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After reading this book I feel disappointed! I expected more! But, just like men, this book is a huge let down! It reads like Seventeen Magazine and reminds me of those cheesy jr high books like, "How to meet Boys" ( hang out where he plays sports) and "How to be a great kisser".(practice on your hand!)
Too cheesy, not funny and a waste. Then again if you are 17, go for it!

Between what we would like to happen in relationships, and the facts...Everything written in this book may not be rosey-posey, Even-Steven, however no one said life was "fair"...

Author Of Black Women Deserve Better

A guy comes clean and tells us girls why men behave the way they do. Why they take your number and wait 2 weeks to call, stuff like that.
The best thing is that it clears up a lot of misunderstanding between the sexes and gives clear instructions on how to make your guy genuinely happy in your relationship - which is good for everyone. it also helps weed out the self-centred losers.
I read with horror as he described perfectly a couple of exes of mine that, in his opinion, would never make good partner material and were a complete waste of my time to bother trying to have a relationship with.
Definitely worth the money!

Okay, I will say upfront that I jumped back into the dating pool after 30 years and I am looking for ways to understand the male psyche. I think the author does have a good grasp of the way that most men's minds work. Being a child of the 60's, however, I was totally turned off by the emphasis on getting men to spend money on you - and even just manipulating male friends to spend their money on you. I have no problem with paying my own way; I was looking for information on how to understand a man's perception/behavior better so that I could meet him in the middle. If you can ignore the emphasis on manipulation for greed and the lack of editing, you will learn plenty about the male mind.

What a traitor this author must be. Reading this I felt like I was in the guy's locker room alone with a turn coat. The language is a bit raw at times, but not obscene. It's like having an older brother warning you about stuff guys do, and showing you how they think and how to make them get all stupid over you. It was brutally honest. Of course I had to try everything out for myself, and to no surprise, these things worked. Guys for the most part are a lot easier than they let on. A wink and a smile can get you far without having to do anything you feel uncomfortable doing.

Some of what you read here may not sound like it can work, but I have had a lot of fun playing with the advice here, and as long as it works, I am happy to have hot guys doing nice things for me for a change.

I just love this book! I have bought many copies to share with friends. It makes a perfect gift for a any couple just getting married or in a committed relationship but it's an important reminder for all of us.
Gay and Katie Hendrick's continue to share their wisdom of creating a conscious relationships. This book with the CD is extra special gift.

All relationships that are spirit centered have a greater chance of success. Couples who are committed to their spiritual growth will enjoy Spirit Centered Relationship and find helpful tools. Learning to be present is a helpful tool for relationships and life mastery. I offer couples retreats in Sedona, Arizona and this book along with others by Gay and Kathryn are on the required reading list.

There is no bibliography in this book; it is an opinion of a couple married for 20 something years and their experience. If I want someones experience, Ill ask them .It seems anyone can publish a book. I would never recommend this. My therapist even panned it. One star is an over rating. It wasn't helpful advice at all.

Very good book. It helps couples understand that a spirit of wonder is necessary to help a relationship thrive.

Our experience so far has been a mixed bag....the overall rating we would give to this material is 4 stars.We have to add a caution though that you NEED to be patient and open and, most of all, ready to WORK at understanding these concepts and ideas. The basic premise is great but upon reading the material you may find that the Hendrick's tend to forget that perhaps many of us do not have years of experience in this area. A much clearer and more concise (if possible) plan/instruction would be a good start. Perhaps include some more examples of how others have used these ideas as well. Once we read the material a few times it is starting to make more sense....again..overall we give this a good rating and have recommended this to others already.

What can I say? Not only is the book freaking hilarious to read (I think I laughed so hard I nearly cried), but it's obvious from the get-go that the advice is dead on. Coming out of a very long term relationship I was completely clueless on how to date, even though I'm in my late 20's. I live in a big city, so it wouldn't be hard to find dates, but I knew I was looking for more than just random flings and hook-ups. I was looking for a real partner I could share my life with. But how to find that man? What exactly should I even be looking for? This book has a lot of answers. Harkening back to the 1950's style of dating (which women 70+ tell me is the only way to date and find a good man), you let the men compete for you. Instead of throwing yourself onto a guy and freaking him out, or having him be "just not that into you" yet you completely over-fixate on him (we all do it!), you just follow the Plan, be the amazing woman you are, and let them come to you. Believe me ladies, it will happen! My girlfriends were all so amazed that not only did I not have any problem finding dates, I was having so much fun at it! And within 4 months I found a great man who I am now dating exclusively. For those of you who want more interactivity, check out the website and forum ([...]), where the author and other Four Man Planners will share their experience and advice. A must-read for anyone who is tired of meeting (or falling for) Mr. Wrong or Mr. Right-now. Don't settle for anything less than you deserve! Thanks, Cindy Lu!

