, lucidly put together. Ditch your inhibitions with your Dad's copy of 'The Joy of Sex' and dive in. To the authors: Applause n Kisses.

I thought I knew it all. I have been reading about sex for the last decade or more and gotten a chance to prqactice some of what I know, but this book really made me think twice. For one thing, it is written like the hip textbook you never got to read in high school. It also has a chapter on everything you could want to know about and then some. While I loved the fact that it gave some ideas of things to do, it was more the facts and basic information that I found really helpful. I loved this book so much, I have loaned mine to a good friend and bought a copy for another friend of mine. Because when it comes to sex, you can never know enough.

For such a slender book, it's packed full of tips and tricks to make sex not just better, but more fun and more exciting. I bought a larger book with a similiar title that didn't have even half of the same useful advice in it. I highly recommend this title for anyone looking to spice up their love life.

I actually never heard of this write befoer I purchased the book but she is an in your face type writer. She pulls no punches and tells it as it should be told.
This book is great for the novice or for someone who wants to spice up their sex life.

everything was great about this purchase, the shipping speed, condition of the book, and the price i bought it for!

The cover and title itself, at first glance, could lead one to believe this was another in a long line of Oprah-esque literary campaigns designed to scare the crap out of our kids not to mention us....their parents!
Unprecedented in it's examination of past as well as current issues of Childhood Sexuality as well as an almost non-debatable presentation of facts, legal and/or otherwise, this is proving to be the benchmark of books on this delicate subject.
To her credit Judith Levine has taken the proverbial 'Slings and Arrows' for daring to write "Harmful to Minors" and will probably spend the better part of her career defending it's position. This reviewer never thought a book like this could ever be written much less published and I never thought I would be able to say this but ` It's about g*# damn time!'
This is coming from a proud parent and a loyal son. Now before some of you go off on some wild tangent about `sexualizing our kids' understand this. Sex and experimentation happens whether we want to believe it or not. It happens at various ages with various ages at various times in various places with various people. One of the `Bromides' I've always lived by is `I don't care who's wrong or right, I care what's wrong or right!' and after reading her book on this subject, I have come to the conclusion that Judith Levine is RIGHT! I am a proud father of two girls and I am both my girl's `Daddy'. Levine's common sense attitude, backed by her meticulous research of facts will find readers asking questions they were either afraid to or refused to ask before. As expected it had its early detractors. Those detractors could do nothing to prove her wrong. They operated with scare tactics and no facts. What a real 'Halloween Coalition' her detractors turned out to be. The extremists of both parties have trashed Levine. People from America's 'Far Right Wing', including it's most vocal ally, the Christian Right's very own 'Eva Braun', Dr. Laura Schlessinger, to the far Left Wing represented by a cavalcade of forgettable names, closely associated with the frigid/asexual/female chauvinist wing of the radical feminist movement. There hasn't been an alliance of this `weirdness' since the 1992 Anti-GAT/NAFTA campaign!
Ironically what I appreciated first was what I appreciated the most; The Title. A passerby catching a glance of just the books title would certainly come to the conclusion that it was some Pseudo-Clinical study of childhood sexual encounters, chocked full of stories of molestation and violence and predictably backed up by law-enforcement statistics proving things like the site of an exposed female breast to anyone under the age of 18 (check your local jurisdictions for Age-Of Consent) will cause that person to become a sexual predator, a deviant, a nymphomaniac or perhaps even go blind.
After delving into it one finds that it is anything but a scare mongering, painfully statistical treatise. While Oprah Winfrey, Pat Robertson and others continue ranting, all the while, steeped in the paranoia of `group-think and waiting for the call to go on the next witch hunt, you may want to take your hopefully open mind into an area not talked about much these days; The positive effects of childhood sexuality. While not an endorsement for `sex for any age with anyone' she does make an excellent and seemingly airtight case for a relaxation of certain `Prurient American ' sex-laws and attitudes. She also thankfully promotes a long overdue examination of our antiquated thoughts and ideas about sex as it relates to our children. It also may be one of the cleverest title-ings for a non-fiction work in the last 20 years. Whether or not you get the 'dipped in sarcasm' humor of the title you will, if read with an open mind, get a sense of the current state of childhood sexuality with it's almost 'Stalinistic' roundups and persecutions of caring parents and bright kids. She provides a common sense approach to dealing with issues of masturbation, sexual experimentation, child/child contact, adult/child contact and fear of sex as it relates to our views as adults. Reviled in some sectors, revered in others, Levine's major accomplishment is perhaps the one thing she didn't foresee. With the release of `Harmful To Minors: The Perils of Protecting Your Children From Sex', she has cracked open the door to a long over-due dialogue on sex and has done so in a way that forces us to face it, discuss it and finally deal with it.... and that my friends, is the most important thing of all.

