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In dealing with others we always find ourselves blaming everyone else for our state of being/happiness. This book if used for those times of confusion, can help guide us to understanding the true relationship can only be about our "selves". Hold this book to your heart and ask your soul, your gut or whatever you choose to call it, to bring you to the page that will provide you with the best solution to understanding self. Over a period of time you will find your ego softening and your heart expanding. In knowing "self" we can finally be in place where all of our relationships are nuturing and loving.

This book is divided into brief page-size daily bits of advice regarding a positive outlook on life and relationships. I have personally found it to be a very perceptive and emotionally supportive book. If I could give it more than five stars I would. If you're having problems with your current relationship or simply want to make a good one even better, I highly recommend this book.

I checked this out from the library and am having trouble even thinking about having to return it. This book is full of good insights and advice on ways to change your thinking about your role in your relationships. A lot of the advice or principles remind me of things I've read from "A Course In Miracles."

Divided into 366 lessons one per page, it's set up to be used as a daily devotional type book, and you will also benefit from picking it up and randomly reading wherever you land. You get a lesson, a blurb explaining the lesson and a bottom paragraph about how to incorporate this advice/ knowledge into your life today. I love that each lesson is short and straight to the point. You don't have to read several pages on a subject to get the meaning.

I am so impressed with this book that I've gotta get my own!

This book is well thought out and explained. There are 366 passages, with a title/lesson and a through explanation following to incorporate that lesson. Each is given one full page (an extra for the lucky leap year.) The author's writing is spiritual in nature and full of much wisdom. You do not have to read this book front to back but open it to anywhere, to read just one lesson for the day.

Obviously this book is way over the previous reviewers head. Heck this is a simple book with much wisdom but, you must be willing to do some self reflecting and have accountability for your actions, to make the magic of these words happen! If you do not have the patience to look within, then don't buy this book.

I'd like to address what the other reviewer ('bunnyrabbit4') found so ridicules and I find so wise. This is paraphrasing of the authors intent. Principle #168, "If I'm attracted to someone then I have a gift for them." This means when we feel a certain pull towards another we have something to offer them. There is a reason why we feel a pull towards some and not towards others. The author explains that we should not enter into a relationship with the attitude of what can I get out of it. This is not about constantly doing for another or to just keep on giving to try and win approval, God no... but being the gift without expectations attached. The gift comes from our soul. #169 "If I give up being right, I'll be happy" We are so caught up in being right that we close ourselves off and block all else out. Wanting to be right at any expense comes from an inflated ego. We would rather argue to be right, then to be happy and have love in our hearts. We don't have to win every disagreement; we need to pick our battles carefully. This is a powerful one for me and one that I hope to master some day.
The one most disliked by previous reviewer is principal #92 ..good ol' 92 about anger... We must be accountable for our own feelings. Our anger is an attempt to project on to another our own feelings, and pretend the very thing we are angry about has nothing to do with us. This is about being accountable. All anger is an imbalance in our own nature. We choose how we react to situations. A person can insult you and you can become enraged and blame your whole rotten day on them or, you can consider the source and even have pity on then. Why, because all anger is a reflection of how we treat ourselves. *Some of the titles of the lessons may not be so clear to some people but, the authors message is insightful and right on track.

Also this book is great for a single person contrasting what another reviewer said. Heal yourself before you enter your next relationship, to attract a more healthy future partnership. Restated do not buy this book if you are trying to change someone else; it is only for those that are willing to look within. Hope this helps.

Anyone who has had the great fortune to attend at a seminar with Chuck Spezzano knows that the daily principles in this book can be transformational. They are lessons which I try to live by. They are reminders that I have the power to make profound changes in my life and that all changes are my choice. They are lessons to remind me that I am not a victim of circumstance but have the ability to move past my issues and be happier and healthier. This book is essential for me to stay on my spiritual path and I keep it close by. I think Chuck Spezzano is a brilliant man who has searched his own soul and now chooses to share it with us.

Things need a little spicing up? This book will definately do the trick. We have only made it through a few weeks and have not been disappointed yet. A few of the items are a little to crazy, but most are really worth a try.

I just got this book in the mail this morning and i was very excited i just mailed my boyfriend the first invitation and i cant wait to have fun with this book its a larger book and it was well made its easy to tear the pages out although u do have to be carefull not to rip it. im very pleased wth my purchase and just might buy laura corns other books after im done with this one! and also amazon gives you agreat price on this book at other websites i saw this book on it was at 45 dollars and i only paid 16 !!

