Sex Relationships Books

i am looking for a great guy period and while the title says black guy these tips are universal! it is all about inner peace and knowledge and being bold enough to go after what you want. the book is funny as hell and well worth a happy hour discussion with your girls. ladawn has been through it all and she gets it -- love should be fun, passionate, satisfying and at times funny.

I am not a big fan of Relationship help books. They tend to pacify the readers, and are very predictable. This book written by Ms.Black offers a different spin on relationships advice, it points out how we must possess the same qualities that we are requiring in a mate. It has precise points, and a mechanism for positive and eteneral change for women's attitudes and attributes.

Ms. Black writes in a forthright, down-to-earth manner. It is refreshing to read a book that gets to the point without "educational" pontification which makes one decipher what is being discussed.

Women, we have issues. Women, we can deal with them armed with the stuff of publications like this.

I love how simple and easy this book is to read and comprehend. I've bought several copies for a few of my girlfriends. LaDawn breaks down these truths to the simplest forms and debunks the myths that society and the media has gotten women to buy into. I deifinitely look forward to reading her others books.

In this little black book, LaDawn enlightens African American sisters on finding a quality black man and keeping him. It is a realistic relationship guide that teaches the reader how to be the kind of person who will attract the man that you deserve. It is full of personal anecdotes and scenarios from a variety of sisters that will make you laugh, but these stories are oh so real! In this handy little "up-in-your-face," "sister-girl" book, you will learn how to let go of the past and stop dating unavailable men, as well as learn to date outside the box and make your relationship a top priority. This book does teach you how to land the very best black man--for you!

I read this book in a single sitting! And laughed SO hard. The authors get what you're going through, give excellent advice, and bust your gut. It's the perfect prescription for the blues.

When you pick up this book, you certainly know what you're getting. It's entertaining and comforting though not entirely earthshattering. I found this book to give some good pointers in dealing with your "IGBN" friends and found an interesting statistic: 88% of people marry at least once in their life. Obviously if there's a book on this topic......well then I'm not the only one!

This book is hilarious!! I laughed on just about every page! It is sooo true and sooo funny. I really enjoyed this book and related to it to a "T". I am 25 and caught in the middle of the bridal wave and this book really tells it like it is and gives great ideas that help get through these times....and makes it seem not so bad because there is a better way to handle this situation. This book is great for any single who feels that everyone around her is getting married but her and that she feels like shes being picked last for the kickball team, or someone in a relationship that is chomping at the bit waiting for her boyfriend to propose while watching her friends "flash the ice" and make that trip down the isle. I LOVED reading this and I think everyone else will too!!

Well I happen to be friends with one of the authors' "current boyfriend" mentioned in the book. I bought it mostly to support her but I figured I might as well read it so I could come up with something nice to say about it. This is not the kind of book I would normally pick up. I thought it would be kind of...you know...self help book for the twenty/thirty something single girl. But I started to read it and I could not put it down. It was well written, funny, sarcastic, didn't take itself too seriously, and an amazingly apt description of what is happening to my group of girlfriends right now. I bought copies for my remaining three unmarried friends. Yes, there are only three (plus me), and that's from two different social circles. I thought this book was fantastic and I really appreciate having it around right now. It has provided some much needed perspective during a somewhat rough time in my life. Reading it, I feel like I know the authors and I really really like them. Every woman going through a "bridal wave" should have this book as a reminder that you aren't the only one out there not getting married. I would also recommend this book to those women who ARE making the choice to wed...it gives a nice perspective of both sides and has the potential to save a lot of valuable friendships.

This book was excellent; I just went through all this with my best friend a few months ago and it really put into perspective what I've been going through. I was really missing our old friendship and feeling sorry for me: why am I not married/in a serious relationship, etc. It made me look at things on a much more positive side. Besides that, the anecdotes are wonderful! I got it from the library but it made me feel so good and had such great advice for getting through this with your dignity intact and without winging out at the reception! that I am going to buy my own copy!!

The title says it all, "when someone you love." It's written with love, for people who love and want to understand those they love. I've owned a copy for years and regularly give it to friends, when they're trying to understand an unfamiliar side of their loved ones. A gentle, generous book about communicating in a terrifying situation.