Mike D.Jones, Sacramento, California

This excellent book provides the ammunition needed in the fight against those that wish to raise the age of sexual consent to 21. Already thousands of children and adolescents have been forced to register as sexual offenders for committing harmless acts such as groping or even pre-marital kissing.

Is consensually kissing someone a couple years under an arbitrary age of consent is really "sinful"? Is it really the job of government to punish this sin with a lifetime sentence?

All thinking people must not fall for the absurd "save the children from sin" bandwagon movement that is spreading sexual dysfunction and fascism. A fascist police state becomes absolutely necessary when the age of consent is higher than puberty. The natural age of consent is puberty. The ultimate goal of the child purity movement is to outlaw premarital sex. Outlawing premarital sex will criminalize far too many of those that we claim to want to protect.

Judith Levine, Harmful to Minors: The Perils of Protecting Children from Sex (University of Minnesota Press, 2002)

I have read, over the years, a handful of books that I consider to be truly important, books that look at a particular aspect of our society, how it has damaged us (perhaps irreparably), and how we might change facets of our culture to stop further damage, and maybe heal some of the damage that's already been done-- Stanton Peele's The Diseasing of America, Gina Kolata's Rehtinking Thin, Philip K. Howard's The Death of Common Sense, and a few others. It's a very short list, mostly because these are books that do not fit in with the prevailing norms in the least. These are books that are unafraid to take a stand against the stupidity of our current culture. They are unpopular, and it's very hard to get them published. That, of course, makes them all the more important. And of them, perhaps, Judith Levine's Harmful to Minors is the most important. While all of them address very important topics, this one attacks the most wide-reaching subject I've found in one of these books: how America's puritanical attitude towards sex has resulted in generations of increasingly oversheltered, and dangerously uninformed, children, and how that oversheltering and lack of information have pushed America to the brink of disaster and allowed a number of social ills (of which AIDS is only the most visible) to fester unchecked.

When I started thinking about how to write this review, the obvious place to start, it seemed, would be with an extended quote from the book. Problem is, I couldn't come up with just one quote; so much of this book needs to be quoted, so much of what Levine has to say needs said, that singling out one or two paragraphs from the book seemed to be doing the rest of it a disservice. With one short exception (we'll get to that later), the entire book is quotable. Obviously, reprinting a 270-page book does not make for a good review, and yet if I could have done so here, I'd have done it in a heartbeat; this is a book that every American parent, or anyone who was raised in the increasingly oppressive anti-child culture that began to foment in the 1950s, desperately needs to read. Some will find validation in these pages that their embarrassing, socially unacceptable, or "morally repugnant" thoughts are universal. Some will come to understand that their beliefs about how they should be parenting their children are shared by many others. The majority, I think, will find that they are not alone, or nearly as rare as they had believed. It's the people whose voices have caused all these insane "protect the children" laws to be enacted who are in the minority; they just scream louder and know what buttons to press. When Levine traces the raft of onerous laws involving day-care workers (especially male day-care workers) not being allowed to show affection to children to the long-discredited McMartin case, the obvious reaction is, "well, since none of that actually happened, why do we still have the laws?" Indeed. And yet, somehow, we do.

