Sex Relationships Books

This was a fun little work book. I used it as a wedding gift to my husband. He has really enjoyed reading through it--and all of my little comments. Basically, its a series of fun, serious, and quirky questions about how you feel towards your significant other. It makes a fun gift...but it isn't anything that would qualify as a marriage fixer or relationship rescue.

My husband is deploying to Iraq soon for 12 months and while he's away I'm going to complete this and ship it to him at the half-way mark. It will remind him that while he's gone things haven't changed about how I love him, and will make him feel a little closer to home at the same time. It will be the little things like this that will help us out.

I got this to give to my boyfriend and filling it out was so much fun. There are still many pages to go but, I let him read it. He said it was a very touching gift and he was so greatful that I thought enough of him to do something like this book.

This book is only any good if you and your partner are super lovey dovey and sugary sweet. I bought it for my husband for our 1st wedding anniversary and I struggled through the first 20 pages or so and then it got so ridiculous that I just gave up. I told my husband about it, read off a few of the questions, and he agreed that it was pretty darn stupid. It was supposed to be super sweet since for our very first anniversary I bought us the book All About Us and we loved it. I wanted to follow up with What I Love About You, and I do love my husband very much, but I don't know what kind of fruit he would be.

I absolutely love this book. I bought it to fill out for my fiance to give to him as a wedding present. You shouldn't be able to fill it all out at that time, so it can be an ongoing project that the two of you can do together. I highly recommend this!

This book is a good enough resource, but it just isn't all that interesting or "earth shattering". I would prefer to read a book about how to bridge the gap between what men think and what women think.

I first heard about this author when my wife was reading, "For Women Only." My wife kept asking me if what she was reading was true. At first I was intimidated by how candid and frank the author was, but I could not disagree that she described the inner landscape of men (at least of me!) with surgical precision.

Since then I have bought the man's version (about women), and bought this particular book for my two adolescent daughters. In our home we try to teach Christian faith, integrity and morality to our kids. This book fits with our goals and present information in a non-threatening and frank way to our girls. They were both startled and embarrassed by finding out the way boys think about girls, but the author speaks the truth!

As a male, son, brother and Dad I want my own daughters to have a correct idea about how males see girls and think about them. I believe this helps girls/women have the tools to behave morally and constructively in their relationships to men.

For example, men are very visually stimulated. To girls this at first seems academic: since bare female bodies (or parts thereof) are in many visual formats (movies, advertisements, magazine covers, posters), girls assume it is passe and "no big deal" to show lots of breast or other parts of their bodies. However, this book helps girls understand what a boys response to seeing female nakedness is like inside a boys mind; something a girl is unlikely to understand on her own.

Boys do not only think of sex, and emotional landscape of boys is neatly addressed in her as well as other issues too.

This book enables girls to understand boys better and relate to them in healthy and constructive ways. My 14 year old devoured it and before it hit the bookshelf my 12 year old read it and is sharing the contents with her friends. How can the mind and experience of the opposite sex not be interesting to adolescents? :)

Have your girls read this book and get the appropriate version for yourself to improve the health and morality of your relationships! The author is respectful but honest; she does a very good job.

I started with a book for myself called For Women Only and grew so much in my understanding of how God created men so different from women that I wanted my daughter to understand this as well. For young ladies attending public school I think you could introduce this book as early as 10 years old...with the ideal age being 12. For young ladies in private school that may be a bit more secluded from sexual information I would recommend introducing it a bit later. I gave it to my daughter at 14 and we went through it again at 15 1/2. It is good to go through it together to clarify things and keep that communication door open. Don't get caught up in the world views of dating at young ages and sex before marriage becasue of experience - Keep God as the Authority and stand firm in your parenting...God Luck! [...] author

I liked the book. It was an easy read. Being a little older myself and dating a guy that's younger than me I found it helpful to read how young guys think. It's very basic information and it's all that we know, but never think about (it's almost too easy). I definitely recommend this book to younger girls and I recommend that you girls take it seriously. It's all true. My boyfriend took a peek inside the book and decided to read it after he saw a couple of great sentences. I also bought "What You Need to Know about How Men Think" and "What You Need to Know about How Women Think", for me and my boyfriend. I'm convinced after reading these books we'll have more understanding of each other.

