Sex Relationships Books

I say that because in reading and understanding the husband/wife authors, you will become humble and start looking for opportunities to become more of a soulmate to your lover or friend. I agree that a person can indeed become jaded or exasperated with the "games" that men and women play on each other! Sometimes a person wonders how did their parents or grandparents ever get together! This book was one of the FIRST of the truly HELPFUL books in the Iyanla Vanzant, Maya Angelou, Dr. Ron Elmore tradition! This one has the benefit of a very intuitive and intelligent husband and wife team aiding you in the process ! A very good investment. May the reading and applying of the information bring about a healing and lifetime love for you! Peace -ed-

This book is one that "ALL" African American couples should own. My professor used it as the main text in his class and it not only helps you understand yourself but your mate as well. It also gives you insight on why we behave in the manner in which we do, and provides exercises to help you sustain your relationships. The authors are African American Husband and Wife Psychologist who also practice what they've written.

"It is easy to fall in love. But it's a lot harder to stay in love." ~ pg. 4

Reading "How to Make Love All the Time" may make you less satisfied with your relationship. The book begins with solutions to communication problems, dips into sexuality and then ends with reasons why you may not be compatible after all.

If you are truly committed to making your relationship work then you may want to read the first three sections and skip the fourth (all the reasons not to stay). There are some interesting points to consider. Is your sex life really a mirror of your entire relationship? How can you create the relationship you really want? Can anyone really be "in love" for their entire life? What are the real causes of depression? Is there hope even in the worst situation?

"Remember your partner is a mirror, reflecting all the parts of yourself you may not want to see." ~ pg. 176

While Barbara DeAngelis has a number of failed relationships (she talks about them in this book) she does seem to be a keen observer of what works and what will fail to please. She does a good job uncovering the real issues in a relationship. What are you really fighting about? Why do you push love away? What can you do to increase romance and attraction?

Most books on love seem to imply that the "in love" feeling normally lasts between six months and three years. Is it unrealistic to expect more? Can you feel "in love" again after years of being with your partner? Barbara DeAngelis believes you can recharge your relationship with romantic encounters and love letters. My only advice in the area of love letters would be to leave out the negative aspects (what you hate about your partner) because seeing it written down may be slightly severe and cause more anguish.

Overall this book has lots of good ideas for anyone trying to make their marriage work. The section on sexuality is very revealing and I read parts of it to my husband for his amusement (you get to pick which type of lover you are or guess about your partner). I just think the book is rather anticlimactic since it ends on a sour note. If you can't sweeten up your relationship then Barbara says you may want to seek a divorce.

If you want to fight for your relationship you may want to read All You Need Is Love and Other Lies About Marriage: A Proven Strategy to Make Your Marriage Work, from a Leading Couples Therapist.

~The Rebecca Review

At first I was a skeptic concerning Ms. de Angelis' work. After reading "Real Moments for Lovers" I became convinced that she was indeed a Godsend to men who are serious about reviving their love relationships or who want to keep their new relationship fresh and alive. There is so much truth about who we are and why we react the way we do in our relationships. Reading this and "Real Moments" has definitely turned around the intimacy and romance in my own marriage and I highly recommend this book to anyone else (again, especially men who are looking for intimacy truths and ways to communicate with their spouses).

So, this book, despite its description and jacket, is for people in a failing relationship. It's not for relationship enrichment at all.

And bottom line, if you need to be walked through such mechanical artificial suggestions as the author makes, skip the money in buying this book and seek marriage counselling. Now.

Don't waste your money, there's a lot of better books on the subject. Keep looking.

It's telling that a DIVORCE lawyer highly recommended the book (does that REALLY speak good about it?). If you read this book, you will discover why DeAngelis has failed in several marriages herself.

While Barbara "Divorce" De Angelis pretends to have written a book to help your relationship, she has really written a book on how to turn your marriage into a tedious, argument-ridden affair. She'll introduce you to junk sciences such as "pleasure waves," different colored "zones" that indicate different levels of "release," and the "duplication" technique. All of these fanciful, yet failed sciences are explained with ridiculous graphs and silly diagrams.

