Sex Relationships Books

I say that because in reading and understanding the husband/wife authors, you will become humble and start looking for opportunities to become more of a soulmate to your lover or friend. I agree that a person can indeed become jaded or exasperated with the "games" that men and women play on each other! Sometimes a person wonders how did their parents or grandparents ever get together! This book was one of the FIRST of the truly HELPFUL books in the Iyanla Vanzant, Maya Angelou, Dr. Ron Elmore tradition! This one has the benefit of a very intuitive and intelligent husband and wife team aiding you in the process ! A very good investment. May the reading and applying of the information bring about a healing and lifetime love for you! Peace -ed-

This book is one that "ALL" African American couples should own. My professor used it as the main text in his class and it not only helps you understand yourself but your mate as well. It also gives you insight on why we behave in the manner in which we do, and provides exercises to help you sustain your relationships. The authors are African American Husband and Wife Psychologist who also practice what they've written.

This book makes one stop and think about relationships from anothers perspective. Great, thoughtful exercises.

I enjoyed this book from the very first page until the final one. I found it enlightening and comforting as well as entertaining and helpful! I highly recommend this book! Don't be put off by the title. I've never cared for the term "soulmate" but found this book extremely good in spite of that!

I was pleasantly surprised to find that "Soulmates" is not New Age pablum, but a delightful mixture of solid psychology and ... and what? Warm mysticism? Course in Miracles wisdom? Whatever the second part, the first part, solid psychology, is undeniable, and the author's wit, honesty, modesty and self-disclosure make the book a great read. Believe it or not, it may even help you find (or create) a soulmate.

I read this book sometime ago, exactly when I needed it.
This is the top "soulmate" book I have read to date and the only one I will actually recommend. It has beautiful true stories and provides the inspiration to trust spiritual guidance in our life, as to what may be meant to be and what may not. It brought me to the realization instead of trying to do this or that as other books recommend, to trust that if there is a relationship that is meant to be, spirit has the capability of bringing it together.

There isn't really much here except two things: look for clues that fate is leading you to a particular person. Then, don't have tunnel vision as to whom your ideal person should be. That said, once people get to a certain age and have been burned by a relationship or two, they can convince themselves to be with the wrong person. Inner guidance is great IF you are emotionally healthy and tuned into what are positive choices. Gut instinct helps but many times emotions can ruin the best made plans.

I cannot put into words my feelings reading this book... except for I LOVE IT!!! It just goes to show that each person has an innate knowledge of their true destiny! Just follow the flow of the heart and it will lead you to 'the one. It's foolproof. You can't go wrong.

This book gives perfect titles and instructions to all those postions you've dreamed of trying. Perfect to get you in the mood for summer!

As i stated, i never received this book. I ordered two books from marketplace and the other one i got. i emailed Amazon about the Aqua book to let them know i never received it, but never heard back from them.

Doubt i'll ever buy anything from marketplace again - i'll stick to a real person - an actual seller - from now on!

I was not too impressed with this book. There are some of the pics that are the same. I do however like that it is waterproof, so you can use it as a guide if you want to.

My girl and I really enjoyed trying the different positions, haven't got to them all, but we're determined! Thank goodness the book is waterproof!!

Nice pictures, for reference!! Water Proof too... Some of the positions in this book are also in Cosmo's Kama Sutra book.

This book should be titled "How to find Mr. Right". The authors give a very detailed, very informative, rational, step by step approach to doing just that. They tell you what to do, what not to do, and most importantly why which is the one thing most other books on dating leave out. The "why" is given to you from a candidly honest male perspective. I have found no more valuable insight on what men are really like and how to handle them than is in this book. The concept of "wins" is worth any price you would have to pay.

