Sex Relationships Books

Information here that I've not seen elsewhere on the clitoris. Very explicit - tastefully done - great techniques. Good for both the novice and the "sexually sophisticated." Covers intimacy, communication, listening, receiving, vibrators, ... way more than simply massage. It truly is an "ULTIMATE GUIDE TO INTIMATE AROUSAL." I went through the "70's Sexual Revolution" and this is the best and most complete book on love making I've ever seen. Buy it for yourself, your friends, and your adult children. Massage Secrets for Lovers

This book was a good read; however, I found that the end was a bit surprising. Good read to build confidence and allow you to see what is really important...

Author of How To Make Anyone Fall in Love with You, Leil Lowndes, writes this book in an informative style. She repeats many ideas from the first book. While there are a few things to learn from this book, I was looking for more depth.

This book is not only published by the best publisher that is the best academic publisher out their. But unlike most self help books it focuses more on the you can do it attitude rather then you screwed up now lets fix it or someone else did (like your ex) and you need to realize it.This Is a best selling author for a reason folks! And although some of the info in this book isn't brain surgery to already know for those who need reminding/verification in a humorous way this certainly is! This author rocks even if her knowledge isn't all accurate occasionally or hard to already obtain without this book.

The title of this book should read: "A BIBLE FOR THE DESPERATE SHALLOW SOCIAL CLIMBER." And since Ms. Lowndes doesn't bother with political/ethical or any kind of correctness, I'm surprised that the title says otherwise. This book would have been a lot wiser if it just said : Do not pick your mate out of desperation, but first, strive for happiness and better things in life. THEN pick a good mate who is like you and therefore would be compatible with you." AND THAT IS IT. But no, she had to go into the whole issue of class, which she got COMPLETELY wrong. I have NEWS for you, Ms. Lowndes, it is only shallow self-gratifying rich people who believe in class, nowadays. A lot of people with very humble origins have a LOT OF CLASS, as you call it. Class is not money, class is not FAKING or being rich, class is NOT gas stoves and parquet floors. You are sadly mistaken and you're broadcasting this nonsense for all to hear.
Having class means possessing certain qualities irregardless of the bank account balance. And I'm most certainly sure that a classy person doesn't divide people into frogs and leagues. If you can't do, teach... eh? I especially appreciated the end of the book, where Ms. Lowndes warns about the dangers of being a high-class faker, but then promises to pray for those who chose do go down that road anyway. That's just precious!

Lowndes seems to be dealing with a different age group than my own -- the post-menopausal woman whose value on the marriage market has limited trade value. A pedestrian version of what interpersonal communication and psychology researchers refer to as social exchange theory, the book offers practical advice for developing the social skills and contacts that will propel one into circles more moneyed than the ones in which one currently circulates. The dust jacket flap asks, "Do you crave someone creative, interesting and maybe famous," but I couldn't find any particular examples about penetrating artistic, musical or bohemian co-cultures. Maybe my eyes fell shut first, and I missed it.

...It is idiotic from the onset due to its premise and delivery. If the author had just said, "here are some ideas that will spice up your sex life", and been on with it, that would have been okay. But her delivery amounts to "wow, what a discovery I made, this is the secret to all unhappy couples across the world!". The secret basically being that she forced herself to have sex on a consistent basis with her partner and found that it was a good thing for her and her relationship.

The biggest problem is that in delivery, her message is about as authoritative as the opinions of a 17 year old. It's almost embarassing enduring her elaborate gushing about what an amazing and great thing it is. I'm reminded of Steve Martin in the movie "The Jerk", having sex for the first time and so excitedly telling everyone that he'd found his "special purpose" in life.

Which isn't to say that some forms of "sex therapy" isn't good for some couples. I believe that's the response we're hearing from 4 and 5-star reviews. Anticipation of the sexual act, along with creative ideas for how to make sex more fun, can certainly bring the focus around for some couples who are looking for more spice in their sex life. If that's what you're looking for, skip all the pages where the author is embarassing herself, and just go straight to the love-making ideas.