She'll also teach you how to write a love letter to yourself and will spend chapter after chapter explaining a phony spiritual mysticism that she apparently invented.

It takes her 400 pages to turn love-making and communication from something that should happen smoothly between spouses, into a complex science. If you read this book and try to follow the advice, you will become as methodical, predictable, and as boring as a robot. Don't waste your time and make your love-life any worse than it is by reading this book.

Forget the fact that DeAngelis invented a science and it failed for her several times. These methods are pipe-dreams on their face to any rational human being.

I believe this is a great book to read if you are in a relationship and looking to grow. It has some great ideas and gets you asking the right questions. My only negative point in the books is that there is a section towards the back for single people and I'm sure a single person would not reach that part of the book as the rest is geared towards couples and sharing your love. It is NOT a sex book as some might think but there is a chapter that gives good advise. It is about learning to make love the rest of your life and not just the bedroom.

"Men Like Women...." consists of one frightfully banal cliche after another, surrounded by acres of white space. Go read the cards in the "Friendship" section of the nearest Hallmark store - the insights you'll gain will be just as profound as anything you could get from this book, and you won't be out any money.

This book is so simply written, yet very powerful. It gave me the confidence and courage to break off an abusive relationship and start a new! I highly reccomend it to any woman who has low self-esteem. This book will change your life!

After reading "Men Who Can't Love" (which, by the way, is brilliant!), I was excited to pick up another piece by these authors. Unfortunately I was more than disappointed. I should have seen a red flag when I saw the title, so I have no one to blame but myself. Any woman who decides to "like herself" just so that a man can like her is sadly mistaken (you like yourself for yourself, not anybody else!). Generalizations such as "a balding man is a better catch than a hottie" are... simply put, ignorant. Theory that a lengthy first phone conversation indicates problems in the relationship going forward is ridiculous. Half way through the book, I came to conclusion that it was written for teenagers - a couple of valid points surrounded by a whole lot of common sense rambling. Women who want to improve their self-esteem should look elsewhere. And finally, who in the world thinks about babies on the first date???

I did enjoy this book, though I only head half of it. It is written in such a way that the first half deals with you when you're not in a relationship and the second half deals with you when you're already in one. I had trouble connecting with it though. Some things were very true -- they were common sense. I was looking for help on how to deal with my lack of self-worth to help me find the right guy; I did not find it here.
But I must emphasize, the book is still great :)

This a powerful book. I found it to be more influential than most relationship books. Though I was a bit uncomfortable at first with the untraditional layout - the information is not organized into respective chapters and seems to flow from one subject to another continuously - it was that very conversational style that seemed to drive the authors' points home in a most profound way. Some of those points were:

-To get to the end you must start from the beginning; think about connecting with men before you start thinking about marriage/babies
-everyone makes mistakes, so give men a chance
-husband's usually don't resemble magazine models
-abuse is abuse
-behaviors and conversations to avoid on dates

The tone of the book was more practical than spiritual. The authors do not present "following your heart" and "soul mates" as precepts. For a read along those lines I would recommend mystical relationship books by Deepak Chopra.

This book was also quick and easy read without being too wordy and conceptual; great if you're a busy person.

Kathy Freston communicates through the pages of her writing. She speaks the awkwardness of "forcing" relationships. She provides her own personal learning experiences and failures.

Kathy is a beautiful woman and expresses her love and care for her readers addressing deep emotional wounds and self defeating patterns.

Buy the book, Kathy is a gift from God.

Although I have not had time to read the item arrived fast and exactly as described!

I really enjoyed this book. It reinforced for me many principles that I believe in. You must love yourself before you can love someone else. Finding you comes before finding him/her.A great read and uplifting... Another book I also would recommend that addresses empowerment is Living The Secret Everyday: My Secret Workbook...a workbook with recipes and exercises to help you find the life you want.

