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If you are a man, don't review/bash the book. It's not about gay jewish dating. If you are a Jew, don't review the book either because I think you just don't get it. This is a book that is upfront about being more comedic than insightful and it is. It's a book that helps women like myself laugh through situations when our boys' Jewish family/friends/community set out to make us cry. This book is delightful and funny, great to be read together to have a laugh. I can understand why people who aren't in the situation of gentile girl and jewish boy wouldn't enjoy the humor, but honestly, the book isn't even for you. It's for me, to make light of a situation that can be wonderful but also frusterating, and give a fun meaning to a usually the offensive "Shiksa."

"Shiksas are for Practice!" I believe it was Philip Roth who said this. No, I did not read the book. But I will give gentile women some great advice. A Jewish guy who comes from a traditional Jewish family and has lots going for him will have his pick of top notch Jewish women. As such, if he is consorting with non-Jewish women, it is probably just for sexual conquest. I can say this firsthand and on behalf of my many Jewish male friends, mostly reform and conservative. Non-Jewish women will do things in bed that a self-respecting Jewish woman would never do. And guys are guys. If it costs us a few dinners, we are willing to shell out whatever it takes to make it halfway through the Kama Sutra. This is how my dating went with non-Jewish women--read this and if it is similar to your situation, don't say I didn't warn you.

---You go out for a few months, have incredible sex, incredible conversation, and do everything but meet my family. I come up with every possible excuse as to why you can't meet my family yet. We go through a succession of breakups (all the while I'm having fun with other shiksas)until I tell you that it probably won't work out, given our backgrounds. Going forward, you will always be there for that "late night call" or whatever. Yes, free love still exists. Please note this is a description of myself a Jewish male during the ages of 18-28. I am now happily married to a Jewish woman because I have done every single depraved sexual thing I could for practice, as I would never have my wife and future mother of my children do them. This is a shared mentality. Believe it. This is why non-Jewish women are taboo to the Jewish man and he therefore seeks them. That is not to say that real interfaith love does not exist, but that is all dependent on age, demographics, etc. I know this will incite some people, but it may save a few women from getting hurt in the end.

I am a non-religious Jewish man. I read this book because I'm doing as much research as I possibly can in the dating area. I found this book to be distasteful because of all the stereotypes, but more specifically because its a book about how a girl should manipulate a situation into her favor when relationships should be mutual and not as manipulative. Everyone is different, but as the author states, someone that this book is not intended for a woman trying to get with a religious man because if she is, she'll have to convert first most probably. And that's not an easy process. I honestly with a somewhat open-mind find this book to be distasteful, not horrible, but close enough. Take this as it is, I know the author expected such criticism when she wrote it.

There's very little that I can say about this book, and none of it is positive. Besides being stereotypical, which many people have already noted, I find this book to be a complete waste of time.

Seriously, what is the point of this? This isn't a unique, cool idea. It's another attempt at someone trying to ruin something that's beautiful and sacred. I really hope nobody will take this book seriously, because the truth is that there's a lot that this book isn't saying. A better book title might be, "As a Jew, should I marry a Jew?" which would go along nicely with "As a (blank), should I marry a (blank)?"

As a Jewish man with many Jewish friends, I can't imagine why anyone would be crazy enough to date us. We're not as charming as Seinfeld would have you believe, and most of us would be "a world of trouble" for anyone. "Shiksa's" be warned, Jewish men are not what Kristina Grish would have you believe.

As a Jewish man who has joyfully experienced and approves of inter-faith romance, I find most of the negative reviews of this book found here to be ridiculous.

The book itself is witty, insightful and humorous, but most of the negative reviews seem to be written either by people totally lacking in any sense of humor and/or by people who disapprove of inter-faith dating and/or marriage.

This is a light-hearted but insightful guide written for people who do NOT disapprove of inter-faith romance, so why use Amazon's pages to post your personal, religious objections to inter-faith romance? If you object, then this book is not for you in the first place, and IMHO it is really chutzpah for you to use Amazon as a platform for your personal views on the general subject, instead of reviewing the book on its own merits.

What's next - negative reviews of cookbooks that include recipes containing ingredients you don't approve of? I respect everyone's right to an opinion, but Amazon should not be used as a platform or soapbox for religious or political views. It is for product reviews.