It has good advice inside but is very repitious. Also I read How to Succeed with Women. Most of the stories are the same (just switch gender and name) He tells men how to get sex and tell women how to get a committed relationship. He advices women to not have sex too soon encourages them to be late for the date. He tells men to be on time because the women will be late and to make a plan to get her in bed (and other connections between the two books that enforces his screenplay of how the date should go.) Although I found some of his advice to be helpful, most of his advice says to take as must abuse as possible. Such as let him/her stand you up three times. Or leave messages twice even if they aren't returned, Don't say things that might offend and avoid conflict(even in the relationship), always say "you're right" and other things that goes against every other dating book in America. This book did, however, encourage me to make a plan (time frame) for marriage. Of course my plan won't including living with a man for six months before we even discuss marriage like the woman's in the book. If you want to get married, read "The List". It doesn't take that long for him to know if he wants to marry you or not.

This is a fabulous book. When I first bought it I thought it would be just another dating book, but I had yet to discover the gems between it's covers. I have read just about every other "how to get a man" book on the market, and though they all have something to offer, this is the only book which doesn't insult the reader by overgeneralizing, labeling, encouraging mindless games, and being vague about behavior. Written in textbook style, this genteel book offers solid, workable and realistic advice a woman can use which can improve her relationships dramatically. It speaks to the reader in a kindly and intelligent fashion, without preaching, and refers to men in a humanistic "they are people too" way. It's techniques are simple and uncomplicated, and the authors are encouraging to the reader. As soon a I read the chapter consisting of the 10 myths about men, I saw for the 1st time how my own beliefs were getting in the way of my finding a good relationship. I began applying what I learned and noticed an immediate improvement. A real eye-opener.

I liked this book, because instead of giving you vague, abstract advice like 'Just be yourself' or 'Act approachable' the authors give you an actual plan that you can follow to the letter or when you feel more comfortable with men, use sparingly. The only thing that concerned me was the 'testing' part of the book. It seems to me someone bright would be able to see what you are doing and be offended.

No abstractions about self-esteem here. The authors give plenty of concrete actions. They also help women to understand that dating is a numbers game and they should not be invested too soon in one man, a big pitfall with many of us. For those of us burned out on the dating scene a reminder to appreciate a man's good qualities helps overcome some of the cynicism of the territory. The attitude check is important. If we think men are spoiled babies, dating is just not fun.

Some of the advice is a little dated. Computer dating has come a long way in 5 years. Sure the authors are a little full of themselves, but then we can stroke their egos a bit. They remind us that we are the woman worth winning. With such good advice it is worth it.

women and men are Tail tellers some can do the job better than others.
I defiantly recommend this book for future gold diggers.
They have the need to know everything about men.. so they can dig very deep..
I'm not talking emotions.
its seems that the author has great dislike for men

If you are looking for help to understand men... this is not the book for you

The book is filled with stories and detailed interpretations of how lying by men to women works. It is not driven by "hate" of men, as "A Reader" suggests, but by the desire to reveal and understand. The men emerge (almost) as much as victims of their lies as the women.

As a currently, and very happily, married woman, I found this book quite helpful. Does it have a slant? Well of course it does. Writing a book about the top 101 lies women tell to men would be another whole book, and it's a book I'd like to see if it was written in the same manner. However, this book had a specific, clearly stated purpose, and it held to that purpose. In addition, because of the scope the book covered in depth, it helped me explain what I thought about some of my mate's behaviour in concrete terms, when before I had only fuzzy impressions of why his shutting me out so he could "be responsible" hurt. The author does not hate men, she hates lying in general and the hurt lying causes specifically. Reading through it can help head off serious problems before they start, and ending the relationship is not always the recommended course the author suggests. Many times, honesty about the problem and what is going on is enough, and this book provides good, solid methods for beginning that conversation.

And as for the idea that people, men and women alike, don't lie about STD's, ha. I am a pharmacy technician, and I can't tell you how many patients I've had who got an STD from an unfaithful and dishonest lover. There is a gentleman of my acquaintance who is currently dying of AIDS because his lover neglected to mention an HIV positive test for over a year. Even one out of twenty lovers who lie about this is enough to kill you. Don't take the chance.