Being new to exploring our sexual preferences and desires, we got this book as most of the reviews said it was a good, basic introduction to the world of kink for beginners. This is true. We appreciated the factual information and the way the authors are able to relate the love of certain behaviors to more commonly accepted activities. For example, relating the physical pain and pleasure someone experiences when playing intense sports to the similar enjoyment someone gets out of being flogged. While we are not interested in flogging, it did help us understand why someone would enjoy that.

That being said, we found the tone of the book to be a bit patronizing. While we are new to exploring the world of kink, we are not some freaked out person on a ledge that needs to be soothed and talked down. The authors repeatedly give the reader permission to feel uncomfortable with the subject matter, which may be good for the person that was given this book because someone they love is kinky and they are completely aghast at this revelation, but, for us, we were really put off by this.

So, we found a third of the book to be useful. If you are someone that is really shocked and upset at a loved one's revelations, then I would suggest you read this book, as it really uses kid gloves and gentle talk to introduce you to the kinky world. If you are someone that is not completely upset or freaked, then I would think there would be better books out there that provide the same insight this book provides without the patronizing tone.

I bought this book to give to my sister. I ended up buying a second copy to keep for myself.
I don't think any book can be a substitute for an honest, thoughtful conversation, but this book certainly helps with those difficult questions that come up. It is very honest but gentle. It is easy to read, and full of compassion for both the nonkinky reader and the kinky person.
The surprise for me was how much I appreciated the book for myself. It includes a number of "coming out" letters the authors collected--letters kinky people wrote and wished they dared to send to their families and friends. Some of these were deeply touching.
There is such a sense of dignity and honesty in this book, it kept reminding me of reasons why being kinky person is something to be proud of. I ended up holding my head a little higher, feeling a little more confident and comfortable with myself.
And my sister loved the book too!

Discussing alternative and controversial sexualities is the raison detre of Greenery Press. This one goes further by directly addressing those not already in the choir (whether in or out of the closet). What a challenge! Even the authors acknowledge that they're so immersed in kink culture that they've lost a certain amount of objectivity.
The chapters follow the classic recipe for a successful scene: start slower than slow, lighter than light, and build up from there. A gentle introduction is followed by a check-in, with reminders to breathe and relax. Terms are defined, practices are described, and safety issues are given high priority. For the reader left wanting more, there's a resources guide.
Keeping in mind the reactionary skepticism I felt when one of my friends joined a religious cult, I wondered how effective this book would be in soothing a non-kinkster. Some of the more explicit passages - such as a lighthearted description of a birthday kidnapping orgy - might have Aunt Matilda calling for the funny wagon. This book would best be preceded by some deep heart-to-heart conversations between the loved ones, rather than offered as the initial coming out gesture. Perhaps it doesn't need saying, but I would recommend that the person coming out would benefit by reading the entire thing before offering it to Dad. Which brings me to an important point.
Easton and Liszt specifically address family, friends, mates, and health practitioners throughout the book. An unexpected side-effect was that I - an emerging-from-the-closet kinkster - found a deeper understanding and acceptance of myself and my desires. This could be the best BDSM introduction yet.

When I first started in Bondage some 20+ years ago, this was a very sensitive subject. Even today, in 2002, some people feel that bondage is for homosexuals and weirdos.So if you are having a hard time explaining your passion to friends and relatives, read this book it will help.There are better books on bondage though. Sm 101 by Jay Wiseman is one of the very best. Erotic Bondage by Wiseman is also excellent.Celebrate Life -

All I'll say is, this purchase was/is well worth it. You won't need any artificial drugs, just this book, your imagination and a willing partner. You both win!

I like books about sex that are helpful and exciting. But I also like insights into human nature and not just the obvious visceral activity. This book is plenty smart going deeply into why we are the way we are and not just the what. It had me saying Ah-Ha as much as it had me saying Oooo, cool

I do not normally review more than one book by the same author, unless there is a really good reason for doing so. In the case of Sex and the Erotic Lover there is.

This book is a wonderful complement to her earlier Sex and the Perfect Lover and the more recent The Love Diet. What I really like about her work, and why I recommend it so whole heartedly, is that in all three books Mabel has demonstrated that she sees pleasure, sensuality, sexuality and spirituality as a seamless whole. There is no reason at all why things that are enlightening and enlivening should not also be fun. Having unselfconscious fun and being able to laugh at ourselves are sure signs that we are on the right road toward getting our life in order.