My teenage daughter requested a different book for Christmas, but when I read it, I was deeply concerned about the negative messages for young women. So I did some looking on my own and found For Young Women Only. I gave her both books and explained my concerns about the one she had asked for. She read both and threw the first one away because she didn't want to donate it and have some else read it. She thought that For Young Women Only gave her insights into young men that she didn't have before, but at the same time, it doesn't encourage young women to try to be something other than what they are. She has loaned her copy to her friends and recommended it to others. This book isn't as extreme as others on this topic, doesn't recommend that girls pretend to be things that they aren't and doesn't place all the responsibility for responsible behavior on the girls. It does help girls understand the struggle that their male friends face and should help them make better decisions in terms of clothing, behavior and dating situations. The book gives realistic and modern guidance to young women who want to avoid casual sexual relationships and to better understand their male friends.

Let's face it. If you've been married (and faithful) to the same person for 20 years, sex is going to get boring. And it probably didn't take 20 years either. Familiarity and excitement are not synonimous. On the other hand, sex can still be great and fun if you go by the instructions in this book. There is always a way to rekindle desire if the two involved parties are willing to make the effort. The key is willingness. It is assumed that the party who buys this book is willing, and hopefully has a willing partner. Another book that will guarantee that a couple's sex life is kicked into high gear is The Sensuous Couple's (Flip Over) Guide to Seismic Oral Sex. It's a flip over book, that comprises two-books-in-one. One side is practically an encyclopedia about fellatio. Flip it over and the othe rside is an encyclopedia about cunnilingus. Use both these books together, and you'll want to renew your vows all over again!

This book adressess a much ignored subject and provides a wealth of clinical material as well as a step by step guide for solving a very common and destructive problem.

The McCarthy's book is helpful to get the conversation started about low-sex marriage. However, it requires two willing or somewhat willing partners. Throughout the book he recommends getting a sexual therapist involved which is helpful if you live in a mdetropolitan area with that sort of resource. Their exercises are somewhat helpful but are not a menu of step by step. It is more of a conceptual exercise on how to assess where you are at and what the next steps might be to make things better between you both.

Recommended

The idea of rekindling desire, especially sexual desire is a worthy goal but it is not accomplished by the techniques listed in this book. They have identified a problem, explained it to a fare-thee-well, and alas, have come up with no genuine permanent solutions.

A word like "pleasuring" could only be concocted by an academic who lives
to sell a how-to book, regardless of its merits. "Non-whatever pleasuring" is a tortured use of language and merely turns one further off. How many of us, when things were hopping, ever thought about it as "pleasuring"? Never in language like this.

To 'rekindle' desire may be an impossible goal past a certain age. If it were possible to desire something once again, anything one valued in the past, it will take more than a read thru this tome. Take some real and greater pleasure in saving your money.

Taking pleaasure of any kind, desiring something ardently, uncontrollably is likely a neuro-chemical reaction in the brain which has somehow short-circuited over time, amidst the daily grind of human endeavor and which could likely be 'rekindled' only with an effective aphrodisiac, a selective amnesia, and/or a return to an innocent state. I'd opt for the Aphrodisiac.

Many eons ago a famous writer asked, "How does one get Love to stay?" My guess is what he really meant was how does one get Lust to recur throughout one's life.

The only thing for sure is that this book provides no answer, but instead begs the question.

The insight revealed to me through this book was truly life changing. It is a guide to help couples change the way they view their expectations of long term, marital sexuality and put a new, healthy perspective into practice in order to renew and energize a most necessary and wonderful part of their marriage. With the knowledge I gained from this book, along with lots of prayer and a little relationship counseling, I was able to take what years of shame and social stigma had me convinced was the "normal" way to participate in a marriage and exchange it for a positive and loving character that encouraged me to love my husband emotionally, spiritually and physically without preconceived expectations or fear - including fear of rejection. Our once nearly dead marriage has taken a fresh new breath of life.

I have 5 other book on Tantric and by far this is the best one.