This book is written for couples who want to become closer through increased intimacy. The basic premise of the 28-day diet is to schedule time alone at least 4 times a week for 4 weeks, and for each partner to orchestrate two of the events as a surprise for the other. The author suggests a variety of elements to increase anticipation and pleasure from basic fun to mildly kooky. Based on my experience with my husband, I would suggest the ideas and suggestions in this book will be considered successful if both partners want to increase their intimacy, and both get into surprising the other with events of the loving gestures she suggests. The results of the diet for us include more closeness and more communication.

I have all of Laura's books and honestly, some are 3 stars or less. This one, however, is a clear winner. It is obvious she took a lot of time and effort in this one (perhaps now that she has a publisher, they have helped her with this). The concept is simple and therefore not too difficult for most people to follow.

Her tips in most sections are quite good - not too wild or kinky, but sensual enough that it has the desired results -- more passion.

One thing missing is ideas for romance to go along with the sex (romance and sex ARE two different things). If I keep tearing out pages just to fulfill my sexual lust then something is missing. If the only time I am paying attention to my partner and treating them nicely is during a sexual escapade, then they could start to feel like I'm using them.

I have found a good solution in the book, The Romantic's Guide by Michael Webb --it has thousands of creative ideas for letting someone know they are special (not just because you want to have sex with them).

If you use these two books in tandem, you will have the ingredients for a very blissful relationship.

I bought the book for my partner and I (his upcoming Christmas gift...) and think it's certainly worth a try for any couple who wants to become closer and enjoy better sex. The profiles of 38 couples' experiences illustrate that each can take her ideas and put them together in unique ways to fit their personalities and situations. Perhaps one of the most important aspects is that the book gives "permission" to be fun, creative, and passionate. A small investment for a possibly huge payoff. I'd say go for it.

I am always on the lookout for good books that help enhance my level of intimacy, and Laura Corn's The Great American Sex Diet is the best sex guidebook I have ever read! Sex therapist Laura Corn has cooked up the perfect ingredients to intensify couples' intimacy in twenty-eight days. Thus, making this book one of the most insightful and fulfilling reads I've ever had! I urge couples to pick up this great book!

If you're dealing with a fearful man, then you're far better off reading Erich Fromm's "Escape From Freedom" - especially the chapter called "Mechanisms of Escape." Don't be fooled by the age of Fromm's book - in my opinion, it's even more relevant today than it was in 1941.

I have no way of knowing what your man is like, but chances are if you're interested in books about his fear of commitment, then he has one or all of the following symptoms:

- He hates being alone.
- He has tyrannical tendencies, particularly toward you.
- He spends an inordinate amount of time and money on electronic entertainment.

It might just be that your man has a bad case of "Tyrantitis." I suggest that you read Fromm's book instead of this one, and THEN ask yourself about the wisdom of having sex with your man as soon as possible.

This book was great. I finally realized things that I never knew I was doing wrong as well as finding out about how men thisnk. It's like having a cheat sheet on men. It helped me discover the 4 most important things men are slooking for in a relationship. It also ashared things that men would never come out and tell us. I enjoyed evey chapter with the exception about the sex chapter...but it was written by a man... Obviously the author thinks that everyone in the world who is going to have a successful marriage must have sex first and there are still people in the world who eith don't do that or don't buy that it's o.k. Other than that narrow minded view the author seemed right on point.

Men don't commit for several reasons, little of which is stated by the good Doctor.

1. Yes, men are afraid to commit because there is much to lose and little to gain in this "feel good" society for a man to get married. Many women only commit to relationships today if THEY are the able to reap the benefits whether emotional, financial, security etc. from the relationship while for men it is a lifelong journey.

Fact: Many more women leave men and divorce them than men leave the woman for the very same reasons as stated above. Contrary to the Hollwood myth, most divorce is filed by the woman, near 70%.

2. It is this very self centered attitude that makes many men wonder "Does she really love me for me" and "Why would I make a commitment because if we divorce I lose everything". So, ladies the Doctor is right about some things but wrong in many others. If you really love your man, tell him and show him. Be honest with him, don't play games and if you don't love him for him, with all his faults.

Then you don't love him.

I found the first half of the book very very helpful. Most relationship books aren't written by a man on a man's perspective on relationships for women (at least not in this way). I found it very interesting understanding how men view their relationships with women, though the men that Dr. Weinberg works with or uses as examples in his book seem to be confused about male identity and masculinity. I don't think the theories in this book apply to all men. I don't think men in general rely on gut instincts and are unable to articulate their emotions about why they can't commit (I know many that can).