So many sexual problems are the result not of physical difficulties, but of energy and fatigue, attitude, expectation, upbringing and needless guilt. Of course, that is not the whole list, but it covers the lion's share of the issues that can cause much needless unhappiness. And Mabel has some good advice on how to deal with them.

As an indication of some of the material in the book, and Mabel's approach, she has a list of "Ten Revelations for Being Happy." You can read the whole list in the book, but in short, they are:
1. Faith
2. Attitude
3. Exercise
4. Live for the here and now
5. Goals
6. Smiling
7. Forgiveness
8. Gratitude
9. Relationships
10. Love

That looks like a pretty good start!

This book, like her others, is highly recommended.

This book is a clear, systematic and organized approach. Mabel Iam helps with this book many couples become better lovers that prevents true insights and emotions to develop a real relationship.

Mabel Iam is an author unlimited fervent about love, sex and spiritual grow. You can tell and feel these characteristics in all her books.
"Sex and the erotic lover and Sex and the perfect lover and the kamasutra" have helped me and my girlfriend. Its tips are easy to follow with her recommendations to experience pleasures together and reach orgasm at the same time. NOW, we are happier and more confident couple.

This book is very good in helping you understand yourself better. Great book if you are in a relationship or not...Enlightning..She has many exercises which will help you tremendously.

I love all of Laura Days books and I have read them all. I find them all to be helpful and I really enjoyed this book. I highly recommend it. Weather you are single and looking or in a relationship with someone even if you are happy in your relationship I would recommend this book. I found it really useful. The only thing is that in some exercises she tells you to take a few days to work on so if you are busy it might not be so great for you but otherwise I found it an easy read and I really enjoy the exercises in the book. Also even if you are a man I recommend this book it's for males and females so dont shy away from it and she gives so many examples in the book from both females and males. I've just started to read the one by kathy freston.

When I first picked up this book I had the following flash: A man in an Italian neighborhood, the date July 17, and the image of two childhood loves down the street from one another who eventually separate because the girl's dreams were too big to stay. This was in 2001. In 2004 I reunited with an old neighbor of mine whom I loved as a teenager almost 13 years earlier. He was Italian. He now lived in an ethnic neighborhood. We got together. I landed a dream job in New York City that required me to eventually relocate to California. We separated. July 17 was his wedding date to his former spouse. Two years later, I was 3000 miles away and then was called back East for a few months on a contract. The contract was in the same building that he now worked for. Prediction after prediction came true. We kept meeting up over and over again. My right brain saw it from the get go with my first notes from this book.

I don't know if this was a sample of one potential who could have been the love of my life ... but it certainly was odd how much my subconcious was programmed towards these events. Practical Intuition in Love's excercises revealed some kind of data because the coincidences were startling. These impressions were gained when I was in an emotionally neutral state which is the best for accurate intuitive impressions. There was something to Day's excercises because time, space, distance, have never erased nor cooled my feelings for him. I still love this person nearly two years (at the time of this writing) after my career took me elsewhere. My advice at this time looking back ... get your ego out of the way... if you want true love to stay.

Another good book is: When God Winks on Love

Practical Intuition in Love: Start a Journey Through Pleasure to the Love of Your Life

I consider myself a very intuitive person and I thought I would find this book helpful. However I was unable to follow through. This is an example of one of the exercises: Write down a list of all the positive qualities you think you possess, do not be humble or modest. Send the list with a stamped, addressed envelope to 20 people and invite them to comment "true", "very true", "extremely true" - these are their only choices. Do this once a year. If you are the type of person that enjoys doing these kinds of exercises, then you might get something useful out of this book. I don't argue that the results of the exercise would be useful if only you could bring yourself, and others, to do it. If I could think of 20 people who would still be talking to me after I sent them such a list, I could only anticipate that most of them would add ridiculously funny comments. Mostly I think this list would make my friends squirm at the thought of my own narcissm. The book is centered around self-help exercises, many of which suggest using a friend to help. Some are useful, and some results were surprising, helpful to me. But I can't help thinking I have missed the "big aha" because I would simply not follow through on doing some of the exercises. It also gets rather tedious reading through hundreds of other people's results in doing the exercises. I would rather have something I could work through alone, in the privacy of my own home and my own emotional state of mind!