The various media put out so much "bad" information w.r.t sexuality and relationships. As a teacher it breaks my heart to see our kids respond to all the bad roll models that are forever in the news. This book is a wonderful presentation of good information for "mature adult" relationships. It's a handbook for men on how to communicate the love they feel to the woman in their life. As a woman I was literally dumbfounded that this Australian man could write so clearly and concisely about my fears, desires and experiences. And he had information for my partner on how to lovingly support me both in and out of the bedroom. I encourage reading this as a couple. As a Mom of two adult children and a teen, I feel the best I can do as a parent is to share good information which will hopefully lead to good decisions. I fully intend to share this with my son in anticipation of his wedding, with my daughter to help her clarify what she wants in a relationship and likewise with my teen as he moves into adulthood.
I am basically an over 50 conservative girl-next-door. I am not comfortable with the "selling of sex" that can be associated with some of the tantric literature and media. But I honestly believe that everyone should consider at least the first 4 chapters of this book. I can't help wondering how different all of our lives would have been if our fathers had had this information.

I didn't really have a clue about Tantric sex and was always intrigued. What happens and how do you actually do it? Well, this great book answered all these questions. It gave me a good, solid foundation about tantric and also about how to please a woman. I highly recommended this read. I also liked and woudl recommend: Sex Machine: A Man's Guide to What Really Pleases a Woman in Bed.

As usual the new books sent by amazon.com are neatly packed and parcelled.
For me atleast there is an old charm about reading new crisp book without
any creases, wrinkles and the peculiar smell which makes a lot of
difference to me.

Now coming to the book i must say the author virtually leads you by hand
while explaining all the intricacy of Super Sex. He makes you feel SEX IS
NOT DIRTY BUT IT IS VITAL PART OF LIFE. You just cannot go wrong. All you
have to do is practice and more practice if you truly want to experience
not only MALE ORGASM but MALE MULTIPLE ORGASM and in the process also
help your wife/girlfriend experience a true orgasm as well as multiple
orgasm. (ofcourse some men and women may never experience true orgasm)
It looks like a far fetched story but it isn't the case once you read the
book. The achilles heel of the men the world over is PREMATURE EJACULATION
and this problem is nicely solved by giving practical hints and also
reasons for why male go through this experience. The younger and older
generation both will feel this book is an answer to their prayers and if
many of them give it an honest try will truely feel like STUDS. I honestly
feel that if every male practicess what is written there then their
relationships with their spouses will become more intimate and the
divorce rate in the world would certainly plummet down.
While the fundamentals of sex is Asian in nature and Indian in particular
the book nevertheless aims not only to the western audience but male
population of the world in general. The book is truely informative and
enlightening as well and a MUST READ FOR ALL THE MALE POPULATION OF THE
WORLD AND A MUST GIFT ITEM FOR ALL FEMALES OF THE WORLD TO GIVE IT TO
THEIR HUSBANDS/BOYFRIENDS.
The short coming is a glaring mistake on page 218 which could have been
avoided. It is printed GENTLY ENTER THE YONI WITH THE RING AND FOREFINGER
JOINED TOGETHER,RATHER THAN THE INDEX FINGER, WHICH IS MORE RIGID AND
LESS FLEXIBLE THAN THE OTHER TWO. This is wrong because index and
forefinger mean the same finger next to thumb. What should have been
printed is RINGFINGER AND MIDDLE FINGER OR MIDDLE FINGER AND INDEX FINGER
because ring finger and index finger together cannot be inserted in the
yoni. Hope in the next printing this error is removed. Cheers! :o)

The best book, period, for men who want to learn the essence of Tantra without all the attached Eastern mysticism. The techniques and their benefits are broken down into simple, easy to read steps and significance. I found this a great addition to "The Multi-Orgasmic Man." Whether you're looking to last longer in bed, bring more pleasure to your partner, and bring a heightened sense of love and spirituality to your relationship, I found this helpful for all of these things.

This book changed the way I relate to men. The techniques really work and I wish I would've read this book 20 years ago. I realized I can be feminine and receive love. I can allow a man to help me and not do everything myself. Since reading the book I've really enjoyed my new dating life and love being more feminine and having the ability to attract men. It's a lot more fun. I look forward to reading and learning more from this author.

John Gray's book emphasizes open communication in his book between men and women This is clearly important.

But, the open communication isn't so open at times. Gray doesn't encourage being candid at times. This is a slippery slope. For example, Gray says that if a man is late because of an accident on a bridge, he should apologize without explaining the reason for being late, and the woman should be nonjudgmental. Is this communication relationship enhancing?