I was disappointed because I bought this book based on the 5 star reviews. Unfortunately, I found the book a little too value based and not objective enough for me. I think every woman should find Dr. Weinberg's four theories about men's basic needs in a relationship very useful (I did), but the chapters after this made me put the book down. I hope there aren't any women that by into the chapter about sex (as soon as possible) and how it affects committment, intimacy or whatever (there are so many opinions about sex, which mostly depends on a person's values, morals, and religion and I found the chapter too biased and flawed.)

I appreciate the review from the man that wrote "don't buy into it ladies . . ." (re: the book in general). Read his review before you buy this book; I didn't.

This book is well-written, in an easy to understand manner, and is so incredibly insightful and helpful I can hardly believe it. It identifies exact problems I have been having with my boyfriend but never knew what was actually wrong. It also has fabulous suggestions for help. This is a great book.

I read this a good while ago. It was fine, but too long and too much ultimately. I'm sure it was a much better blog.

I loved this book and if you google her name it will take you to her blog page.

Much like Sex and the City, Diary of a Sex Fiend is an account of a very sexual woman's trials and tribulations with lust. The book chronicles a year in the life of Abby Lee, whose sexual escapades aren't for the prudish. This book is hilarious and brutally honest, while exploring the needs of a "sex fiend". It is a really quick, funny, easy read that will constantly have you turning the page.

While the title would lead you to believe that all this woman does is sleep with various partners, nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, her moral values actually keep her from sleeping with a great number of men for any number of reasons. This tends to be paradoxical, as she will sleep more willingly with strangers than with established men friends who she knows and likes.

The meaning behind her writing is that she is a nymphomaniac and either doesn't realize it, or can't come to grips with that fact. Anyone who finds it necessary to "fiddle" more than once a day definitely has a psychological problem and should address the issue through counseling rather than by finding more and better ways to get it on with different men.

In many ways, the book is sad. She has issues and doesn't deal with them well. I am in favor of liberated women, but this isn't really about that, despite her protests to the contrary. It is a good read, if for no other reason than to be able to see what a person in trouble looks like.

This book is a completely uninhibited one year diary about a single lady's obsession with sex, experiments (bisexual, threesomes, s&m, you name it and it is there...) and her attempt to get into a serious relationship. It is very British in its language but the British slang makes it really warm. There are lots of (helpful?) sexual and relational tips for both men and women. And the eroticism hits you pleasantly. Definitely worth a read.

I have read a lot of marriage-related material lately, and I would recommend this book as the most succinct. It's a quick read and gives lots of good Biblical advice, plus cites several other books which would be of interest. If everyone read this book and took it to heart, there would be no divorces!!

Women, if you want to REALLY understand your man's needs and expectations, this book is for you. This well-written tome is intended for women, but as a man, let me tell you, Shiela understands the opposite sex! My wife and I read it together and learned a lot. Shiela ends each chapter with advice for men...I appreciate that.

Shiela's writing is crisp; her observations fascinating; her conclusions dead-on. She offers hope to women with imperfect bodies and unpredictable sex drives. The book is tastefully modest but is still direct and to-the-point.

I predict that this book will help thousands of couples experience all the joy God intended for them in the bedroom. I highly recommend this book!

Shelia Wray Gregoire has an incredible way of telling it like it is in this book. I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book, as did my husband, and will recommend it to ALL of my married friends. She hit every single nail on the head with all of my issues concerning sex and intimacy in a Christian marriage, helping me to feel that I am not alone or abnormal. Sex for women is a head thing and Sheila teaches you how to retrain your thoughts and emotions to better allow you to not only enjoy that intimacy with your husband, but to also WANT it!!! (something I had just about given up on) Another thing that was great was the way she shows you the men's perspective on sex. It helps a lot just knowing where he is coming from. Plus she gives a special section at the end of each chapter just for the men to read that hits the main points of what you just read (in case he doesn't want to read the whole book). This is a book I don't recommend lending to friends, only because you will want to hold on to it forever and make notes in it and highlite areas and reread it many, many times! This is the first book of hers I have read, but I plan to find To Love, Honor, and Vacuum because of how much I enjoyed reading this one.