This will be brief.
Although I like Laura Day's other works,
I found "Practical Intuition in Love" to be very vague, even though I have read it several times. Perhaps it just didn't communicate with me specifically.

A book I prefer, which is similar, is the out-of-print but WONDERFUL "Finding Each Other" by Mary Olsen-Kelly and Don Kelly. You can get it on the internet very inexpensively. Go look for it!

How would you receive a daily inspiration on Love for a lifetime and beyond?

As refreshing as a Spring-time breeze, the author has compiled a beautiful book with daily reflections on the many facets of love in our lives. I have used her sections on a daily basis, by lightly contemplating on the current day's theme. Inner silence and focus on her poetic descriptions has often revealed to me, some amazing and incandescent insights! It has a remarkable healing effect that goes deep into our very essence as Soul.

The diverse and meticulous nature of the prose spanning a whole year of entries is a tribute to the loving heart this writer has. Thank you Daphne, for bringing the passion and meaning of love's many guises to a warm reality and profound practicality in my life. I highly recommend it as a graceful contemplation to open your heart to love in your life.

This book was published in 1992, when I was in my early 20s. I read it from cover to cover repeatedly. It taught me so many good pieces of wisdom. I had forgotten about if for a long time, when I discovered it a few days ago. I love it all over again. Daphne Rose Kingma did a wonderful job of saying alot in a few words. Thank you so much Mrs. Kingma. I will relearn your wisdom from a perspective of being 11 years older. This book is very worth the cost and effort of getting it. I am sure it will teach you new wisdom to.

As a single mother, it is sometimes hard for me to remember to love those who are most important to me, including myself. I use this book to give each day a theme, to remind myself what is important, and to not forget the little things along the way. Daphne Rose Kingma has written a book that is as much a collection of affirmations as it is a daily hug, and who doesn't need a hug each and every day?

I bought this in anticipation of revamping a few techniques. Turns out what's offered in this book is stuff I figured out when I was a teenager. This is good for virgins, but grown women can be better served with another book.

This book takes a light hearted view to making one of lifes joys even more fun. Pleasuring your man cannot be explained any better.

This book explained everything very well and did not sugar coat or beat around the bush. It was friendly and totally supported the idea of giving and recieving oral sex. The techniques presented in this book were well explained and very helpful. The pictures served their purpose in facilitating the explanation of certain body parts. Overall, i enjoyed this book.

This book is, in a word, ABSOLUTELY GREAT!!! SO BUY IT NOW!! It's written by a woman who obviously loves fellatio to the bottom of her soul, and who has developed superlative and awesome technique -- making her a true Grand Master of Fellatio!! Truly mind blowing techniques to add to your oral repretoire! In terms of substantive tips, it beats other books on this subject hands down. It is shorn of nonessential details and distills to essence the art of great fellatio -- and thus gets straight to the point. It makes us want to write a similar book on mind blowing cunnilingus -- so let's find a publisher.

I found this read to be somewhat informative prose wise, entertaining & very informative visually. Ms Taylor does a great job of relaxing the reader, let's face it, many women find giving oral sex repulsive. I know because I do sexual counseling. Having said that, I found a lot of her info a tad boring or repetitive, probably because I have read "Blowing Him Away", "Going Down","The Ultimate Guide To Fellatio" etc. etc.
The fun title definitely caught my eye, & if you are a novice, married 20 years or just plain curious, this is a MUST read! Every woman having sex with a man should know this info & be comfortable performing fellatio, which can be VERY sexually exciting for women!
Yes ladies, you can get extremely aroused with the right mindset & knowledge. This is where I think Ms. Taylor's book has the most importance.She delves into:
1)mental preparation
2)making it fun ie; poprocks
3)giving some tasteful (no pun intended) photos on how to achieve it all, mentally & physically.
Women are, for the most part, taught, "only bad girls do that" or they hear how awful it is from their peers or sisters. We are given thousands of subliminal messages that sex is
a) dirty, especially penises (how many penises do you see in R rated movies?)
b) messy,
c) inconvenient, but most of all....
d) a natural thing. Therefore we don't feel it necessary to read a book on sex, I mean, It's "natural" right? GO READ THIS BOOK & learn about good sex. Let me end by adding, one of the later photos shows the woman lying down, head back & the penis entering from above (deep throating). This excellent technique originated from Linda Lovelace & no,not all women who go down, deep throat, you do what is comfortable but don't limit yourself either. Regarding swallowing...99% of the time he won't even know whether you did or didn't, he is too absorbed into the wonderful orgasm you have given him (keep a towel handy). MY fun tip of the day, (I can't recall if this was in the book) get a hot cup of tea or coffee, swish it in your mouth a few seconds & drive him crazy, several times. Have fun ladies, I mean that....& you will after reading this book.