Also, he frequently over emphasizes the differerences in men and women without acknowledging their similarities enough. For example, Gray's simplistic view of men as the wrongdoers in relationships and women as the saviors weakens the material. He explains in detail how men should learn to apologize and women should learn to forgive, but not vice versa. We all make mistakes in relationships and both parties need to learn the importance of sincere apology and forgiveness.

Good communication is clearly important in any relationship and I applaud John Gray's attempt to get couples to communicate, but emphasizing non candid behaviors dilutes the main message of the book.

Also, stereotyping the sexes can lead to polarization and a breakdown in communication. Understanding gender differences is important, but equally important is the acceptance and celebration of our similarities.

The Re-Discovery of Common Sense: A Guide to: The Lost Art of Critical Thinking

Do you have this book on your shelf? If you don't, order it NOW. It will help you put the understanding and FUN back in dating. Gray makes it so clear on how to understand men and women; you don't even know you are learning.

Dating skills seem so obvious once he points them out, but I wish I would have read this book yearsss ago. ~

Order today, you won't regret it!

Merna Throne

Pocket of Pearls: A 30-day pocket workbook to start hearing a softer voice inside of you!

i never learned to date. it's good to have some insight. it's opened my eyes to improving myself as a dater--and i'm seeing the fruits of those improvements.

I hated the book, Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus........... However, this book really seemed right on. Great insight for women on how men think, how men date, when and when not to call and the especially important, "Stage Two: Uncertainty period". Explains why men wait to get involved, etc. If you are baffled about men like I was, this book is worth it's weight in gold.

This author is amazing. His insight from back in the 30's- 50's is really incredible.
A perceptive and great writer. I enjoy his work. This book is very special because it the first one I read of his. I've given this book to many friends.
Highly recommended.

This book was very impressive and I learned a lot about the subject of love and myself. It would be nice if every couple who are deciding to get married would read this book. If they did, perhaps they would understand going in that there is a lot more to it than 'what is in it for me.' Perhaps the sad divorce rate in our country would dissipate some extent. This book belongs on the top shelf with the other books I consider master works. I plan on reading the rest of Fromm's works.

I read Erich Fromm's book many years ago, when I was in college in the late 60s/early 70s. It subtantially changed the way I viewed the world and to today influences what I believe and do.

I just bought a copy of the volume for my daughter who is working her way into adulthood, on the hope that it can help her the way it helped me.

I don't think there is any other work I have recommended to others more in my life and I recommend it to you. It is a short, wise book.

William J. Trinkle----

Fromm makes it clear that love is not some cheap sentiment that we receive or that we become "loveable" to earn love. He makes it clear that no easy cliches will teach us the art of loving. In other words, this is no self-help book packaging easy-to-swallow bromides about love. Rather, Fromm argues we must first eradicate our illogical and inaccurate notions of love in modern society and see that love is not an "object" but a "faculty," a way of being that requires complete transformation of the whole personality. Once he establishes that being loving is a rare achievement, he establishes the theory and practice of love. The theory is rooted in a tragic view of humans, namely, we are lonely and separate and this separateness can only be overcome by love, which requires discipline and patience and of course practice. This small gem of a book has survived and will survive because even though the answers are not easy they are true and universal. An excellent companion to this masterpiece is Viktor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning.

"Most people see the problem of love primarily as that of being loved, rather than that of loving, of one's capacity to love. Hence the problem to them is how to be loved, not how to love." -Eric Fromm, The Art of Loving

I picked up this book by chance at the Miami Dade County Book Fair. I had heard of Fromm briefly in my psychology class, and thought this little book (the actual text not more than 130 pages) would be a great companion to another book I picked up on love in Shakespeare's plays. Judging by his background psychology, I prepared myself for The Art of Loving to turn out like many other psychoanalytic books tend to be: a small book that would take an unimaginable amount of time to read. However, it was quite the contrary; what I encountered in this small book was an eye-opening experienced that made me aware of both my accomplishments and my failures in life. I found myself reading the book from cover to cover, flipping it over and starting again.

As I read (and reread) the book felt like Fromm was talking directly to me, as if he and I were sitting down and having an in-depth conversation on love's role in my life. Fromm touches on all forms of love from parental love, to brotherly (neighborly) love, to erotic love, to love of God, and to self love, which he specifically explains is very different from narcissism. He speaks of the problem in the Western world's concept of love as a temporary gratification and a purely selfish act and discusses how to rectify it by attempting to invert what is seen and practiced in the world by learning to live in love, hinging it on the art of giving of oneself.