Finally I found something what helped me to stop worrying about my relationships and my future. I share the opinion that if you expect luck and miracle, they arrive into your life. A lot of miracles happened to me confirming this truth always when I thought in the way Kathy suggests you. I thank Kathy for making me return to this thinking I always used before. This book helped me not only in relationships but also in other areas of my life giving me piece of mind and an incredible lightness after reading this book.

I really liked kathy freston's book the one so I decided to buy this book and have really enjoyed it. It has a lot to do with surrendering your situations or problems to whatever higher power you belive in and praying and meditating. She gives you steps to either finding a relationship although this is stuff you can use if you are already in a relationship like I am. This book has helped me so much and I feel more connected to spirit and soul and to a higher power. This is a must read book!

This book is an honest and indepth look at how guys work and how hard it is sometimes to keep that in line with the standards of God. The emphasis of the whole book is keeping yourself pure by avoiding the same mistakes and finding victory and more importantly God's forgiveness. There's not a Christian guy out there who's required reading should not list this book.

I thought your book was really good. With all the stuff that the media is shooting at us, and just being a guy it can be hard to avoid sexual temptations. Your book really helped becuase it seems like no one ever talks about it, and it therefore is hard to avoid the temptations becuase you don't know how and your book just helped give ways to avoid the temptations.

This book is *the best* book out there for guys in the area of sexual purity. Not too descriptive (which only defeats the purpose) yet real and plain and straight to them. I saw it and got it for my brothers. It's amazing.

I thought your book was really good. With all the stuff that the media is shooting at us, and just being a guy it can be hard to avoid sexual temptations. Your book really helped becuase it seems like no one ever talks about it, and it therefore is hard to avoid the temptations becuase you don't know how and your book just helped give ways to avoid the temptations.

Sex. It's sells everything from cars to toothpaste. Yet very few are willing to talk honestly about it. Bob Gresh not only is frank, but also funny as he tackles issues every teenage guy needs to hear about. The book is layed out in an almost magazine format, with intersting tidbits and sidebars on almost every page, making it an entertaining and easy read. He opens up with stories and struggles from his own life that I was able to learn from. In a solidly biblical format, he spells out not only the truth and lies about sex, but also a gameplan to win the war on lust. I really wish something like this had been around for me when I was a teenager. I am now a youth pastor and plan on getting this book into the hands of all my guys.

As an androphile, reading a book written ostensibly by and for heterophile readers, I found much to like in this pleasant, entertaining, useful, and prudent book. Androphiles capable of substituting pronouns and "like-for-like" will share my pleasures. Most of us have been, done, and repeated many of the "hedonic" and pleasureless aims of the "pleasure principle," without any pleasure. Is it possible we missed something?

Well, the authors seem to have gone through the same process we all seem to undergo. And, in this charming little book, they espouse something as strange and foreign as emotionally-involved romanticism. Wow. Seems almost antediluvian. Romance? Emotions? Pleasures? Discretion? Discrimination? Tastes? Sensual sexuality? Not for the feint of heart, or the online "hook-up" generation -- except as a way out of the hedonic treadmill.

The humor, lightness, and yet serious themes are excellently conjoined to make this little book of Don Juan's stories seem only too common, yet with opportunities the "commercial" interests may have omitted. Imagine? A modern, romantic lover who wants more than anonymous serial dalliances (and that too)? To think we have those choices? If for no other reason, to see the expanded choices available makes this light-hearted fare a charming, pleasant, and enjoyable read.

Mollod and Tesauro have done it again; a sharp, witty look at what gents 'should' and 'should not' be doing in searching, meeting, wooing, and keeping. About 1/2 of the sentences in this cook are similes, another 1/4 are metaphors. Here and there exist a few *truly* clever, witty gems. (If the "witty banter" in shows like "The Gilmore Girls" drives you nuts, this is NOT a book you'll enjoy.) A number of topics are explored, some of them more mundane than others. Overall, most of Mollod and Tesauro's advice is sage; guidance for making informed choices, and answers to minor-detail questions abound.

Recipes for adult beverages are peppered throughout the pages, often named or themed alongside the topic at hand-- however they contain no measurements, so proportions for making these drinks may require a certain amount of speculation or experimentation.