This book is highly interesting, informative, organized and educational. The title says the book is a guide for parents, however, I found the book to be most rewarding as a Health Education major. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, and family friends should even get their hands on this book... you never know what questions may pop up about sex and relationships! The book's goal is to break the uneasiness, and sometimes embarassing or awkward moments of educating your children about life's issues. It was extremely easy to understand and very real to life. The authors themselves have their own family so they talk from their hearts as "real" parents. They cover everything from initiating converstion to sexual development and sexual orientation. The Mirons took great concern considering the different lifestyles, beliefs, and morals of each individual circumstance and family. The book has two sections called, "Try This" & "Just the Facts." They provide alternative ideas to aid in the education process and important statistics parents may not know. The book has very few faults and has better prepared me for when I start to teach. It has greatly boosted my confidence level and I am sure to hold onto the book both as a reference and as guidance. Take a look for yourself, I promise you that it will not be a waste of time!

Whenever the topic of talking about sex and sexuality with our children comes up, I share this title. The book is written for parents (or other adults). Of course it covers sex, but it does also talk about love and relationships and their connection to sex.

Four aspects of this book that are invaluable are:

* It's written to help each adult examine his/her own attitudes about each topic, and to understand those of their partner as well.

*It provides great language for explaining and discussing different aspects of intimacy, sexuality, love, and the like.

*It provides great communication advice that goes well beyond the topic at hand.

*The authors have provided poll data to help parents understand what aspects of sexual knowledge and attitudes have changed with this generation, research findings about STDs, pregnancy, abstinence education--you name it. They don't advocate a particular point of view but they arm the reader with information so that the reader is able to see past his/her own experiences as teens learning about sexuality, sex, and love.

Anyone with a child over age 8 should have this book and start reading it, because you're gonna need it much sooner than you think...

I like the author, she doesn't an excellent job teaching kids and young adults about abstanence. A bit over simplified for a sophisticated audience, ideal for people 13-24. For people 25+ I would suggest:
"Unprotected: A Campus Psychiatrist Reveals How Political Correctness in Her Profession Endangers Every Student"

This book is really great-- Its so up front and easy to read and understand. Its full of the truth, with nothing held back. It explains every "std" and it anwsers all the questions we don't talk about.
Lakita has been a great role model and has done a great job of making this book a tool for parents and church workers and interesting enough for young people.
I would like to encourage you to get this book and buy one for another family ---and for your church group as well.
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Garth is a nationally renowned speaker about abstinence, and her book, The Naked Truth, speaks to teens about abstinence from sexual activity prior to marriage. She is a Christian who was raised in a healthy, strong environment where strict morals were taught to her and her brothers.

The book deals with the various types of sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy and emotional issues that can occur when you have pre-marital sex with someone. Saving yourself for marriage is something Garth did. But she doesn't specify exactly what abstinence means. In other words, at what point is it okay to kiss your significant other.

Littered with Biblical quotes, and some of Garth's experiences dealing with Senate members, pepper her book. Her stories are bleak about what having pre-marital sex can do to you. However, her writing is about an eighth-grade level and some of her audience should be college students, but college students may not relate to this book. Her vernacular and street talk, including giving nicknames to STDs, may turn off an older audience.

Garth explains that self-control, self-discipline, and delayed gratification are essential to living an abstinent lifestyle in our current sexually saturated culture through television, video games, magazines and peers. She stands behind her principles, but also stresses that controlling yourself isn't just beneficial for sexual abstinence, but also for you to achieve your personal goals.

An excellent book for parents to get a handle on the latest statistics about STDs and what they are, as well as help them understand their teens.

Armchair Interviews says: Teenagers are the main audience and this book is a must read for teens thinking about having sex--before they have it.