This is a letter I wrote to the author in response to the book, which pretty much covers my response:

Hi, Sheila. I've been reading your book, "Honey, I Don't Have a Headache Tonight," and I have enjoyed both your advice and your humor. I think you have written a needed and useful book.

However, I do have serious concerns with both the content and intention of your chapter on masculinity. My concerns come as both a Christian and as a feminist. As I was reading, I found myself wondering whether the intention of that chapter was really to help the reader have an improved sex life, or if it was to grind axes with feminists and liberals and others who don't align with the right-wing ideology that pervades much contemporary conservative Protestant thinking.

There were two passages that I found particularly troubling, especially from a Christian perspective. The first was the ridiculing of Bill Clinton for expressing empathy while lauding Donald Rumsfeld for lashing out with violence. I found myself dumbfounded and deeply upset by that. Which of those responses seems more like Jesus? Which way would we expect Jesus to respond, and which way did he ask that we respond? Without going into an unncessary and technical discussion of why retalitory violence is completely counter to Christian ethics, suffice to say that I cannot image that Jesus would agree with your assessment of those men, in any way.

And I had a similar response to your approval of a BBC article that bemoaned curricula that included questions beyond factual recall, with the author arguing that "[i]nstead of fact-retention and recall, in which girls and boys are roughly equal, the question now requires empathy, something that females excel in, and at which males are useless." God help us all if that is really the case! I'm just grateful that Jesus was not useless at empathy, and in fact excelled in it, and I am raising my son to excel in empathy, as well. It is certainly not unnatural to him. He will be one year old in two weeks, and he gets upset when another baby begins to cry, or when I am upset. Empathy appears to be natural for him, not something he is useless at, and I can only hope that the empathy he learns in our family and our church can sustain in him when our culture tries to kill it in him, telling him, as your book does, that it is not right for a man to have.

The fruits of the spirit are love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, goodness, faith, kindness, and self-control. While empathy is not explicitly mentioned, it is far easier to imagine it as part of the list than "adroitness at factual recall" or "tendency to lash out violently upon provocation." Those are the traits that Jesus' presence within us provides, whether we are male or female, and yet they look nothing like the masculinity that our culture lauds, or that you laud in the chapter I am discussing. They are the traits that, as wives, sisters, mothers, daughters, and friends, we should seek to encourage and admire in the men around us. In many ways, taking on those traits in a world that demands the exact opposite from men for them to be "real men" is a greater challenge than avoiding the temptations of sex and lust. And yet, the battle against lust is given so much more attention and validation than the battle to enact the fruits in a culture that asks men to deny those very traits. That is why I cannot help but think that many of your complaints in that chapter have less to do with either a desire to improve marriage relationships or a true contemplation of Christian manhood but rather a desire to grind axes with feminists and liberals and to encourage your readers to adopt right-wing views about gender, regardless of how well they actually conform to the example and teachings of Jesus.

I thank God that Jesus not only revealed God's amazing love to us, but also freed us from the shackles of the identities set for us by the "principalities and powers," among them the institutions that tell men that they must be violent, quick to anger, aggressive, militant, and without empathy. It is unfortunate that, today, the church--or at least some branches of it--is among the principalities and powers still promulgating those identities.

I pray that you take what I have written in the spirit it is intended, from someone who appreciates very much the work you have done and the wonderful advice you've given, but is deeply troubled by one particular section, in which I was left feeling like the spirit of grace and truth so evident in the rest of the book was lacking.

This book merely provides desriptions of what is good or bad in a relationship. Most couples already know and could recite the same things in their relationship. In fact they did in all the statistics mentioned in the book.

I found this book useless to help couples actually deal with the issues. The book preaches what is happy and unhappy.

There is no real practical exercises in the book that were interesting enough to try. If a couple is having a "unhappy relationship" how in the world do you think they are going to sit down and read the book or take the ridictulas mini quizes.

This is the biggest was of $22.00 I have ever spent on a self help book.

My husband and I bought a book too. Empowering Couples was a very helpful book for us. It is well written and has very useful relationship tips and information. It was also very fun doing the couple exercises with my husband. This book would make a wonderful wedding or shower gift for any couple, young or old.