The truth is ... we all lie. The trick is deciphering when the lies are too much and the degree of maliciousness behind them. No one can make someone tell the truth ... we are only responsible for ourselves ... but we can do our due diligence to spot selfish lies as fast as possible - and avert disaster.

I saw this in Border's tonight, and read a chapter...or, should I say, I read a bit here and there. The bile started to rise in my throat, and I had to put it down.

This book is disgusting on lots of levels. Look at her list of lies, first off. Gee, let's equate "I'll call you." to lying about "I tested HIV negative." First of all...WHAT?!? These aren't even close to being on the same level. Secondly, someone would have to be on a level of depravity that most women will never even encounter to lie about a lethal illness. Third, people who knowingly spread the disease have been convicted in court, or have been ordered to pay substantial sums to victims. In other words, it's a huge no-no, and most men wouldn't dream of doing that.

Women are all victims, and men are ALL liars. Women don't lie. Men do. And we know this because Madonna said it in the Emmy-winning film, "Body of Evidence" (chortle). You should worry about every word from your man's mouth, because none of it is true. If you're in a relationship with a married man...poor you! He's lying that he'll leave his wifey. We don't know what we're doing as we girls play the game of love- but, you'd better believe that we will be constantly lied to, since we're all stupid.

All the good reviews here are coming from women who have a lot of hate and bitterness in their hearts. This is a great book if you have issues that you don't want to deal with, since you can just pick and chose things to be mad at so that you can bounce when the time comes.

Yes, men are different. That doesn't mean that they're on some sort of mission to make life a living hell for every woman. Personally, I believe in projecting a loving, kind, and friendly air...and I meet guys. The guys I do meet sometimes are acting stupid or shady, but...gee...I DEAL WITH IT. I talk it out. Things may work out. They might not. I dropped the "MEN SUCK!" act about a year ago, and it's made a difference in the quality of men that I'm meeting. I'm still not married, and haven't found the perfect match yet, but I know it's out there, and I have an open, friendly heart- along with a sharp brain and good intuition so that I don't get screwed.

Yeah, buy this book if you want to put out the exact right energy to attract liars and cheats. Takes one to know one, after all!

We are just getting into this scene. Though we did find a few of the safe sex practices not in line with ours ( or most poeple we know) the rest of the information was very useful and informative

Together sex goes beyond the normal informational guideline (what is soft swinging? where can you find swinger clubs) and answers the more important question of all: Why swing? The author explains the "value of playful sex" and gives one an inside view of chance to understand the motivations and rewards from engaging in the swinging lifestyle.

As a long time member of the lifestyle, I am impressed with the amount of personal insight and candor from which the author writes. Most books on this subject are unrealistic or written by people that truly don't understand what it's like to be a part of the "swinging life". Ed and Dana do and this book is a must read for anyone considering the lifestyle (and should be read by a few folks already in the lifestyle).

While much of the book is devoted to mundane though interesting "how to's" regarding practicing the "swinging" lifestyle, a lot of it expresses clearly and cogently some very thought-provoking philosophies regarding the mythology surrounding sexuality and the imperative for sexual exclusivity we have perhaps too unquestioningly accepted.

Whether you choose to pursue the swinging lifestyle or not, committed couples ought to read this book and honestly discuss the insights it offers into our "default assumptions" about sexual exclusivity, why we believe we need it, what we might gain by abandoning it, and how it is the handmaiden of a host of other assumptions about partners as "property."

A little tough to read. "Quiz" up front was a little "off-putting." Thorough and basically good marriage book.

Always enjoy Popcak's work. We give this book as a gift for friends who have become engaged. Thorough yet concise, accessible, and humorous. Glad it's back in print.