I was prepared to stick this book far atop my list of best reads of the year for 2008, despite us being less than five months into the year, before I hit the epilogue. Levine stumbles a bit at the very end of the book; where she spent the majority of the book completely on-point, in the epilogue she suddenly starts lashing out at things that seem to have nothing to do with her thesis, drawing the most tenuous of connections at best. But this is in no way to say that the rest of the book is not well worth your time; in fact, were I drawing up a curriculum of must-read books for every American, this would most certainly be on it.

Children, especially those who are suffering between the onset of puberty and the so-called "magic age" at which we are all supposed to gain maturity overnight, are the last subclass of people it is considered socially acceptable to repress in America. Judith Levine is outraged by this, as we all should be, and Harmful to Minors is the result. The trouble she had getting the book published, which she recounts in the prologue, should set off major warning bells to everyone reading it. This is a deeply, deeply important book, and I strongly suggest you read it as soon as you possibly can. For in the six years since its release, not surprisingly, things have only gotten worse. The arm is already lopped off; the more of us who read this book, understand the consequences of our culture's actions, and speak up about them, the better a chance we have to stanch the bleeding. For if we don't, the patient may not survive the operation. **** ½

I'm almost all the way done, and I absolutely adore this book. The author sets up and supports very firm arguments against the neo-cons and overprotective parents who seek to push their morality on the rest of the nation. This is a must-read for those who wish to understand how our system got to be the mess it is today concerning sex.

I would say this is one of the 5 most important books I've read in my life.

Finally...FINALLY someone has the courage to stand up and say what needs to be said. Our society is dysfunctional. Parents don't know how to talk about sex and earn their children's trust in sexual matters. They pass their ignorance and fear right down to the next generation. Children who do not trust their own parents are definitely more vulnerable to abuse from others, especially when they learn to trust others.

There is so much hysteria, paranoia and flat out ignorance about sex in America. It is astounding!!!

The controversy that this book generated is mostly due to the repressive, morally righteous environment in this country. But Ms. Levine is also sex-positive. She goes beyond simply providing objective information about sex or our dysfunctional ways of dealing with it, she actually advances many of her own opinions about the positive nature of sex and the negative consequences of repression.

To me, sex raises many questions. I don't have all the answers. The only criticism I could make of the book is that Ms. Levine is a little too opinionated and like a race horse at the starting gate. She comes on a little strong for the majority of Americans, many of whom are still struggling to understand how people can be gay. I'm sure many of these people are not yet able to fathom that children can enjoy and benefit from sex with adults. So that part created a lot of controversy.

This is a solid book for those seeking to recover from relational brokenness and sexual wounding. I was impressed with Comiskey's understanding of the human condition, and specifically how imbalances in intimate relationships cause tremendous and long-lasting harm. He is a sharp thinker and has many useful ideas for people to work through their struggles.

I was also impressed that he didn't sensationalize the aspects of sexual sin (much of which I find disappointing in other books on this topic). He is frank and honest, but much more realistic and sincere about the underlying problems of relational and sexual sin than the wealth of authors who find tantilizing stories to needlessly illustrate what could easily be stated and understood in simpler forms. Some think that they need gross excesses in detail to build a relationship with readers who are struggling. You won't find that here. What you find is a friend who you can trust; someone who struggles but is more concerned with finding hope in that struggle and glorifying God.

That said, I didn't give it five stars because I think it needs a little editing. Some parts are a little wordy, others have references/quotes from people who aren't not entirely connected to the material. I'm not sure what his fascination is with John Paul II or Karl Barth, but they have an unusually large proportion of the supporting material.

All in all though, a good book, well worth reading and discussing.

I found this book really useful in coming to grips with my own sexual brokenness. Not just for same-sex attractions, this gets at the root of why some people act as they do -- in often despairing, dissapointing ways, and this book helps provide insight to move beyond the guilt.

Thank God we don't have to live by these rules today -- but there's nothing better than to laugh at the customs of decades gone past. This is a read out loud book for bridal showers and everyone of all ages will LOVE this book!