However, do not expect, as Fromm states in the first section of this book, that you will find a step by step guide on `how to love'. This book is more of an awareness of what love is and how humanity does not love. It very much reveals yourself to yourself, and shows you how love is verb not a noun (thus an art and not a name). It is something you have to do constantly, not wait for it to come to you. As Fromm says, "What are the necessary steps in learning any art? One, mastery of the theory; two, mastery of the practice." For Fromm love is the answer to human existence and one must first learn to love oneself before he can attempt to love others. It is a self-changing experience.

This book has changed the way I see myself and the way that I see everyone. One of the most valuable books I have read. It was not what I expected, but turned out to be better. It's not a black and white, Q&A self help book. Nor does it speak of technique or 'Cosmopolitan'sex tips, etc. It is real. And deep. It is about deep, spiritual love and how to allow it.

Gosh, I am not going to use the f-word here, but I am one of "those" women. I still happen to have a working-brain, which has not been destroyed by addiction or oppression. That's saying a helluva lot! I have spent most my life living among a diverse crowd of personalities who were not just white, not just male or female, but Native American, African American, Hispanic, Latino, Asian, Indonesian, Gay, Lesbian, Transexual, Transvestite; Disabled, Bipolar, rich, educated, and poor and homeless. You name it. The world is becoming a smaller place where racism and sexism are still very happily-alive: No Thank You. Sensuous or no, most people are still discriminating against one another and the opposite sex, by our personal biases and SURFACE evaluations of one another. Why add to that? ANYONE can penetrate, or be penetrated. I applaud any female who manages to get happily-penetrated on a regular basis. Good for you! But as far as these writings go? I'm not impressed, and I think our needs are as basic as any man's. Albeit we do freak out about birth control (no mention of that here.) I feel this book only promotes sexism - so I tossed it. I agree with the reviewer who noted there is not much in this book to condone true healing in one's relationship, BUT... There DOES exist a lot of projection on Deida's part (which creeped me out). Mr. Deida, I would suggest you spend the night in bed with a guy, sometime! (After perusing this book, I think you might like it!)

For me, David Deida unfortunately has some of the qualities of the children's story "The Emperor's New Clothes". There are two reasons why.

The first simply is there are large claims made to what his insights will bring. All his books promise to "guide" us into deeper spiritual understandings in the sexual realm. (And seriously, who wouldn't want that, right?)

The second "new-clothesian" quality of Deida has to do with his form of discourse. The thing about his presentation is, there are copious amounts of spiritual beauty backed up by an subtle but constant wash of judgementalism. The structure goes sort of like this: "you want this, you don't have it, I know why you don't, here is what you need to do."
But what if one does not totally agree with any of these "stepping stones" to understanding? The answer always seems to be that "you are not open enough yet to see it". "There is some blocking element in you".

Very little of his metaphoric insights about "gender" or "essence" or most any of his ideas for that matter, are ever presented as "one can think of it this way" but rather as "this is how it is". He states every belief he has about sexual spirituality with what I consider a totally unwarranted confidence.

And he has a system of "stages of growth" to pigeon-hole "where you are stuck".
So yes, of course, I want to "get it". Yes, of course, I want to have the deep blissful place that is "my potential". Yes, I really am wanting to "see the emperor's beautiful clothing!"

But honestly, while he earnestly and often eloquently gives gifts of insight into the subject, he also is rigid, arrogant, patently condescending, and as a writer, can be deadly dull and repetitive. Most of his core "beliefs" are for me painfully flawed. After reading this book, all I could think was, he really does not have much insight into the depth of the feminine essence nor a "feel for" life as a woman.

I would never recommend this book to anyone.

Oh, hell no. Deida is a clueless tool and this book is misogynistic tripe. Pass it on by.

Dear Lover helped me to understand the yearning I've felt since I've been in my teens. Interesting material for women to get in touch with their own sexuality and needs--probably good reference for males to understand women as well.

After receiving devastaing news about my long-time boyfriend, I decided to purchase Hope After Betrayal for two reasons. One, I needed a Christian perspective, and two, I wanted an addict's perspective - Meg's recovering husband wrote the last chapter.