I am recommending this little book to all my single girlfriends! It is spot on, plus the artwork is so funny (page 105 totally cracked me up).
And I don't think it's disrespectful to men; rather, it acknowleges that some men are real players -- and others will be duds you won't want a third date with -- but Lu's philosophical approach lets you include these men as your potentials in a way that is freeing, loving, and understanding!

I think this book will help a lot of women - as for me - I am busily collecting Quarter Men and having more fun than I've had in months!

This has got to be the very best "How To" book I have ever read. Not only does Cindy put a humorous twist to this whole dating thing, but she really breaks it down for you. I read this book in one sitting; that's how good it was. It really makes you look at yourself in a whole different light and reflect that we, as women, usually do allow our Va-jajay's do most of the decision making when it comes to our counterparts.

I loved this book and will definitely put "The Plan" into practice.

This book hit the mark with me. I picked it up by complete chance, and it made so much sense. It is funny and entertaining, but when I put it into practice is when the real fun began.

To those who think the book encourages disrespect to oneself or another, I have to disagree. Yes, it's tongue in cheek. It's real. It addresses how women talk to each other and act around guys. The heart of the book though is (to me, and to many others who have put it to use) all about respect. It's not about finding a husband. By re-learning a new way to interact with people I found a greater capacity for understanding, practiced unflinching honesty, became less judgemental, and was humbled by the people I met and had the joy of interacting with. Did I marry every one? No! But each one taught me something about the world and something about myself.

If you push yourself to read it and be brave and try it out, you'll realize it's about more than just dating (though that's quite fun). It's about cultivating respect for yourself, your boundaries, your time, your heart, and for the people around you and the roles that they fill in your life. Give it a shot. Buy it for yourself, or for a friend who desperately sucks at love!

A failed marriage and a bumpy entry into on-line dating left me open to the idea that picking good men and developing strong, healthy relationships was not, perhaps, my strongest suit. I stumbled onto this book and it's the oddest darn thing--I found wisdom, insight and understanding in a self-help book about dating. I mean, compassionate, funny, smart and truly helpful wisdom! From The Wait for Sex Index to The Breakup Ladder, Cindy Lu offered tools that changed my approach to dating. I'm much happier and guess what: the men I'm dating are so much nicer!

So many of my family and friends who have children are also having problems with their husbands...the husbands feel left out. This book has great suggestions for keeping intimacy on track, whether with just a simple back rub or a night for just the two of you, and what to do when you just don't feel like it.

I've recommended it to everyone I know who has kids, and highly recommend it here!

I was disappointed in this book. Given the editorial reviews and other reader reviews, I thought it might be a humorous look at sex and the lack of sex in the post-baby relationship as well as ways to rekindle the romance. What I read was much different. There was information on how the sex life changes (hence the 1 star), but I was turned off by a lot of the recommendations. For example, women who are suffering from post-baby negative body image probably wouldn't find the tip to rent a pornographic movie or let her husband read pornographic magazines helpful. Nothing like comparing that body to the idylic ones in the magazine pages...Also there were sections called "hide your smut" and instructions on how to handle when your children find your "treasure chest" of adult materials. Not exactly what I had in mind.

I have been searching for ways to rekindle my sex life with my husband in between work, family life, etc.. This book, by the authors of the Good Vibrations Guide to Sex (which I also recommend), is excellent. It deals with very real issues (body image, going from mother to sexual goddess) and also has creative, funny, sexy ideas to jumpstart your sex drive. It's for real moms who want to discover the sexy mamas within!

If you read this book with a open mind, it will help you not only with women, but with any relationship. I think this book was influenced by Dale Carnige's classic "Win Friends and Influence People." If you have read books on leadership and management, you will definately see some similarities.

I was surprised that this book got so many negative responses. I think thats because of the cover photo. Many people probably bought this book thinking that it was a guide to getting quick and easy sex from women. It is not. It is a book that helps men build healthy relationships with women, which NATURALLY leads to an active sex life. You don't need to act cool, brag about your exspensive new car, or show off your body. By taking a sincere interest in people and having a confident, positive attitude about life, you will always get further with people in the long run.