A fun read for both men and women.

'The Modern Lover' acts as the psychologically astute younger brother to its care-free inlaw 'The Modern Gentleman'. Where 'The Modern Gentleman' touches on certain subjects and provides an extremely insightful and inspiring view of the social game, 'The Modern Lover' will dive deeper into the more delicious and kinky topics of saucy romance, provocative friendship, and cheeky chocolatiers. Like 'The Modern Gentleman,' it provides a play-by-play without out a single mutter of the words "You Should..." or "Don't Do..." It's a mature, yet playful etiquette book for those ready to drop the hammer and iron chisel for sculpting their social views and pick up the detail pick, ready to face the 'Refining' task with strong and confident strikes. My only regret is that the 5 star book rating system doesn't reach into the triple digits.
Because of Jason Tesauro and Phineas Mollod, I have gone from lazily and royally sending my relationships into oblivion to vibrantly balancing three, completely open, relationships at once and with wiggle room to spare. BUY THIS BOOK and BUY 'The Modern Gentleman,' I promise, the rebar reinforcement that your confidence receives will be priceless.

Face it honeys, this is no Jaws 2. Oh sure, you can't throw a baklava in Boston and miss someone who loved that stinker, but I'm here to tell you that THIS particular Part II is the tops. That's right: just when you thought it was safe again to be a boorish lout, drink PBR straight from the can and finally frame your Looney Toons artwork, think again. These guys'll put you right in no time, quaffing Opus One and wooing stewardesses like you were Wilt Chamberlain. Can't get on the mailing list for young and lusty grads of the Ivies? This is a close second. So drop the attitide, drop the 10 bucks, and open the door to a brand new you. Thank you, Messers Mollod and Tesauro, you rhubarb rubbers you.

Diggler that is. Before reading this gem, I was playing with Ewok dolls on my Mom's living room carpet. A few words of wisdom from Mollod and Tesauro, and I've dropped the drip and gained me some hip. I champagne-sabered my way to hipsville, daddy-o, and there's no turning back. New Dad? This is the bible. Ringless carouser? You're right at home. Hipster with a bent for Bordeaux? Hop in the tub, the water's fine. Pricele$$!

Anyone who is going through a rough break-up should read this book! Humor, great advice and wide range of topics....my thanks to the author.

I bought this for my girlfriend that just went through a devastating break up. It didn't automatically erase her hurt but it definitely brought a smile to her face...and helped with the healing process.

I admit I have not yet finished reading this one, but for any girl who has just had her heart smashed to pieces I thoroughly recommend it!!! Has some great advice for getting through rough patches, some tips and a bit of humour to help cheer you up!!! And most of all encourages you to look after yourself which is not foremost on our minds when we are hurt and miserable!!! This book is a lifesaver!!!

A good companion to this book is The BreakUp Workbook - a commonsense guide to getting over your ex. While Delphine really does a lot to help you to get through the days and nights, there's no interaction. Go to brokenheartedgirl.com and sign into the forum so you can speak with other broken hearted girls. While you're at it, you might like to purchase The BreakUp Workbook - which will also help you get through the days & nights.

I bought this book because I thought it would be a funny look at how to deal with a breakup. The cover certainly inspired me.

Unfortunately, while this book is not horrible, there is nothing new in here. The humour is limited and the advice is standard. Pretty basic stuff.

This book should be titled "How to find Mr. Right". The authors give a very detailed, very informative, rational, step by step approach to doing just that. They tell you what to do, what not to do, and most importantly why which is the one thing most other books on dating leave out. The "why" is given to you from a candidly honest male perspective. I have found no more valuable insight on what men are really like and how to handle them than is in this book. The concept of "wins" is worth any price you would have to pay.