This is a hilarious gag gift for a bride... Some of the advice is not only soooooo outdated but June Cleaver herself would have gasped! This book is a staple in my bachelorette gifts.

This is a laugh out loud walk through the past -- the book is filled with retro photographs of couples from the 1950's. A great book to pull out in a party of married couples. Husbands will run for cover, while the women scream with delight. A great bridal shower gift.

Wow! What a book! I love the way Eric and Leslie approch the subject of Sex and relationships in this book. It is like an alagory that brings the whole subject alive. It makes you realize just how messed up the world and a lot of Christians are when it comes to relationships and instant sex and pleasing themselves instead of finding out God's PERFECT plan for marriage and sex. This book is another hit!!! I love the truth and the purity of God that is throughout this book. All the glory goes to him!! Praise God that Eric and Leslie are getting this message out to people becuase GOD alone is the only one who can make you pure and whole and clean and He is waiting to do it too!!

I have never read a book by the Ludys that I have not adored, and Meet Mr. Smith is no exception. Eric's personification of the virtues that lead to "Great Sex" are so enjoyable that readers are in danger of having a serious change of heart without being fully aware of said change. Meet Mr. Smith is probably more helpful for newcomers to the idea of purity in romance. I felt that it was a conglomeration of principles from the Ludys' other books on a God-scripted romance, such as When God Writes Your Love Story and When Dreams Come True. Even so, the Ludys' devoted readers will not be disappointed by their latest work.

I highly recommend this book to those of us that are oblivious to the tricks that men/women use.
It'll free you, the truth will set you free from the "spell" they try to cast.
Please, if you are kind, gentle and a good heart and are troubled by why you feel so much pain, at least
start by identifiying the characters.

This book is a must read for anyone who has found themself in a relationship and second guessed their own sanity. I found myself glued to each chapter, seeing red-flags and finding answers to questions that I would not dare ask anyone. This is a great reference book to be picked up again and again.
The insight gained is invaluable.
The author's style is sprinkled with humor, and the reader is anxious to delve deeper into the human psyche. Once started, you cannot put it down.
Great advice for dealing with Emotional Vampires.

Manipulation doesn't have a gender, so when I read the Manipulative Man I thought of many men and women who would fit the "case" characters in the book. I just wish I had known how to recognize them at the times I was dealing with them and thinking that "I" was the one who was going crazy. I guess that was my first clue. The descriptions in this book make it easy to stop a manipulative person. It is good to know there are things that I can do to protect myself from these high maintenance people. I look at people from a slightly different perspective now. It really is a very readable and insightful book.

Every woman on planet should have this book it is really powerful!

Susan Brown, I wish you had talked to me and read my other books before you posted your unwarranted comments. Please notice I also wrote From Shyness to Social Butterfly, in 2001. The suggestions I gave then are the same suggestions I gave in The Manipulative Man. My book, The Ultimate Book of Personality Tests, was published in 2005. If you read it you will see that I use many of the same tests and make some of the same observations.

I have never seen your book. The quote I used from your book came from a Google search. In the academic tradition, I quote many authors (both books and articles).

I did not choose the format or the focus of the content for the Manipulative Man. It was written in the tradition of another book (read the back cover of The Manipulative Man) at the request of the Publisher.

I wrote my first book, a workbook, in 2001 on stress management. It is now a police related workbook called Losing Our Officers to Anger, Stress and Suicide: A Wellness Solution. I have presented on it at three international conferences. It also follows my philosophy for wellness: eat nutritious foods, get plenty of rest, exercise regularly, stay connected to people, know what you can control (and what you cannot), be aware of your cognitions and how they affect your emotions, cherish your sense of humor, value the unique person you are, use cooperation and conflict resolution in relationships, believe behaviors rather than words, be able to recognize unhealthy (and often incongruent) behaviors and don't needlessly upset yourself.

Susan, please read my other books, then we will talk. No doubt, you made an honest mistake. I wish you continued success with your books.