I would recommend this book to men over the age of 21. I think this book is geared towards a slightly more mature audience than most other books about success with women. If you are intrested in one-night stands and picking up women in clubs, then this book is probably not for you. I would suggest that you buy one of Neil Straus' books or Mysteries "Mystery Method."

This book is filthy trash. The people who wrote this are money making A@# holes. I wasted my money and I hope you don't. They even try to lie to you by saying there are already 50 thousand copies in print. Truthfully, if you don't want to have any dates, relationships, friends, and one night stands then by this book.

While I haven't read it yet, their first book, "Make Every Girl Want You" is supposed to be pretty good. "The Nice Guy's Guide. . . " however is mostly a money making scam. I read it in a couple of hours, and got some useful pointers, but lots and lots of references back to the first book. Also lots of suggestions that I should check their web site to buy more stuff online. Additionally, no where on the cover material does it say anything like "this is the 3rd book in the series on how to get girls, and you should check out the other two first". Pretty misleading.

Yes, I read this intelligent book one enchanted month a couple years ago, and ever since, I've developed a daily mind-progamming to believe there are tons of girls out there who actually like nice guys as opposed to all of the arrogant and abusive jerks they are mysteriously always drawn to, because it really makes me FEEL BETTER TO BELIEVE AN OUTRIGHT LIE THAN THE ACTUAL TRUTH!! I'll believe that pigs can fly, too, if it means I can feel better in doing so. I really don't have ANY past social experiences of my own (or even a functioning brain for that matter) to prove this new, time-stopping revelation wrong, anyway. Ofcourse, pretty women still act like they'd rather swim in a sewer or jump into a bottomless pit for all eternity than to actually give me the time of day, show me a little respect, fight the urge to vomit once they see me, or heaven forbid, be even remotely attracted to me. But I don't care, because after reading this wonderful, delightful, and happy life-changing fantasy book written by Mr. Rogers himself, now I know that they actually DO like me despite their cruel, heartless, and superficial ways of showing it. Heck, they're women! We weren't supposed to understand them anyway, since they are so special and dramatically delightful creatures due to thier insane complexities that baffle even the brightest "Einsteins" of today. Maybe, just maybe, since they obviously like me so much, in 30 or 40 years from now, one will actually grow a heart and give me a chance. Yeah... that's what I want to believe. It feels so good to believe it and it makes me such a confident and successful chic-magnet in the process. Well, ok... they're ugly chics ofcourse, but atleast they actually treat me like a human being and help me feel worthy of even ANY female companionship for the next 30 or 40 years. That way, maybe, just maybe, I'll have enough training and confidence in myself in 30 or 40 years to believe that that beautiful blonde sitting across from me at the club is actually being civil and responsive to me and is NOT answering to a "dare" or performing some kind of sick joke on me. No, I'll be able to believe that she actually finally got the hint that most gorgeous guys and "bad boys" have nothing to offer her but physical and emotional abuse, besides just looks and attitude. And at that long-awaited time, I will be in total awe of her earth-shattering intelligence... I mean, hey, it only took her about 30 or 40 years to figure out that intensely complicated, concept of the century! I think then, I'll realize that she's actually bright enough to tie her own shoes AS WELL as putting on loads and loads of make-up every self-absorbed day for the rest of her fulfilling life. Folks, STOP TRAFFIC for this AMAZING MASTERPIECE of a book! It will help you realize all those painful cold shoulder's, complete lack of interest and respect, attitudes, agonizing laughs directed towards you, and soul-searing glares and looks of total disgust, are merely just their "friendly" way of letting you know they do actually LIKE you. Just wait a few decades for them to REALLY show it like normal people. WHAT AN UNBELIEVABLE MIND-BLOWING JOKE TO END ALL JOKES EVER CONCIEVED BY THE HUMAN RACE!!!! FELLOW NERDS, UGLY MEN, SHY MEN, LOW-SELF-ESTEEMED MEN (gee, I WONDER why), AND COMPLETELY BEYOND A SHADOW OF DOUBT "JINXED" MEN, ONLY READ THIS IF YOU WANT A LONG, HARD, GUT-BUSTING, AND LIFE-THREATENING (due to a LACK OF OXYGEN) LAUGH!! AND ABOVE ALL, DON'T INSULT YOUR OWN INTELLIGENCE BY BUYING INTO THIS CRAP!!THEY ONLY WANT TO PROVE YOU'RE NOT ONLY A LOOSER, BUT THAT YOU'RE A DUMB LOOSER!! I KNOW WOMEN HAVE FOREVER DESTROYED YOUR SOUL, BUT ALWAYS STRIVE TO HAVE A BIT MORE SELF-RESPECT AND DO NOT BELIEVE THIS INCREDIBLY FALSE LIE!