Instead of writing another book of advice on what to do to KEEP your guy or gal, Stein writes a tongue in cheek book on how to drive your prospective lover or mate away. By doing so, he underlines the fact that you should clearly do the opposite of following his advice if you want to find romance- and does so humorously.
The information he provides seems as though it SHOULD be second nature but it apparently isn't, since so many people keep making the same mistakes. So Stein suggests they use certain tactics to GUARANTEE they'll keep people at a distance - talk too much about themselves, be interested in marrying only for money, be overdramatic, pick fights when things get too calm, etc. You get the point. This book is such a quick read that you could probably browse through it in the bookstore in less than an hour... but you might want to buy a copy for that friend (and everyone knows one) who keeps making the same romantic mistakes over and over. Or just buy a copy and leave it on your coffee table. I guarantee people won't be able to resist looking through it.

It's witty, funny, and accurate! Now I understand why my ex is still single at 42, and why I couldn't put up with that relationship anymore. My ex was very proficient when it came to doing all that this book says you shouldn't do. Following all this rules helped her to ruin her love life. And somehow that helped me to realize that there are some kind of people that I don't want to be with at all. You also learn by being on the other side of the one person that follows these rules.

Ben Stein is one of those rare Renaissance men who seem to be able to put their talents to any task and do a good or better result. This Book is one of his better efforts! Unfortunetly, it won't be read by those folks who need it the most! (Not that I am any paragon of virtue myself.)Bless you Ben and save Ferris!

In this book, Ben Stein reviews many of the things we always knew were unattractive in a prospective or current mate or lover. They're in a lot of movies about romance. We see the behavior in others and shake our heads. And as we read this little book, we nod and say, "I knew that." So if we already know all this, why read the book?

We should read this book now and every so often just to remind ourselves of the behaviors that could kill our romance. It's like holding up a mirror and really taking a look at ourselves. All of us can see in others what we can't see in ourselves, even when the behavior is as obvious as pointing out our lover's imperfections in front of his friends. Or when it's a bit more obscure, such as overdramatizing everything. When you read about people who talk about themselves exclusively, don't you just want to shake them and say, "Wake up"? Well, consider this a wakeup call.

Stein's telling of the behavior in a reverse psychology form helps to clarify and isolate the behavior. It's different from saying "thou shalt not," possibly seeming sillier to some, but even viewing his style in that way can make what he says more immediate.

Readers may not find this pleasant reading, but most will surely find it thought provoking. And those who are interested in the subject might also enjoy "He's Just Not that Into You" or even "Sex and the City."

... everyone is born on an even playing field, and a chirpy, positive mental attitude combined with advanced degrees automatically = big money & nice cars (which seem to be Mr. Stein's definition of success). Mr. Stein, tell that to the people I know who have Ph.D.'s from prestigious institutions, but who work for $6.00 an hour because they weren't born with the right knobby connections that obviously surrounded you from the time you first drew breath.

In a man's world, "real-world" examples in self-help books for women always include references to "making their husband a home-cooked meal for the first time in ages" and "cleaning the house", while the examples for men contain references to "doing yard work" and "working extra hours on the job."

I have to say that I was a bit surprised to find the anti-working class, anti-female bias in this book, but I was actually flabbergasted to see Mr. Stein's childish blasts against vegetarians.

Because Mr. Stein is a household pet rescuer, I find it bizarre that he hates vegetarians so much and thinks that we should be chowing down on veal (in order to not appear "holier-than-thou"??) if it is offered to us at our friends' houses. Excuse me, but all of the vegetarians I know (including myself) are the most discreet people on earth when it comes to not eating meat and would not dream of even disclosing that we are vegetarians if we are guests somewhere; preferring to come up with some polite excuse not to eat the dish served or to simply say nothing at all and push the food around the plate to make it seem like we did indeed eat. In fact, we often find *ourselves* on the receiving end of unprovoked "holier-than-thou" verbal attacks from anti-vegetarian people such as Mr. Stein as our intelligence, personalities, and very souls are attacked by people who are very defensive about vegetarianism for some reason.

The fact that there are more female vegetarians than male vegetarians and the fact that being vegetarian is seen as a "feminine" characteristic in our society surely added fuel to Mr. Stein's petulant fire.

In a man's world, this is a great book. In my world -- it's not.