My wife and I have enjoyed this book for over a year now, and we look forward to each new invitation! The book, as explained by some other reviews, is laid out with sealed invitations -- half for the men, and half for the women. When you break open an invitation, you're given a descriptive account of WHY the act you are about to do will be fun and exciting, HOW you will make it so, and WHAT you'll need to pull it off. In contrast to another review I read, I appreciate the sealed invitations for the sense of anticipation and excitement if gives you, and more of a desire to commit to the invitation rather than leafing through the book to find the one you want to do. With this format, you are somewhat forced to open your mind to other possibilities! The actual invitation, which is sent to your respective lover, is a bit skimpy on details -- on purpose! It tells them what to wear, when to meet, and what to bring. With a busy schedule, it is difficult if not impossible to work through an invitation every week, but when you do you'll be glad you did. This is a book of great ideas, but the real magic comes from how you personalize the idea -- the more time put into each one, the better, so it's only fitting that you would want to put in more effort for the one you love! My wife and I recommend this book to anyone who wants to make their relationship more exciting, more intimate, and more fun! We always highly recommend this book to our friends, after some very excited and enthusiastic descriptions of what to expect.

I bought this a few years ago and I have to admit, that like most people probably.... we haven't gotten to use it as often as we'd like to or as often as we should be. I'm sure part of the point is to really get things going on a regular basis.

So, after admitting that we haven't used it very much...i WILL admit that the few times we have used it...its been incredible.

It forced me to lose some inhibitions that I would have preferred to keep (and otherwise would have) but the fact that i felt like i needed to 'stick to the rules' and do what she instructed, forced me out of my comfort zone (don't get me wrong here, they aren't going to have you doing anything dangerous, illegal or otherwise unacceptable) We had so much fun, i'm *still* proud of myself for some of the things i was willing to try and my husband still makes mention of them.

I know he would love to do more, the book is still sitting on a shelf on our closet where i see it regularly. In our defense we've had 4 children in 5 years, so we haven't quite had the time (or need??!! :)) to add too much spice to it, but the time will be coming soon and i can't wait (although with some nervousness) to delve into her book again and try something new.

Walking on your find line of comfort v. discomfort helps move that line a little further out than you thought it could go, and it turns out for us...that's been a good thing.

Thanks Laura Corn!! and trust me, my husband thanks you too :)

Wow! What a book. My lover and I were so excited to get started after reviewing our sections of the book we couldn't hardly stand it. There are "His Eyes Only" parts and "Her Eyes Only" sections of the book. These sections are sealed so you can't peek at the other persons section...that is part of the mystery! Just reading about the scenerios was very erotic, because they are such great ideas! This book combines it all: Great ideas, mystery, anticipation, a roadmap of how the evening should go, and suggestions to make sure the evening is a winner. It is also one of the most sophisticated books of this type I've ever seen. If this book of invitations were given to every couple there would fewer couples having affairs....this is 100 times better than an affair! My lover and I have tried alot of different things, and we are so glad we found it! We hope the author writes a second book of just this same type! We just finished our first Invitation and are looking forward to 51 more weeks! (PS - none of the invitations involves three somes or anything of that type). BUY IT....you won't be sorry!

I gave this to my husband, reaching middle age has its issues, high blood pressure, menopause, teenagers, and his father's deaths. My husband who never reads at home, read this book. It is a quick, an easy read, he did put it out of site from our 13 year old son.

My husband was already familar chi since it is related to martial arts. The breathing he knew also, but other parts of the books held different concepts of interest.

I left to visit my family for at the beach for a couple of weeks, since he was facing very stressful weeks at work and dealing with estate issues. I did not think he would look at this book. To my delight and enjoyment upon coming home he had. Our lives have changed.

A man having multiple orgasms changes the whole sexual encounter for both parties. It is just amazing. I could not be happier we have opened this door, it is the best gift I have ever given my husband. Menopause is a forgotten, that I am aging is forgotten for I feel sixteen again.

The issues of middle age are less of an issue and our enjoyment in each other has increased in everything we do together. We have reconnected on every level, have private jokes, our teenager feels leftout, which is now it should be.

I have a lover and my best friend!

The book is well written & a quick an easy read.

Well written information, its subject matter is helping me work through some needed understandings. The book is very inter generational and inter-racial in concept. The book is very male but opens doors for men of western culture who have thinking minds but have been taught to hold these thoughts and never express them. It is well worth the time and effort to understand "why we do what do and the way that can help improve those efforts."

Manatak Chia does it again! Though my school teaches a different energetic, I can definitely see how certain techniques could be applied.