Hope After Betrayal encourages spiritual growth through faith, forgiveness, and grace. Meg has wonderfully explained the sometimes difficult task of staying focused on God by using descriptive and memorable images.

Most importantly, Meg describes what sexual addiction is and how it controls the one you love.

A must read for those of you wanting some peace after betrayal in your relationship.

This was an extremely helpful book to read - full of hope and inspiration for women in a marriage with a sex addict.

Meg Wilson's "Hope after Betrayal" is written in a way that any reader can understand the intent of the book. It is real. It is loving. It is insightful. It is a great resource. If you or anyone you know has a loved one engulfed in sexual addiction, make Meg's book THE book to read for help that goes beyond the norm.

While this book makes some interesting points and has some good ideas for working towards healing I had a tremendously difficult time identifying with it because of how heavily it relies on the Christian faith. I am not a Christian and eventually had to stop reading the book because almost every page makes mention of Christ, Jesus, The Lord Jesus Christ and as a non-Christian it was distracting and difficult to take in the book. I am certainly not offended by this. However it is as much a theme of the book as sex addiction is and it just made the book completely unrelatable. Many other sexual addition books I have read, all actually, talk about a higher power which makes up a very important part of recovery and I embrace that wholeheartedly.

Meg is quick to point out that sexual addiction isn't about sex, and a sexual addict isn't just the guy you see on "To Catch A Predator." Sexual addiction has quite possibly visited the guy in the cubicle next to you at work or the pastor in your pulpit. Meg's book is about the redemption and restoration of a woman's heart that's been torn to pieces by her husband's bad choices. If you or anyone you know has been hurt by her husband's repeated use of pornography or other sexual activity, I would encourage you to take a look at Hope After Betrayal. One of the most amazing things about the book was that Meg's husband, Dave, wrote the last chapter. He encourages women that their husband's battle is truly his battle - and Dave gives these women permission to stop enabling. Hope After Betrayal is a powerful testimony of what hard work and the love of God can accomplish in a marriage when two people are willing to walk through the fire to reach for the purest gold.

My fiance and I are going through this book before we get married, and its been alot of help. We're learning a few new things about each other, but mostly it is getting us talking about our views and what we want for the future.

This book is really great. It asks questions that we wouldn't normally think of and gave us alot of insight to one another and they are serious questions that every couple should ask one another. It has really helped us communicate about some serious subjects. Thanks!

I love this book! My fiance and I went through it and it's taken us over a year to complete it, but we're talkers. It gave us a great opportunity to share information about ourselves that we might not have thought of or that we might have been reluctant to bring up on our own. In other words, it's a great vehicle for meaningful conversation and exploration. I'm a psychologist and I recommend this book to couples (married or not) to help with existing issues or to proactively address many questions that come up naturally in relationships. I even bought it for my brother and his girlfriend. It will make you think about what you really want in a relationship.

This book of 1001 questions steps you through the inquiries all couples should discuss before walking down the aisle. Whether it is asking questions relating to the past, significant others (which many couples do not care to banter about), personal perspectives, or daily routines - author Monica Mendez Leahy understands the foundational essence of talking through these subjects.

You and your spouse-to-be have probably discussed a few of the run-of-the-mill questions contained in this book (e.g., Do you want children?). However, many of the chapters pinpoint pet-peeves, how often you like to dine out, what your stance is on separate vacations, and your reaction to tough times. Many chapters end by offering thoughts on the answers each of you gave and urges reconciliation where differences were unearthed.

This book should not be purchased with dread, but should be viewed as an opportunity to enrich your relationship and learn more about the person you love. It is a must-read for any couple even throwing around the idea of marriage and it also is terrific for pastors and pre-marital counselors who are looking to toss in a few a-typical questions for couples.

I really hope that if you are getting married, you have discussed most of the topics in this book before. If not, then the book should be helpful...but you might also reconsider getting married if these things haven't been discussed. There are a few topics that aren't obvious to discuss and if the book prompts that discussion, then it has done its job.

The stories in this wonderful collection by great writers are what every woman, no matter her age or ethnic background, needs. You will laugh, cry and cheer for these women and find yourself in pieces of each beautifully crafted tale. Bravo! This is a book filled with both heart and humor. You can't beat the combo.