It should not have repeated the same stuff as they did in they're other books. Changing the title doesn't make it a different book.

I was given this book as a present and I didn't start reading it until things were NOT that exciting in the bed between me and my new husband.

Ladies, all you need to read is the chapter "For Women Only" and your sex life will be changed forever!!! Since reading our sex life has gone from "guess I have to do this" to "can we do it again?!?!"

I give it to every newly married couple as a gift. I've given it to 7 girlfriends and all 7 of them have reported that it was the "best gift ever" and thanked me immensely for it.

I recommend it to newly married couples or for those who would like to find more enjoyment in their sex life. God created sex to be enjoyed by both men & women & this book is a great guide to help you enjoy sex to the fullest!

my fiancee and I are reading this as our weding date comes. some chapters we are waiting tell the wedding is done before reading, but a good book.
LaHaye doesn't know anythign about end times and novel theology should always be "left behind", but this is a good book

Sent this to my daughter as my sisters insist it inspired and dramatically improved their love life.

found this book had some interesting information. It brought my husband and I closer...sort of rekindled the flame after 28 years of marriage. I especially liked that it is written from a Christian view point and answers many questions about sex and marriage by looking directly to the bible to see what God wants for us and from us. Also has a lot of practical info. from years of research and marriage counseling. I think it would be especially helpful to newlyweds. Down side: stereotypes the roles of wives and husbands a bit. We need to work together, taking advantage of our God-given gifts and interests. That may mean the wife handles the finances or the husband does the cooking (just an example).

Me and my wife liked this book a lot. There is very good information about how to approach most of the situations you face when you are a newly wed

Taken into Custody: The War Against Fatherhood, Marriage, and the Family

With "EVERY SINGLE GIRL'S GUIDE", Adryenn Ashley has packaged a necessary lesson for todays' about-to-be-married woman in an easy to read style. With the death rate for first marriages running at approx. 50%, many women will be marrying divorced men. Those men carry a lot of baggage, and step children are, arguably, the least of the lot. There is an ex-wife to consider, and the biases of the family courts, and the child support payments. In a light, sometimes humorous, writing style, Ashley has created a road map through the mine fields of marrying after a divorce. Chapter after chapter covers all the important topics, the financial aspects, the problems you will share with your recently divorced new husband, and the emotional import. Put romance aside while you read for practical effect. A real eye-opener, and a necessary prep before saying, "I DO!"

This book is hilarious and should be mandatory reading for anyone dating a previously married man. It will help you to feel empowered and knowledgeable about the big issues in marriage. As we all know, communication is essential for a healthy relationship and money is one of the most common triggers of fights between spouses (or spouses-to-be). So, here is THE guide to get you talking and laughing at the same time!


Now, if your future husband has children from a previous relationship (and you don't), it would be a good idea to brush up on your safety and read a parenting book or two ;) This can help ease any tension that might creep up with the ex! ;)Care for Kids: The Essential Guide to Preparing Caregivers

Fun book and very easy to read. I have bought several copies and have given them away at my pleasure parties to my brides to be. Plus, I have a gaggle of single girlfriends and have gifted this book to them and they LOVED it, too.

Knowledge is power is my motto. Adryenn teaches you everything you should know before you even think about getting married. Fun read and very sensible advice that you can put to use immediately.

I own this book and found it both fun to read and filled with great tips and must have information for any woman who plans to spnd her life with someone. Whether you're marrying a divorced man, or even just in a long term relationship without marriage plans - like myself - this book will be very helpful to you in planning your relationship strategy.

Adryenn Ashley's book is a clearly written, current, All-in-One, comprehensive guide to creating a marriage financial plan. Don't waste your money buying other books, then try piecing together outdated information.

If you have questions, need help planning your future marriage finances or getting through the legalese, this is the guide for you. Adryenn Ashley's book was written to strengthen marriages through sound and proven financial planning. Every Single Girl's Guide to Her Future Husband's Last Divorce

Jeramy Clark does not convince anyone that dating is God's will. He redefines dating according to the dictionary - but if the dictionary definition accurately described what a typical high schooler has in mind, the typical high schooler would not be interested!