One thing I will say is that it doesn't hurt to practice some of the techniques on a consistent basis, just be meanful of the seasons and the cosmos.

My primary motivation was to give women better orgasms. If you can control your own ejaculation, you can give more attention to the effect your sexuality is having on your woman. Once you learn how sexual energy moves inside of you, you can sense how your own sexual energy moves inside your woman and how you can direct it to intensifying her experience. She will be very grateful.

The main trick is to be able to avoid and redirect ejaculation. This allows the sexual energy to build up in your body. Women can feel this power in you. When you ejaculate, you emasculate yourself energetically. My current girlfriend melts and swoons at the thought of me. She says her molecules change in my presence. She asks me, don't other women feel this in you? I say yes they do. She says how do you know? I say I can feel their molecules changing.

The book is remarkable for pinpointing exactly where you may be losing control over the energy circulating inside of you and how you can remove any impediments to the maximum utilization of your sexual energy. This energy is Life Force itself, and when you learn to master it, you will discover more personal power and integrity in yourself and you will be more powerful and directed in all aspects of your life. Other men will trust you more, your business drive will increase, women will be drawn to you.

It took me 6 months of practice to reorient my energetic patterns, which had been unchanged for 40 years. Now, ejaculations have about as much appeal as the release felt sneezing. You will not want to ejaculate anymore once you master your energetic body. The power felt coursing through your body will be a thrill like continuous orgasm.

I read that other men skipped the breathing exercises. They were key for me. I can now induce an energetic orgasm by just breathing consciously. This makes me feel ecstatically alive. The sexual energy is not contained by your woman. She is just a concentrated version of the feminine energy that pervades the universe. It is here for your pleasure and will welcome you into its embrace.

The non-ejaculatory orgasms are completely unlike the squirting kind. They go on and on with blissful intensity, completely unrelated to any other experience I have ever had, but they come closest to the hallucinogenic experiences of LSD or peyote. People report experiencing god on those drugs, and I can tell you that experience is available to anyone who wants to take the time to cultivate it in them.

This book and the techniques it describes is dangerous. I know people who have actually hurt themselves ***physically*** and ***psychologically*** by doing Mantak Chia's techniques. Be very very careful.

As with many anthologies of individual experiences, Here Lies My Heart relies on common themes--coping with the routine of a relationship, straying vs. staying, self vs. couple's identity. Overall it hit a negative note. It also overlooked a growing segment of the population--those who have never married and managed to find a degree of contentment. This book wasn't about why people don't marry--it was about how people work through staying in or leaving a marriage.

I've been reading a lot of books about love and relationships in connection with a book I'm working on, and this collections of essays was so superior to the others in the quality of the writing and the honesty and charm of the personal accounts (with a few notable exceptions, including Edward Hoagland's essay) that I made a special effort to post a comment here. This would be an excellent book to give a friend who has a perfectly wonderful marriage that he or she is thinking of walking out on, or to someone who's just experiencing a case of the marriage blahs.

A group of brief stories that illuminate just a few of the thousands of facets of relationships -- those sweet or disappointing and everything in between.

In the middle of my almost 27 years of marriage I find myself trying to find answers to unversal questions of Where did the love go?, Should I still hang around here in this marriage etc. It is not all that bad, but is this all there is. I saw alot of myself here and many others. I found no anwers except that what I was feeling and experiencing was not at all uncommon. This did make me feel less guilty about these feelings. I did conclude that these authors had a alot of time to worry about their relationships. Some seemed to be in such a turmoil and I just wanted to say come on shape up and do something.

The stories in this book are lovely. They are sad, moving, deeply thought-out vignettes of various aspects of marriage, married life and/or relationships. The stories probably won't change your life but the reader is afforded an intimate glimpse into the private, often painful and loving world of relationships. I found the writing in many of the stories to be breathtaking.

She is great, though not concentrating on "hermanutics" she does a investigative convincing study of equality between the sexes. A great read!

The author combines scientific research and well reasoned arguments with a gift for communicating clearly. This is the most formative treatment I have read on the subject of gender issues.

Great book. Very informative. Well written. Lots of humor mixed in also. A must read for adults that want to know more about themselves and how to enjoy life.

I work at a sex toy store, and this book is pretty much our employee manual. It's a great basic intro to all things adult toys!
It did seem a little bit "Shop at Babes in Toyland"..but understandably so. I'm a big fan of what they've done for the industry. The pictures are great, even artistic! For this price, you can't go wrong. Even a "sexpert" can learn something here.
I did disagree with some of their picks, so make sure you get out there and shop around, have fun with it. Don't treat this like the all knowing book of sex toys, so many new and fun things have come out just since the book was written. You have to find what's right for YOU, and this book gives you a great set of tools to get started on the very happy hunt!