Many books on marriage are designed to teach the basics of communication skills (love languages) to those desperate couples who are on the verge of divorce or abuse, helping them to rebuild their love. This book, however, is for the rest of us, who are in a good position already, who are deeply in love, and maybe even think we don't need help as it's all working just fine. Popcak calls us to a higher ideal, tells us to not settle for being just fine, but to try to be exceptional. Have that type of marriage that fulfills your life's dreams and works for the good of your children and society. The Exceptional Seven Percent does not hide the fact that it will take sacrifice and letting go of old ways of thinking, but it will be well worth it. With surveys and questions along the way, this book makes it easy to chart your progress as you advance through the stages towards being one of the world's happiest couples. Yes, it really is possible, if you're willing to work at it.

This is an exceptional book that aims at an attainable goal--attainable as long as you understand what you're trying to do. You can't get what you want if you don't know exactly what you want. I wanted an exceptional marriage, but didn't understand why it wasn't happening. Had I married the "wrong" person? Were we not as compatible as I thought when we got engaged?

It is absolutely exciting how radically for the better your married life can change when you systematically follow the principles in this book. It did in my case. And as I changed, so did my wife toward me.

So, what's the secret? Nothing less than living up to the commitment you happened to proclaim publicly on your wedding day--"to love and to cherish in good times and in bad...till death do us part." Is that unconditional or what?

Tall trees can't grow tall in shifting sands. An exceptional marriage is absolutely rooted in the solid ground of unconditional commitment.

Lofty language, but it all boils down to this: so many marriages fail when the participants get caught up in thinking "I'd be nice to her if only she were nice towards me," or "I'd do for her what she wants if only she would act towards me in such a way as to deserve it."

Children! Children! Hey, I used to hear those voices in my own head. I started to grow up when I found the courage to embrace the pain of admitting to myself that maybe I really wasn't the man or husband I wanted to be.

The authors of this book made it plainly obvious to me what I was doing wrong. I wasn't really secure in the person I had become at this point in my life, less than my own ideal. Heck, I had forgotten what that ideal was. (Springsteen's song "One Step Up" always tears me up when he sings "Somewhere along the line I got off track...")

That's where this book is so great. It asks you to be clear about what you want to be when you grow up.

So what does it take to have an exceptional marriage? Read this book. Decide who you want to BE. Choose daily to remind yourself to act lovingly toward your spouse whether your spouse happens to be her best self toward you that day or not. The authors discuss the different stages of improvement in marriage, and how you'll never get to the highest stage if you make your love dependent on circumstances of the moment. You need to see beyond the moment to your vision of what it means to be a great husband or wife.

Want a marriage that's better than average, that's exceptional? Then you've got to be bigger than yourself. Yes, you might even have to grow up. With the help of these authors, I have, and man, the view from here is incredible.

Sometimes you come across a book that is like clear music, and that clears up an area of your life that had been foggy forever. That is what this book was like for me. I came out of a failed marriage, and I wanted to understand why I had failed. I read various books. Then I came across this one. It's not the best title, perhaps, since other titles in the same area scream out their message louder. But it made such sense. Popcak speaks among other things of a marital imperative, which both husband and wife commit to, helping each other achieve lifetime goals, so that infidelity becomes far less likely, since another man or woman is not committed to helping you achieve your lifetime goals. Marriage becomes a place where you develop more and more competence. I could go on and on. My only reservation is that it sounded like an awful lot of work, but that could reflect my personal situation right now. I thought to myself, this is how to do marriage and make it work and make it wonderful. Also, I don't think it's just for the exceptional seven percent. And of course in this day and age one would have to say it's not only for marriages. No matter where you are in your relationship or relationship skills, this book might be the revelation you are looking for.

True Secrets of Lesbian Desire should be essential reading for
every gay woman....period...no excuses. It would be a good book for anyone
who loves women to read. A lifetime of experience, distilled,
artfully presented and so essential right now. So many women floundering.
And answers to their questions, right here, clearly expressed, with humor
and affection....readily available. I particularly found the chapter "Truth
as Aphrodesiac" enlightening. To end with Ms. Stendhal's words: "The
sexuality for which we ardently long, waiting for us in the very bed we
thought had condemned it to death? You bet!"