This is a good book on polyamory. As the title implies (though it might not seem that way at first) it's about managing the relationships of polyamory rather than about the sex side of things. Early on, the recommends The Ethical Slut if you're looking for the other. So be aware.

My favorite things about this book are:

1. The stories of people working on these types of relationships

2. The way the author points out that our culture guides us towards monogamous sorts of relationships, even if those relationships happen to be serial monogamy rather than the other kind. I hear and see pop culture substantially differently after having read this book, and there aren't many books I can say that about.

Oh, and the advice is useful too, even if you're simply working on monogamous relationships.

this is indeed a very short book, and, if you're interested in learning more about non-monogamy probably shouldn't be the only book you read or own on the subject, but it's still worth reading. matik's tone is very reassuring and supportive; she focuses on (to the extent that anything can really be focused on in such a short book) the emotional aspects of open relationships, and reflects on the meaning of love both for others and oneself.

i only took one star off because i kind of wish it were a little longer!

This is an excellent guide for anyone thinking about alternative models of relationships. It provides real, practical, hands-on advice for maintaining non-monogamous relationships from the author's personal experience. Short enough to be read in one sitting and re-read often, this book really helped me make sense of my own relationships and experiences. Highly recommended!

This is the first work I've read from this author but as half of a couple still finding our way in the non-monogamous lifestyle, I found this book really spoke to my heart. I have read many books on this subject but this was not written from the normal "swinging" perspective. The guidlines suggested in this book could, for the most part, apply to traditional relationships as well. This is the best book I have ever read on this subject and I am sure I will come back to read and review it over and over again. It will open up discussion between partners and was written with care and love. Thanks, Wendy, for such an uplifting work.

While it provides some nice insite it wasnt quite what I thought. It is mostly her impressions and story. nice read but just not what I thought

I did enjoy reading this book and it is very helpful for someone who is unsure about how it is going to work out living with someone. It gives you live scenarios from real people's situations. I found that this book was greatly helpful in my decision to move in with my boyfriend. It made realize a few things as well. Something I suggest everyone read for one reason or another when considering moving in with her man.

What a great book for our generation! So many women choose co-habitation before marriage but we are limited in the advice we can seek. "The Good Girls Guide to Living in Sin: The New Rules for Moving In With Your Man" is filled with great advice to consider before taking the next step in your relationship. It is insightful, humorous, and filled with great advice. There are plenty of books to read once you decide to get married but this is the one for the "real" next step many of us take.

This is an awesome book. It is filled with down to earth talking mixed with bibicial scriptures to back it up. She breaks down the bible in a way that I have never thought of.

I just started a book club and this was our first read. What a start. This book really made me look at my singlehood and embrace it until God is ready to bring that help mate into your life. I recommend it for ever near or at that 30-something, single stage of their lives.

This book is a definite must for all females young and old. I was truly touched and changed in all sorts of ways. A patient of mine gave me this book to read and I bought another one and gave it to a woman that considered herself my enemy because I have the man she wanted. I love how she takes us through the scripture and shows us how God wants to mold and shape us as the unique and beautiful queens that we are. One thing that stuck out to me "There is no dating in the bible" Brings you back to the scripture: Train up a child in the way that he/she should go" most of us can't get a mate because we don't have the knowledge of what relationship is about other than being apart of your own immediate family. You got to bring some to get some.

Thank you Michelle for your guide to godliness.

I am a 24 year old single woman and I am just beginning to feel the woes of singleness. Unfortunately, it's not always easy to find someone you can really talk to. Everything I needed was in this book. If you want to be content in singleness, and if you want to be the complete individual that God intends for you to be, get this book. Michelle has great biblical and spiritual insight. She doesn't just talk about her experiences or what she thinks, she comes from the Word and writes according to divine revelation from God.

I had just departed from a 5 yr relationship when I read this.
It set my feet on a higher spiritual plateau. The title of the book was deceiving (as most of her titles) and had me thinking I was on my way to my next relationship. However, it set my sights on not just the right man, but THE MAN, the Lord!
It was refreshing, empowering and encouraging. Despite the fact that Mckinney has never been married do not let that discourage you. She comes from the only knowledge that matters and that is the WORD. Everyone has not been destined to get/be married; also, who else to minister to someone except the one who is in the same season with you...what an encouragement. Its such a catch 22 - to always hear women bemoan their singlehood and not having a mate but they have not excelled in the principle things (that is delighting themselves in the Lord and learning to please Him.)
What an embarrassment to God for women/men to continuously pursue a thing so much that we forget about all He has blessed us with and who He is and the provisions He made and the great love He has for us to send Jesus to die for us.
Its like saying "Lord, you are not enough, you haven't done enough" and throwing a temper tantrum...ok, off my soapbox - sorry.
Back to the book, it helped me to fall more deeply and more intimately in love with the Lord. Another book that helped me with this is McKinney's book - The Secrets of an Irresistible Woman A MUST READ.