I bought this book for my sister-in-law as a gift for her personal bridal shower. She LOVED it!!

I paged through the book a little before giving it to her and I thought it was great as well. Full of fun trivia, great information and tips, and bright and colorful photography. The layout is really nice - modern and eye-catching!

As for the content, I learned things just from the little that I read as I was skimming through it!

I would HIGHLY recommend this for anyone who wants to learn about the different sex toys out there (Who knew there were SOOO many?!) - expecially women, since this book really does strive to make women feel comfortable and welcome in the world of pleasure enhancers that has previously been somewhat intimidating to the fairer sex.

Thanks to the authors, artists, and editors that made this book so fun - both to read and to look at! :)

Written by the founders of the store Toys in Babeland this book is truly an uninhibited guide to erotic toys. Written in modern day language this book is a great reference guide, especially if you happen to be too shy to walk into your local sexual aid store. If you don't live in a very big town you probably will not find a store with an informed staff that can show you what's available and help you pick out a toy to meet your needs so this book is a perfect guide.

I must confess, in the past I've never been interested in toys so this book was quite refreshing to read. It gives you a great introduction to the toys available on the market. There are ten chapters that cover sexual anatomy (briefly), sexual expression & communication, vibrators, dildos & strap-ons, toys for men, lubricant (a whole chapter, WOW), bondage & domination, SM, and safety. Each chapter gives you, in detail everything you need to know about the highlighted toy pictured from what it's made of, to how to care for the toy. They even tell you the history of such toys and how to use each one featured in the book.

This book is not only aesthetically pleasing to the eye with its colorful still life photographs of sexual toys but its overall design, texture, and feel. It's just heavy enough to warrant the price I paid for it, every page is glossy & smooth, and the writing is forward & fun. Where else will you see a section titled, `Dildos are for everyone'.

Oh, before I forget, my favorite thing in the whole book was the "Wondrous Vulva Puppet" by House O'Chicks. It so intrigued me and it was beautiful.

It's a great book full of fun stuff but with all that great info no where did I see how to use those `ben wa' balls I got for Christmas, but don't let that stop you from reading this book. It's great.

girldiver:)

Tastefully done. This book covers every basic sex toy there is, plus gives sound advice. It's a fun read and didn't leave me grossed out. (And the vulva puppet *is* awfully cute!)

True Secrets of Lesbian Desire should be essential reading for
every gay woman....period...no excuses. It would be a good book for anyone
who loves women to read. A lifetime of experience, distilled,
artfully presented and so essential right now. So many women floundering.
And answers to their questions, right here, clearly expressed, with humor
and affection....readily available. I particularly found the chapter "Truth
as Aphrodesiac" enlightening. To end with Ms. Stendhal's words: "The
sexuality for which we ardently long, waiting for us in the very bed we
thought had condemned it to death? You bet!"

This is a wonderful book about dealing with life issues. I found the test not that helpful but the text more than supplied what you need to know. This book really addresses all relationships and is extremely helpful in assisting you in realizing why you repeat the same behavior over and over and what you can do to change your approach.

The author did a great job explaining the laws of attraction with examples and helpful suggestions. So much more is offered than in The Secret ...this will be a best seller.
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This was a great continuation of his 1st book "If You Want Closure, Start With Your Legs".

I like this book. It was easy to read and conversational in tone. It was like a big brother or uncle giving me advice. I love how Big Boom jumps right into it and in Chapter 2 he breaks down the different types of suckahs from the Preacher Types to the Down Low men.

He challenges women to develop their self esteem and wait for Mr. Right instead of settling for Mr. Right Now. He also challenges women to investigate men more and warns of the dangers in letting men know where you live too soon, having sex too soon and of the dangers of exposing them to your children too soon.

The questions he lists in the Appendix are really deep and require you to do some soul searching in order to answer them. I think that those who really invest the time in doing this exercise will learn a great deal about themselves (possibly things they'd never considered before) and this will help you regarding your future choices in selecting a mate.