It has good advice inside but is very repitious. Also I read How to Succeed with Women. Most of the stories are the same (just switch gender and name) He tells men how to get sex and tell women how to get a committed relationship. He advices women to not have sex too soon encourages them to be late for the date. He tells men to be on time because the women will be late and to make a plan to get her in bed (and other connections between the two books that enforces his screenplay of how the date should go.) Although I found some of his advice to be helpful, most of his advice says to take as must abuse as possible. Such as let him/her stand you up three times. Or leave messages twice even if they aren't returned, Don't say things that might offend and avoid conflict(even in the relationship), always say "you're right" and other things that goes against every other dating book in America. This book did, however, encourage me to make a plan (time frame) for marriage. Of course my plan won't including living with a man for six months before we even discuss marriage like the woman's in the book. If you want to get married, read "The List". It doesn't take that long for him to know if he wants to marry you or not.

This is a fabulous book. When I first bought it I thought it would be just another dating book, but I had yet to discover the gems between it's covers. I have read just about every other "how to get a man" book on the market, and though they all have something to offer, this is the only book which doesn't insult the reader by overgeneralizing, labeling, encouraging mindless games, and being vague about behavior. Written in textbook style, this genteel book offers solid, workable and realistic advice a woman can use which can improve her relationships dramatically. It speaks to the reader in a kindly and intelligent fashion, without preaching, and refers to men in a humanistic "they are people too" way. It's techniques are simple and uncomplicated, and the authors are encouraging to the reader. As soon a I read the chapter consisting of the 10 myths about men, I saw for the 1st time how my own beliefs were getting in the way of my finding a good relationship. I began applying what I learned and noticed an immediate improvement. A real eye-opener.

I liked this book, because instead of giving you vague, abstract advice like 'Just be yourself' or 'Act approachable' the authors give you an actual plan that you can follow to the letter or when you feel more comfortable with men, use sparingly. The only thing that concerned me was the 'testing' part of the book. It seems to me someone bright would be able to see what you are doing and be offended.

No abstractions about self-esteem here. The authors give plenty of concrete actions. They also help women to understand that dating is a numbers game and they should not be invested too soon in one man, a big pitfall with many of us. For those of us burned out on the dating scene a reminder to appreciate a man's good qualities helps overcome some of the cynicism of the territory. The attitude check is important. If we think men are spoiled babies, dating is just not fun.

Some of the advice is a little dated. Computer dating has come a long way in 5 years. Sure the authors are a little full of themselves, but then we can stroke their egos a bit. They remind us that we are the woman worth winning. With such good advice it is worth it.

I enjoyed this book from the very first page until the final one. I found it enlightening and comforting as well as entertaining and helpful! I highly recommend this book! Don't be put off by the title. I've never cared for the term "soulmate" but found this book extremely good in spite of that!

I was pleasantly surprised to find that "Soulmates" is not New Age pablum, but a delightful mixture of solid psychology and ... and what? Warm mysticism? Course in Miracles wisdom? Whatever the second part, the first part, solid psychology, is undeniable, and the author's wit, honesty, modesty and self-disclosure make the book a great read. Believe it or not, it may even help you find (or create) a soulmate.

I read this book sometime ago, exactly when I needed it.
This is the top "soulmate" book I have read to date and the only one I will actually recommend. It has beautiful true stories and provides the inspiration to trust spiritual guidance in our life, as to what may be meant to be and what may not. It brought me to the realization instead of trying to do this or that as other books recommend, to trust that if there is a relationship that is meant to be, spirit has the capability of bringing it together.

There isn't really much here except two things: look for clues that fate is leading you to a particular person. Then, don't have tunnel vision as to whom your ideal person should be. That said, once people get to a certain age and have been burned by a relationship or two, they can convince themselves to be with the wrong person. Inner guidance is great IF you are emotionally healthy and tuned into what are positive choices. Gut instinct helps but many times emotions can ruin the best made plans.

I cannot put into words my feelings reading this book... except for I LOVE IT!!! It just goes to show that each person has an innate knowledge of their true destiny! Just follow the flow of the heart and it will lead you to 'the one. It's foolproof. You can't go wrong.