Clark says to keep it lighthearted - that is NOT what most young women have in mind, especially not Christian young women. Except for special occasions like proms and homecomings and so on, the dictionary definition is irrelevant. Young Christian women are looking for The One, and usually doing so in some combination of desperation and faithlessness - looking for a young Christian guy to come along and make her complete. Well, girls, Jesus makes you complete, even in your singleness, even if you're single for 5, 10, 20, or 50 years! Your Bridegroom will come, riding on a white horse - read about Him in Revelation. And the young Christian guys you are looking to for completeness - they're still more interested in sports and video games than in relationship with God or anyone else! Go to them with your longing hearts, and they'll play you for sport, and like a video game! They are not yet men - that's why you need to wait.

Waiting is an important Christian discipline, and unfortunately it's especially hard for young Christian women precisely because Christian culture honors marriage. We need to honor marriage AND singleness, and teach our young people that the Lord is God, that He is our Fulfillment and our Lover, and that marriage is a ministry - not a proof of blessedness.

You know what Christian young people need to be learning relationally? Brothers need sisters, sisters need brothers, and while some brothers and sisters will marry, they will always need both brothers and sisters, and will remain brothers and sisters through all eternity - even when earthly marriage gives way to the eternal union of the bride and the Bridegroom.

Most of this is covered quite clearly in the Harris book that Clark seems at first to be opposing. It's all the anti-Harris writing that seems to be laced with stereotypes and name-calling. If you read the Harris book, you'd know that there's no holier-than-thou to it. People who are more committed to dating than to Scripture are livid that someone would suggest something as radical as giving up the world's model for dating, probably because they believe that dating holds the key to their dreams. Clark does a good job of trying to calm those fears, and pointing young people toward the Lord, but his strategy seems to be to accommodate the fears of young people by avoiding Harris's straightforward approach.

So Harris is able to be much more direct, while Clark is stuck dancing around issues - Clark sees this as avoiding the extremes, but to me it comes off as a desperate attempt to help Christian young people to keep from seeming uncomfortably different from their non-Christian peers. Clark wants it both ways - "Hey, it's fine for Christians to date, as long as they only date other Christians, because you'd never marry a non-Christian, but then you're not dating with marriage in mind, so just keep it lighthearted, but make your dates like interviews, because a dating relationship is like interviewing for a job, but you're not marrying, so you can walk away from a dating relationship, and after you've walked away from a few dating relationships you'll be more knowledgeable about marriage-like relationships, and you'll be better prepared to find The One, and somehow your past relationship experiences will not be problematic in your eventual marriage, because they were just lighthearted, but somehow these lighthearted relationships managed to be really insightful."

In the end, Clark is probably like so many Christian youth workers who want kids to hang on to their faith, and not see it as an impediment to getting what they want in life. If this book helps the young folks get through this experience relatively unscathed, I'm glad it was written. I just think kids who read and take in what Harris is teaching in IKDG (and really, you ought to read "Boy Meets Girl" immediately after IKDG) will learn more about God's plan for romance and marriage than is taught in Clark's book, and less about how to "Christianly" try do like the world does.

BTW, the most surprising element of Clark's own experience is how much it matches that of Harris. Clark describes his teenage experience of dating around, and following the world's model for dating. Then, when called upon by his youth pastor to move into something of a leader/giver role, he himself "kissed dating goodbye!" During this period, he refocused his life on growing up in the Lord, and became an effective minister of the Word of God. Then in the midst of his devoted service to God as a single person, the more mature believers around him encouraged him to look into a serious relationship with a young woman who was similarly committed to service to God in her singleness. Then Jeramy and Jerusha began dating (Harris would probably call it courting, since they were both of age to marry, and both were exploring that possibility in their dating), and wound up getting married. The big mystery, really, is how a guy who actually lived what Harris wrote about could have come to a point where he wants to teach contrary to what Harris presented, and against the life decisions he actually made.

There's a lot of good stuff in the Clark book, so if your mind is made up on dating, it may be the best you will be willing to read. If you want to make singleness work toward the glory of God, though, feel free to do as Harris AND Clark have done in their own lives - give yourself to the Lord's service in your singleness, and just watch God bless. You may or may not get a spouse - BUT YOU'LL GET GOD, AND YOU CAN'T GET BETTER THAN THAT! Fall deeply in love with the Lover of your soul, experience the warmth and excitement of what John Eldredge calls the "Sacred Romance." And if you do get married, you'll have the greatest wedding gift to give your spouse - a man or woman of God who is actually capable of the spiritual wholeness and selfless give-and-take that is required to make a Christian marriage actually reflect the glory of the relationship between Christ and His Church.