Dr. De Angelis has written a book that will appeal to both men and women, although she does rely on stereotypical perpectives rather than providing more insightful and original suggestions. However, when it comes to men and women this may be a reasonable approach. I also recommend Men in Marriage: Straight Talk For Men About Marriage: What Men Need to Know About Marriage (And What Women Need to Know About Men)by Marty Friedman. This wonderful book provides a much needed male perspective and is presented in a unique and practical manner that both men and women will find useful in making lasting chages in their relationships.

I found this book imformative and a good read expect this book focused too much on serious relationships. It could have been more appealing to guy w/o girlfriends.

Guys, if you take away nothing else from this book, take the section on making love to a woman as good advice.

I was looking for a book to give me tips or ideas on how to improve my relationship. I am a guy and I need a list and I have a goal. This book does that, but you do have to read a little too. It is an easy read though. It also explains why women are the way they are. Strange but true. Guys-why do girls need to know where I went, who I talked to, how was my day, why I didn't check in. They have to be spying on me, right? It is a hard concept to accept and I still am having a hard time with it but this book helps explain why. How many times have we heard "let's have more quality time"? Well I have given out more details about my day like the people who came in, some problems I had, solutions I found,... at dinner instead of "fine" or "ok" and this was accepted as quality time. Granted she wants more, but I can do the quality time and eat at the same time. The book explains the telephone phenomenon which why my conversations last under a minute and hers are why they have "unlimited nights and weekends". Last example, I went to my wife and told her that "I appreciated all her hard work in her planning of making sure the kids and myself were happy." this was in the morning and when I got back home at the end of the day she was beaming and had a great day and the nice comment I said had made her day. Wow, that was kind of easy to do, even though I felt like a dork saying it that morning. Only draw back of the book was that I felt like my side of the story was not told and felt overwhelmed that this is a 2way street and what about how to make me happy? Granted, its usually quite simple and obvious but none the less needed. Well I have ordered her other book about what secrets guys want girls to know and that will probably do a good job doing just that. It should be here today. Good luck.

This book is based on the author's very stereotypical views of both the male and female genders. She continually describes all women as being essentially emotional creatures who need constant support and affirmation from men. Similarily, she depicts all men as being analytical and goal orientated people who place less value on romance and relationships. Obviously, men and women are different in certain ways and De Angelis does occasionally make some valid points about communication styles and how to better understand your significant other. But her comments are so exaggerated and generalized that she really destroys her own credibility.

Most people that are more open-minded about gender roles and don't fit into her extreme stereotypes will feel this book doesn't apply to them. She is also very insulting towards those who don't fit her gender stereotypes. For example, she describes a certain more analytical and less emotional woman she once knew, Abby, as being disconnected to her true "womanhood" because of bad past experiences. Maybe the reality is that people are just more complex and intricate than the simple stereotypes De Angelis would like to portray.

This is a pretty good volume. A good mix of quality photography as well as interesting prose. It is much better than traditional "kama sutra" books as it is geared toward modern readers and not limited to strict translations of original kama sutra text. About half the prose consists of new material that is relevent and interesting to the chapter themes.

I learned of my husbands sin 2+ years ago. We used this book in support group to help wives heal the wounds inflicted by our husbands sin and begin to journey towards restoration. God has used our marriage for his glory as we are today enjoying a marriage free from Sexual Sin.

I learned after recieving it, that you dont need the workbook as well as the book. It is nice to have both, but not a neccesity. I've gotten about half-way through the book and it has been eye-opening at points.

After my husband read "Every Man's Battle" and found it to be extremely helpful, I bought this book with the hope that I would feel the same level of support. Instead, I often felt as though salt were being rubbed into my wound. In light of several other resources I have used, I feel that this book could be potentially very harmful. It does have some excellent portions. However, I would recommend women start with "An Affair of the Mind," by Laurie Hall.