This book offers to teach Westerners something about Tantra. But there is a gross misonception in this book that needs to be clarified:

"Sexual energy is divided into three distinct types. First: the energy having to do with the reproduction of the race and the health of the physical body in general. Second: the energy having to do with the spheres of thought, feeling and will. Third: the energy that is found related with the Divine Spirit of man.
Indeed, sexual energy is without a doubt the most subtle and powerful energy normally produced and transported through the human organism. Everything that a human being is, including the three spheres of thought, feeling and will, is none other than the exact outcome of distinct modifications of sexual energy.
The control and storage of sexual energy is certainly difficult due to the tremendously subtle and powerful nature of this energy. In addition, its presence represents a source of immense power that can result in a true catastrophe if one does not know how to handle it.
Within the organism, there are certain canals through which this powerful energy must normally circulate. When this energy infiltrates the delicate mechanism of other functions, failure is the violent outcome. In this case, extremely delicate centers in the human organism are damaged, and in fact, the individual becomes an infrasexual.
All negative mental attitudes can lead directly or indirectly to these violent and destructive catastrophes of sexual energy. Hatred of sex, hatred of the Sexual Mysteries, disgust or repugnance towards sex, disdain for sex, an underestimation of sex, fear of sex, passional jealousy, sexual cynicism, sexual sadism, obscenity, pornography, sexual brutality, etc., turn the human being into an infrasexual.
When man and woman unite sexually in the Perfect Matrimony, they are truly ineffable Gods in those voluptuous moments. Man and woman united sexually form a divine androgynous being, a male-female Elohim, a terrifically divine Divinity. The two halves, separated since the dawn of life are united for one instant in order to create. This is ineffable... sublime... this is a thing of paradise...
Sexual energy is dangerously volatile and potentially explosive. During the secret act, during sexual ecstasy, the pair is surrounded by a tremendous, terrifically divine energy. In these moments of utmost joy and ardent kisses, which ignite the depths of the soul, we are able to retain that marvelous light to purify and totally transform ourselves. When we spill the glass of Hermes, when the loss occurs, the light of the Gods withdraws, leaving an open door for the red and sanguinary light of Lucifer to enter the home. Then the enchantment disappears and disillusion and disenchantment take its place. After a short time, the man and woman start out upon the path of adultery because their home has become an inferno." (Quoted from The Perfect Matrimony by Samael Aun Weor).

In short, those who continue to spill the sexual energy through the orgasm inevitably face disappointment, disiillusion, and they never enter into the real work of positive, White Tantra.

All White Tantra requires the absolute renunciation of the orgasm.

Please read this book! It is a philosophical and practical adaptation of ancient Tantric teachings to the modern Western realities. Learning and practicing "original" 4000-years old Tantra now isn't quite realistic. If you read some reviews written by "pure Tantra extremists," they sound rather fanatic than intelligent. This book is for "normal" people of today who want to make their intimate life and relationships more physically enjoyable and spiritually fulfilling. Highly recommend!

I am a devotee of Charles and Caroline; I have attended so many of their seminars that now, because I am a CTE I go to the weekend seminars for free. This book is their teaching, reading it for me is hard because I have heard them say the same things so many times. It is ancient wisdom. It is learning that is unchanging and essential for enlightenment on this path.

While it is true that we in the West have very disturbed notions about sex and sexuality, it should be kept in the mind that genuine Tantra harnesses the most powerful energies in the human organism: the creative forces. If you use these energies to create more lust, more attachment, more false security, then quite simply you are deepening your suffering. The sexual energy can enslave or it can redeem; but are you sure you know the difference? For more information, read the works of Samael Aun Weor, especially "The Perfect Matrimony" (0974275506) and "The Mystery of the Golden Blossom." (0974275522)

This is a very sensitive book. The couple is gentle in their terminology and not likely to scare a person new to magick or energy exchange away.

Much of our culture looks at sex as carnal and bad no matter how loving or monogamous the relationship. This book gently introduces the reader to healing those feelings about sex in a positive way.

This book is going to disappoint any practiced magicians or tantrics but it is a very good book to introduce people to a new broader way of loving their partner and sharing in the sexual experiance together.