Black women need to expand their dating options to include all race of men....Author OfBlack Women Deserve Better

I have a co-worker who picked up this book because of all the "hoopla" of the author being on the Steve Harvey morning radio show and I reviewed this book after she read it and (to me) it has some of the same things that the book "Sucka Free Love" by Debra Cooper talked about (that I have also read). The view points on dating and experiences women face in dating are related the same in each book, only Ms. Cooper was the 1st to share this with & entitle it with similar language "Sucka/Suckah". I can't discredit any work that Big Boom has done but the similarities in this title would make you think that he has copied it from the title of Ms. Cooper's book or it has been regurgitated (re*gur*gi*tate - Function: verb: to become thrown or poured back transitive senses: to throw or pour back or out from or as if from a cavity.) from the title to the story line. Ms. Cooper gives accounts in her book based of facts of dating from the female perspective and Big Boom's story/book is being told based on a "reformed pimp/player".
My choice regarding the dueling "Sucka/Suckah's" would be: Sucka Free Love - How to Avoid Dating The Dumb, The Deceitful, The Dastardly, The Dysfunctional and The Deranged!

How To Duck A Suckah by Big Boom, a reformed pimp and self-professed body guard for women's hearts, gives advice on how to do just that; duck a suckah. While explaining the differences between suckahs and playas, Boom boasts of knowing the game because he lived it, though not regretfully. Who better to learn this type of skill from than someone who has played? Why not count them as lessons learned in order to fulfill His mission? Yes... His mission. Boom's passages preach empowerment, success, and happiness among women and their relationships. He gives common examples and suggest `tests' to detect suckahs and/or playas but not without giving thanks to his higher power for allowing him to be able to speak to women positively. Boom even provides tips on empowering soon-to-be women, what it means to be a lady, and tapping into internal strength during trying times.

While the effort was grand, Big Boom delivered a guide that can be most helpful to young women. Some of the techniques used by suckahs and playas that were described are common knowledge for most older and mature women. With Boom revealing his background, I felt a certain degree of trust in what he was writing but it lost some of its validity in a passage regarding abusive relationships. It is obvious there is limited knowledge on the subject as some of solutions given could create more danger for a victim of abuse. Still, there were very precious jewels between the covers. One of the most memorable of them for me is when he writes:

The graveyard is full of brand new gifts that have never been touched before. Make sure you open yours before you die.

This manual is from a big heart and you can tell in the conversational tone of the book and how he continually asks his readers to hear him out. People who are looking for a good pick-up-your-spirits guide and those who are looking for validation that they have a suckah on their hands would thoroughly enjoy this book.

Reviewed by Darnetta Frazier
APOOO BookClub

If you want to change your life, find the love of your life and are prepared to radically change the way you date to do so, then you have to read this book! There are a lot of books on the market with similar themes - this one is different as it is very comprehensive, makes sense and it works! If the concepts worked for me, they'll work for anybody.Though be warned - if you are not prepared to do the work, you won't find this a quick-fix and you will be disappointed. But if you are through with game-playing, and open to some expert advice, just spend the fourteen bucks, will ya? You won't regret it!

This book contains two absolutely marvelous concepts that really grabbed me. The big one was "Be The Chooser." It's not a new idea, but it was phrased in a way that helped me understand, very simply and solidly, exactly what it means to be proactive in looking for a good relationship. Another one was the clear explanation of the difference between dating for relationship practice, dating to find a life partner, and the big mistake of "dating to mate." and how to tell which you're doing and which you should be doing.

Other than that, this book isn't all THAT new and different. After all, there aren't many relationship books that have something genuinely new to say. But it is approachable, accessible, and totally reassuring, which is a huge plus in a universe of how-to-find-love books that start with the assumption that if you're still single, there's something wrong with you that needs to be fixed. Thank goodness for a book that starts with the assumption that it's perfectly fine not to be racing down the aisle with the first likely suspect.

Kudos to David Steele! Conscious Dating lays out the steps to move singles from dating bondage to dating freedom! This book is packed with common sense advice articulated in a warm and caring manner. This book empowers singles to "Become the Chooser."

If you're feeling lost or disenchanted with the dating scene, Conscious Dating is a beacon of light!

Hooray for David Steele! It's about time we learned that the most important person to please in a dating relationship is ourselves. Terrific voice and wonderful guidance as he explains how to determine your non-negotiables en route to finding the person you really want--and deserve!

David Steele has written what ought to become a benchmark in its field. Practical, proactive, easy-to-read and jargon free, David Steele helps his readers learn how to identify the kind of people they want to be with, how to weed out bad matches before asking for or accepting a date, and how to become really, really CLEAR about the kind of life partner relationship they want to grow.

This is a book that I recommend to all of my clients who are dating or planning on dating at some time in the future. You can tell that David Steele, MA, founder of the Relationship Coaching Institute is a relationship coach, because he's darned good at it.

If you don't have this book, buy it; you'll be happy that you did.

George Polley, MSW, LICSW
psychotherapist and life coach