This is an excellent book if you are interested in learning about relationships and how they work. Using findings of a large study done in the 1980's, Pepper Schwartz, shares how certain heterosexual couples have created peer marriages. Peer relationships are common among homosexual couples, but rarely do heterosexual couples have peer relationships. Society makes this kind of union difficult for heterosexuals to attain and maintain largely due to the strong drawing power of tradition and societal expectations.

"Love Between Equals" is not necessarily a step-by-step guide to building the perfect relationship, but it brings up a lot of interesting points that provoke deep thought about what is important in relationships. Schwartz writes about the difficulties, challenges, and possible downfalls of peer marriages, but she stresses even more the deep satisfactions that are expressed by peer couples. She compares peer marriages to traditional marriages and near-peer marriages and helps to uncover some of the mystery behind common dissatisfactions that are found in these more traditional and common relationship forms.

I want to be able to make informed decisions about my relationships. The more knowledge I have the better my decision will be. In reading this book I realized that I had held some preconceptions about marriage which could have eventually been very detrimental to my happiness and the success of my relationship. One of these ideas was that, as a woman, I would be the primary parent. I didn't envision my spouse as being involved in the care-taking aspect of parenting to the extent that I expected to be. Now I realize the value in true coparenting. It keeps parents connected to eachother and makes for a more cohesive family unit.

I have been passing on information from this book since I read the first chapter, but now that I have finished it I am even more excited about sharing the powerful ideas revealed between its covers. It has encouraged me to think in depth about what kind of a relationship I want, the amount of work that is required to have that kind of relationship, and the rewards that can be experienced. This book will broaden your horizons!

E. Rootvik

I think "LOVE BETWEEN EQUALS" can give any two people who really desire to have a true sense of equality in their marriage or partnership - a GAUGE by which they can isolate the important issues in relationship and a way to measure how they are doing with these issues.

If they take the various issues presented and discuss them fully and fairly, they will know what is working about equality in their relationship and which areas need work. It is not for those with namb-pamby relationship (just foolin around stuff) or those where one person dominates and wants to continue dominating - the risk of becoming equal may be too threatening.

It is not a how-to book. It does not have to be. It doesn't tell you how to achieve equality. What it does teach you to do, as I said before, is to think about what equality really looks like and how to check your relationship out.

If you want to do something about it, you will probably need other help. But this book will give you a handle on what it is you need to do and it should be thoroughly digested and discussed, before deciding what your next steps are on the way to having that sense of equality. I would be glad to discuss what I wrote with anyone.

WARNING: THIS BOOK MAY BE DANGEROUS TO LOUSY RELATIONSHIPS!

This book is very unbalanced in that it stems form a very small group of subjects that were surveyed. It seems that all the couples were middle to upper middle class with some kind of higher education. This is important to note because of the way she talks about job flexibility. This book also neglects the role of religion and culture in the aspect of equality and tradition.
I do however feel that she has some great ideas when it comes to the "shared child" and that regardless of how that marriage works out that only good can come for the idea of a share child.
If you do choose to read this book I feel that it is helpful to note that the classification of the types of marriages tend to be very extreme. It also contains many type-o's.

Not only is she a relationship expert but she knows how to write a captivating book and give you unique insight into your relationship, your partner and yourself.

Having had the opportunity to meet her in person, I was thrilled to read her books and even more thrilled to take her new online personality quizes at www.perfectmatch.com

They give you insight into your personality and the personality of your potential mate or who you should be looking for. Of course her partnership with PerfectMatch is, to coin the phrase, a PerfectMatch. You go on the site, take the tests and can even search for others who have taken the tests. You are almost guaranteed a PerfectMatch.

The questions of power and equality must not be thrown out of the window in the name of marriage. I have thought this for many years.
Reading "Love Between Equals" helped me discover that I am not alone.
While stressing that it takes work to maintain a peer (sexual) relationship, Dr. Schwartz paints a picture of the lasting satisfaction that results when a couple actively rejects the dominant-submissive model.

I have great communication skills with my clients...but as a couple, we never learned how to communicate. For me, the "Ten Conversations" you must have are perhaps a bit like reviewing a complicated business contract and hammering out the details. The real jewel of this book is the first 65 pages on the basics of good communication (something I missed along the way). My wife and I are finally discussing things that we have kept bottled up inside. Just ordered two copies for my married children. I wish we had this book 30 years ago! Thanks Guy for the help.