I read this 4 years ago when I started dating my fiance'!
We decided to kick off our relationship by reading this together (we were in high school) and it really gave us some good grounds to stand on. Definitely would recommend this to anyone who wants to start off on the right foot!

This book was seemingly written as a rebuttal to "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris. The difference between the two is easy to spot: Harris was 19 when he decided to give up dating, and Clark is 26. Obviously, from a Christian perspective, a 26-year-old man has a much better chance of supporting a family than a 19-year-old man does. Both men are pastors at their respective churches and their advice is scriptural. Clark uses his own real-life experience of dating and then marrying his wife, Jerusha, as well as sound biblical counsel and examples.

This book is exactly what the Church needed after the flood of anti-dating holier-than-thou material that has ruined many Christians' perspective on God's will. Here you will find solid definitions without straw-man arguments or reactionary statements. A balance has finally been struck! Thanks, Jeramy. God has used you to bring hope for the future.

i may be jumping in to this discussion several years too late, but i'm glad i read these attacks on someone who's passion is to see young men and women find love in a healthy way. i know how this book came about and i read it several years ago before i got married. not only would i say that jeramy took the time to search scripture, but you're hearing from the heart of a man who intimately knows god.

hands down beats any other christian book on dating. especially 'choosing god's best'. john calvin wouldn't even appreciate that book.

This is a nice read; funny, sarcastic and almost unbelievable at times.

How can singles date? Diane Mapes maintains most people don't know how to date anymore - and while there are plenty of books telling how to snare a wonderful man or woman, few teach now to be fair and attractive to others. Single readers will here find a romantic etiquette guide for modern times, designed as a portable tote and field guide and providing advice gleaned from the author's interviews with singles across the country: singles who hate dating!

Diane C. Donovan
California Bookwatch

This is definitely one of the better dating books I've read.

I found this book to be encouraging - it really enforced my belief that both men and women are very lonely and that not very many people actually enjoy being single. That most of us are trying to find someone we think we deserve who we can be with long term, in order to feel loved and less lonely. And that dating is the only way you can do that, so you might as well go into it with a positive attitude that you will enjoy dating and try to make it as enjoyable for the people you date as well.

That's the main thing I took home from this book, but there is a lot more. It was also a fast, enjoyable read because it was written with a great sense of humor.

I agree with the reviewer who stated that this book seems to focus on old fashioned basics like, "Try to have nice teeth." That stood out for me, too. The author actually admits that she collects old how-to dating books from the 30s, 40s, 50s, etc. and throughout the book you will find these old fashioned dating guides cited again and again! And largely, this is a updated compendium of those. There are also references to current authors on dating and relationships and gender politics; the biggest thing I got out of this book was a reading list of other books...that turned out to be better than this one. Better guides to what it's like to actually get out there and date? Dating Amy, You Have to Kiss a Lot of Frogs, the online guide from Sarah Susanah Katz called Dating in the Suburbs, and Suzanne Schlosberg's The Curse of the Singles Table.

This is for very young people or for people who just got separated last week and need a primer again. And I didn't feel optimistic at the end of it; I felt kind of depressed. The book contains so many--this works, that doesn't, here's a problem, make sure you don't x, y, z...not terribly uplifting. Example: [Don't go to bars, because of the 80/20 rule. 80% of men all want to go after the top 20% best looking women, because even ugly fat guys think they all deserve hot chicks.] But then, the book contains a quote from someone who says something like, "Looks are important, but everyone is looking for something different." So, it ultimately is contradictory, and unless you are great looking, I doubt these kind of anecdotes are going to leave anyone feeling psyched to get dating...

I read "How to Date" cover to cover, often wishing that it would just go on forever. Diane Mapes is a great humorist and wordsmith. Wisdom and incite flow from every page. I have always thought she was funny and fun, as I have worked with her and met her on occasion at professional meetings. But knowing her just a bit did not prepare me for reading "How to Date."

I read it mostly on my daily bus commute which made for some pretty funny looks from
various onlookers. At times, people would start reading over my shoulder and
I was forced to give it to them until I left the bus--that was the only
reason it took longer than usual to read as it was a real page turner.

I have proudly convinced a number of folks to pick it up because it's not
just about losers trying to find themselves or the new, new thing on how to
get someone. It's about how we are today and how we actually might be better
with each other if we could step back and take a look. We could all use a
little more Diane Mapes in our lives.

Looking forward to the next one.